MSE Parents Club Part 9

Fitzio

jax66 wrote: »

Hi there, my niece is expecting valentines day, i'm making up a bag for the hospital as a gift. It has been over 20 years since i had a baby and i haven't a clue what to put in it. Do they still supply formula, nappies etc or do you take that in with you. Can you buy tablets to take the milk away. Any advice and suggestions would be gratefully appreciated. Ps if all goes well how long are you normally in hospital for.

Hi Jax,

I think that if it's her first, she might be in for 2 nights, but theoretically she could be out 12 hours after giving birth. I ended up in for 4 days though.
Does she know you are making the bag as a gift? If not, it is likely she will have organised everything for her hospital bag already as there are lists everywhere advising what to take! My hospital did supply nappies and ready made formula (although breastfeeding is heavily encouraged).

If she knows you are making up a bag, I would say maybe some mini toiletries, vaseline for dry lips, handcream, socks/new slippers, vests/babyrows for baby, a magazine, maternity pads etc.

Not sure if this is much help!

ladybirdintheuk

One last question before we go out - Izzy's room leader at nursery is about to go on maternity leave, and I want to make her a card with Izzy, but I'm not sure what to do. We normally leave the messy play to her! I'm contemplating getting some poster paints and doing some hand prints or something, but any other ideas?

searching_me

just a little lady ...

he was expecting about £120 but they get comission as well being down £20 ish would could be explained by it bein split but what about the comission x

Fitzio

GISI - you asked me about KIT days yesterday. I had initially thought about them, but not sure it's worth my while. I get 6 months full pay, so not really any financial reason to do them during that time. I thought I would care about work and want to keep in the loop, but I still meet up with people, and the guy who is doing my job whilst I am off sends me regular texts and e-mails keeping me up to date (and having a moan about stuff and wondering why he took my thankless job on!! ha ha). I feel I am in no rush to go back and am much more maternal than I would have thought and would love to be a SAHM for a couple of years (but no chance of that!).

On this subject, would anyone mind posting how much they pay for childcare for a full day? I know it will vary in different areas and the type of care and what's included, but everyone I know here uses family so I have very little idea of costs. I need to see if I can afford to go part time.

Also, I have never had benefits before and I think I might get WTC but nothing else. Is there an optimum amount of hours that you should work when part time or does it have little effect on the amount of TC you get e.g. is there any benefits benefit of working 16 hours rather than 21 or is it solely my salary that would be make the difference to my finances? I earn a reasonable wage.

Sorry for all the questions. Feel free to ignore, but any advice would be appreciated. Off to get ready now so will catch up later. x

elle_gee

:rolleyes: Why, when I say I'm free on Wednesdays, does my colleague txt me this morning and ask if I'm free to meet up today (to talk about the possible new job, so it is a conversation I do want to have asap)?! :cool:

3onitsway

Fitz- our nursery was £30 a day including three meals if needed, but not including bottles/nappies/wipes etc.

Have you tried entitled too?, or the online tax credits calculator?.

You need to work 16 hrs pw minimum, and I think you get a bonus on tax credits for working over 30 hours.

Because of OH chaning his job to a much better paid one, and my job being part-time and term-time - it worked out for us that we'd be over the tax credits limit and my wage would be paying for nursery - which is why for the moment i'm lucky enough to be a sahm.

BeenieCat

Fitz it's about £30 per day here on average

In my experience, it would be your extra wages that would make the difference from 16hrs to 21hrs. Unless you went up to 30hrs and then you'd get a 30 hour element of WTC.

I was working 25 hours, but discovered that working an extra hour per day meant i'd be about £200 a month better off :eek: because of the WTC. So i went up to 30, of course

edit - oops i was too slow Also, if you'd be entitled to much childcare costs with tax creds, that would be lowered the more you earn if i remember correctly. Like when i was working 16hrs i was entitled to the full 70% help. I only increased my hours when he started school.

Glamazon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Can I ask a cheeky question?

If you are interested in BLW why don't you just wait a while and do it when he is ready? I think I missed why you started on purees

You don't have to answer and I am not criticising.

I think what I meant was when can I introduce finger food which is what Susan answered.

I wasn't sure what type of weaning I wanted to do but did like the idea of BLW due to it's ease compared to purees. However, due to J feeding every 2-2.5hrs for over a week, waking earlier & earlier each morning, not being satisfied after a bottle, being a real grump all the time (not himself) and at the stage where he can sit up for a little while on his own, putting all his toys in his mouth and being 18 weeks he was past the minimum 17 weeks I decided to start weaning him.

OH and I discusssed it & decided we would try him on some baby rice & baby cereal. Day 6 today and he's like a different person already so I don't regret my decision at all.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY IZZY!!

Mazcabs

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I know SB hated it but another PC member loved it, might have been Maz or one of the 'originals' that don't post anymore (:()

Ended up with cheap one out of Asda ....much better

chopsticks wrote: »

Ladybird, yes, we've signed up to the one we saw on Monday. Her first day isn't until 21st April and the manager just said they'd contact us at the beginning of April to arrange a couple of settling in sessions. Does that sound normal.

They showed us the day book that they fill in too, which looks good. Am impressed that they include all nappies, wipes, sudocrem and formula milk in the price.

Right, off to get dressed.

xxxx

We had a few settling in days as well. You are lucky that they provide nappies etc, we had to supply bottles, formula, nappies and wipes but now Henry is 2 its only wipes and nappies and they do all food and milk.

We pay £35.28 a day but thats from 7 - 5pm.


Ooops i forgot .. HAPPY BIRTHDAY IZZY

feelinggood_2

Morning all. Hope everyone is okay. Hope wages get sorted, birthdays are nice, work meetings sorted soon, babies are happy etc.

Had a bad night last night. Have left message with the care coordinator. Have also emailed local pals service asking about advocacy. Found a pharmacy who will pick up and deliver prescriptions so I can start medication when I decide what is right.