What is a reasonable amount?

McKneff

My daughter paid us £60 a month until recently all found. She came into meals cooked, laundry done, everything, she did the vacumming all through on a Saturday. We recently reduced this because she now stays at her partners for 2 nights a week.

None of us want to make a profit out of our children but they do hae to learn that they have to pay their way and to budget accordingly, stand your ground.
Lay down the houserules and tell her she has to stick to them.

sexki11en

Geez Louise! 14 years ago, I paid my mom & dad £100 a month and I knew I had a great deal then!

She's taking the pi$$ and you're a complete fool if you give in. I was eventually kicked out at 17 for taking the pi$$ and lived on the streets for a time, then a hostel for a year. THAT taught me how to appreciate money and a roof over my head, i'll tell you.

Show her my post and then she'll know how easy she has it with you as her mother and maybe won't be so quick to complain.

Bloody kids today! Think the world owes them something!

SK x

neneromanova

McKneff wrote: »

My daughter paid us £60 a month until recently all found. She came into meals cooked, laundry done, everything, she did the vacumming all through on a Saturday. We recently reduced this because she now stays at her partners for 2 nights a week.

None of us want to make a profit out of our children but they do hae to learn that they have to pay their way and to budget accordingly, stand your ground.
Lay down the houserules and tell her she has to stick to them.

£60 a MONTH?!?! Can I come stay at yours? :rotfl:

I agree with what you say in a way, but only £60 a month doesn't teach them anything apart from to stay at home for a lot longer than they should. lol.

neneromanova

sexki11en wrote: »

Bloody kids today! Think the world owes them something!

SK x

It does. A good kick up their A*se!

V.Lucky

I used to pay my Mom £20 a week 26 years ago, so I think she's either living in the 1980's or taking the pee.

Thirds sounds good, although I think you need to sit her down and tell her how to sort out her debts too.

daska

She is now an adult but wants to be looked after like a child? Well... a child has two parents, each of which would be expected to stump up 15% of their wage before taking out their own housing costs etc. (And if anyone can do it I'm sure if you apply CSA1 calcs to her you can make it look even worse )

So I think a third sounds good, on condition that she saves a third as well.

GobbledyGook

I lived with my Grandparents and when I started work they done a calculation to show me how much I cost them. The did not expect to profit from me, but once I was working they did not expect me to cost them much, if anything.

Why not work out our household expenses, divide that by the number of people and show your daughter the figure. Don't forget things like extra sky boxes, extra electricity if she's unable to turn of a light (that was something my Nan charged me for lol) behind her etc.

Oldernotwiser

McKneff wrote: »

My daughter paid us £60 a month until recently all found. She came into meals cooked, laundry done, everything, she did the vacumming all through on a Saturday. We recently reduced this because she now stays at her partners for 2 nights a week.

None of us want to make a profit out of our children but they do hae to learn that they have to pay their way and to budget accordingly, stand your ground.
Lay down the houserules and tell her she has to stick to them.

Do you mean £60 per week? Otherwise your two paragraphs seem to be rather contradictory.

catsy_2

I moved out of home about 18months ago and am now 24. I paid £200 a month when I was working, when I was at uni I didn't have to pay them anything (I lived at home whilst at uni) but during all holidays I paid 200 a month. My sister (21) currently does the same. I think it is reasonable and never argued, compared to the cost of living somewhere else it is VERY cheap!! I wanted to move out though to live with my OH. Food alone could easily cost her £80 a month if she lived elsewhere. I like the third idea, I wish I'd done that instead of spending the rest!!

Lakeuk

neneromanova wrote: »

£60 a MONTH?!?! Can I come stay at yours? :rotfl:

I agree with what you say in a way, but only £60 a month doesn't teach them anything apart from to stay at home for a lot longer than they should. lol.

Depends on the person, if by charging £60 per mth the kid is using the rest of their cash wiser to help them get on in life then there is no reason to increase to rate, seems this kid has their head screwed for life and is doing some housework.

I pay what would be considered below the average but make up for it in other ways, paying some bills, buying household goods, food

If the OP's kid is not saving then I'd charge the going rate and let the parents do the saving themselves