22 Months to DF-Day - The Race is On!

clearmydebts

tirlittan wrote: »

I think nagging helps and I might have to have a look into it. The problem is, it helps but it doesn't resolve the problem, which is that my work is unfulfilling and I've kind of fallen down this road that I don't want to go down anymore...how come some people just know what they want to do?

But thanks CMD, and bare with me, I'll get there someday I guess.

Some people are just lucky I think! Maybe you should look at part-time evening courses for next september. It also sounds like you might need a bit of life coaching. SavingH might be able to help you out with that and give you some advice to send you in the right direction. What would you like to do workwise?

tirlittan

I do think I definitely need some life coaching, otherwise I never will get anywhere. What do I want to do? Something interesting, either creative or working with people, preferably maybe not in an office, but I like my evenings and weekends free so 9-5 job sounds good to me. Office would be fine if there's more interaction. Or otherwise, something you earn loads, but is boring but still 9-5.:)

clearmydebts

tirlittan wrote: »

I do think I definitely need some life coaching, otherwise I never will get anywhere. What do I want to do? Something interesting, either creative or working with people, preferably maybe not in an office, but I like my evenings and weekends free so 9-5 job sounds good to me. Office would be fine if there's more interaction. Or otherwise, something you earn loads, but is boring but still 9-5.:)

I defo think SavingH will be able to give you some advice. Maybe some admin work in a charity/voluntary organisation? I know lots of people who have started off as admin and then become an info worker or project worker through that?

clearmydebts

How are you feeling today?

savingholmes

CMD thanks for all the positive references to me - lovely to read

Tirl send me a pm - I could probably offer you a couple of sessions free... After that would need to be paid something at least! Not sure I will qualify for job seekers this time as I resigned and my job officially finishes Tuesday or Wednsday next week. 2 sessions might be enough to at least give you a kick start....

Hope you are okay.

clearmydebts

How did Ireland go Tirlittan? Hope you had a ball on Paddy's Day & at your OH's gran's party!

tirlittan

Hey peeps. Will tell you all about Ireland later, but must get some food in me, I'm starving!!!

tirlittan

I treated myself today. I finally bought GHD's, second hand off ebay. I didn't really spend any money though as I won some concert tickets, realised I couldn't attend and sold them and am still £7.50 up. Part of me thinks I should've paid that money off cc, but then I never get to treat myself to stuff I want/or need so it's a nice change.

tirlittan

I think we're going to split up tomorrow...
As there was no indication of him saying when he wanted to see me this week after spending Monday night at his after coming back, I emailed him yesterday asking him if he wanted to see me. He send email back saying he could come after gym. I cooked, we watched a film, he was very unresponsive (physically) and I just couldn't be asked so we hardly talked, touched or anything. He went home after cos he'd come straight from work and had nothing with him for today. Earlier in the week I asked if he'd help me move furniture in my room at the weekend so he's coming to do that tomorrow, but normally I would've probably gone to his tonight. But I haven't been asked. And after last night I just have this feeling that he's given up as well and maybe realises/thinks he can't give what I want.I still bloody love him though and don't really want to let go.But if it's not right it's not right.

clearmydebts

tirlittan wrote: »

I think we're going to split up tomorrow...
As there was no indication of him saying when he wanted to see me this week after spending Monday night at his after coming back, I emailed him yesterday asking him if he wanted to see me. He send email back saying he could come after gym. I cooked, we watched a film, he was very unresponsive (physically) and I just couldn't be asked so we hardly talked, touched or anything. He went home after cos he'd come straight from work and had nothing with him for today. Earlier in the week I asked if he'd help me move furniture in my room at the weekend so he's coming to do that tomorrow, but normally I would've probably gone to his tonight. But I haven't been asked. And after last night I just have this feeling that he's given up as well and maybe realises/thinks he can't give what I want.I still bloody love him though and don't really want to let go.But if it's not right it's not right.

Big hug to you.

All I can say is that you deserve to have someone love you as much as you love them. You have been with your OH for quite a while now and he should be able to say the magic words to you.

I hope you are okay. I have been through a break up (that I instigated) where I still loved the other person and it was tough but you will get through it.