What is a reasonable amount?

Emmajane1987

Someone has said that i need to enter the real world on this thread because i don't agree with paying a 1/3 rent, 1/3 savings and 1/3 spending money. The way it works in my house is that i pay £100 rent pay £100 off on a debt a month and then a £800 a month goes on savings, £190 travel expenses and i have £555 left for spending which also goes towards holidays, xmas present account. The way my mum sees things is that she wants to help me out as much as possible for the future towards saving for a house, having money so i can have children one day and not have to scrip and save then. She is is not in a posistion where she could afford to give me a chunk for a deposit so i will have to save that by myself (like a lot of people as well) as she doesn't want me at home till i'm in my 30s and she doesn't agree with renting either. Obviously if i didn't save as much as i did a month and spent it on chlothes and shoes etc then she would probably have a completly different say on the matter. But i think this works out well for both of us at the moment. If she came into financial difficulties where she needed me to pay more rent then of course i wouldn't i'm not a spoilt brat who just wants to pay £100. Also i do my own washing/ironing (if it needs it) and pick up food when needed if we have run out before the monthly shop. I do know the value of money and realise that when i move out that i was very lucky at home but i also will have the savings to support me.

Kellogs - i think your daughter sounds very different to the way i am and wants an easy ride at home and doesn't really want to be in the real world and pay bills so in this case i would say that put the rent up like other people are saying because she won't realise the value of money and will take advantage. Maybe you could also come to an agreement where she gives you a separate bit of money as well so you can put this in to savings as this will help her out later. Would be good if she could take her own initative to do it though.

Emmajane1987

If she came into financial difficulties where she needed me to pay more rent then of course i wouldn't i'm not a spoilt brat who just wants to pay £100.

By the way i mean "i would pay more" lol.

Brighton_belle

imho there is no question that the backdated maintainance money is totally yours. He should have paid towards her keep. He didn't, you paid it all.
Your daughter's attitute sounds a nightmare and I don't think you should have her to live with you. I can't get my head round the concept of her telling you what she is going to pay and then sulking and refusing to talk.

skintscotslass

jellyhead wrote: »

What's it going to 'cost' you to have her there? If you are a single parent will your council tax 25% discount be lost?

Not if DD is a full time student as we are exempt from paying council tax.

kelloggs36

Brighton_belle wrote: »

imho there is no question that the backdated maintainance money is totally yours. He should have paid towards her keep. He didn't, you paid it all.
Your daughter's attitute sounds a nightmare and I don't think you should have her to live with you. I can't get my head round the concept of her telling you what she is going to pay and then sulking and refusing to talk.

Me neither!!

BitterAndTwisted

Kelloggs, please tell your daughter that her attitude stinks as does her behaviour both towards you and to her debt-situation which she brought upon herself and consequently you cannot see any possibility that you will be able to live together in harmony, therefore she must make her own arrangements either by living with Granny or finding herself a flat-share. Her sense of entitlement is making me very angry and I don't even know her!

specsappeal

Hi all!
Well my DD (19 years old) only works 16 hours a week and earns approx £92 a week. I charge her £25 per week for rent which includes everything. However, if at any point in the future she starts working more than 25 hours a week she will be paying £50 per week for her rent.
The reason for the increase in rent if/when she can get more hours is that i will put half her rent money away secretly so that when she does want to move out i will then be able to give her the saved rent for a deposit.

zzzLazyDaisy

Kellogs, just bear in mind that you have worked hard to build a home that is supposed to be a 'safe haven' for you. How will you feel when your DD has settled herself in your home, treating it like a hotel and you like the hired help? How will you feel when she can't pay her lodgings because she has spent all her money on going out and having holidays, and generally spending on things that you can't afford, while you effectively fund her lifestyle.

How long will it be before she starts borrowing from you, with no intention of paying you back because she feels you 'owe' her?

Please think carefully, you have hard decisions to make, but you sound just a little indimidated by your DD (sorry) and if that's the case, it will only get worse once she has her feet firmly under your table.

System

I rent bills inclusive and that's £268 per month and that doesn't include laundry or food!

I like the idea of the thirds thing, sounds a good way, and as someone else said if she doesn't save she puts half to it.

paddy's_mum

To be honest, it sounds as though both daughter and grandmother need their heads banging together!

Does your mother dislike you so much that she truly thinks it's acceptable to be stirring up trouble for you? In your shoes, I'd be telling her in no uncertain terms to either butt out or take over - fanning the flames of family discord is not to her credit!

Is she not yet wise enough to have learned that most teenagers don't need any help getting a chip on their shoulder!!