One child in private school/one in state

VickyA_2

sticher wrote:

I would imagine another thing to consider with a private school is that many of the children would come from wealthy backgrounds and would therefore be used to doing/buying expensive things - would a child from a less wealthy background feel this difference? I know a friend of mine said she did and so didn't mix with the others as much as she might have done.

I went to a private boarding school, which my parents sacrificed alot of things for. Although there were those children who were evidently from well off families, it didn't really show in friendships at all. The school was, and still is, more of a "family" atmosphere where everyone, irrespective of background, just seemed to get on together. The only thing that was very different about us was where we came from in the country!

fiobee

Here's my tuppence worth... My younger sister went to a private secondary school for 6 years. I went to the same school for 1 year (sixth form). I have no resentment towards her and am proud of her achievements. At 10-12 you do actually know what kind of grades you get and how wealthy your family is. My hubby is one of 4 brothers and they all went to various different schools; private, public and state. They have no issue with this either. I don't see any problem with sending kids to different schools. Just choose the most appropriate school for each child, based on your circumstances at the time. The best choice is not always a private/public school but that doesn't mean you shouldn't consider it.

culpepper

Will the older daughter blame the fact that you couldnt send the younger and so she was not allowed to go? In effect putting the blame on her sister?
I think if it was me , I would let the older try for the bursary and if she wins it ,send her . However I would stress that there is no guarantee she will pass and it is down to her own hard work and determination not the fact that she is a ministers daughter.
The younger daughter can always be entered for the exam when it is her turn which would be the same treatment the older daughter got and so seen as fair.