Bleed, then scan showed empty preg sac

Triggles

Rosie - I've been following this thread, hoping you would have some good news. I am so sorry you are going through this. I have had 4 miscarriages, and it just seems to throw everything into a tailspin. Please make sure to take time to come to terms with it and allow yourself to grieve. Be prepared for some people to not quite understand that a loss is devastating no matter how far along you are and for some people to simply not know what to say so they say nothing. Often the cliches that people say during this time will seem frustrating to you, and painful, but they mean well, they just don't know what else to say. If you need time off work to get to feeling back to yourself, ask your GP to sign you off for a week or two. Mine insisted I take time off when I had losses, as I desperately needed the time to recover both physically and emotionally.

Again, I am sorry you are going through this.

MrsAnnie

Rosie, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Please do let those who love you and are supportive take care of you at this time. And please look after yourself. Hugs x

rosie383

Thank you all so much for your support and kindness. To those of you who said I could PM you, thank you. It means a lot. I may not do that right now as it takes time that I don't have today. So many of you have been through miscarriage, I feel for your loss. I thank God that I had a bleed at 7 weeks, so had prepared a little for what was to come. I had a couple of friends who also had no idea that there was a problem until they went for their dating scan at 12 weeks. I slept very well last night, I suppose because I hadn't been sleeping well before, and had cried so much yesterday that my eyes felt like I hadn't slept for 6 months!!!!!
This morning I was feeling OK and a bit more like taking on the world, until I was doing the dishes and felt a wave of morning sickness. It just felt so unfair, that I just burst into tears. I suppose, if I am honest about it, that the pregnancy feelings are not very strong now, thankfully.
I now just want to have it all over with, so I can get on with life. I hope that doesn't sound too harsh. I am grieving, but I suppose it's like when there is a death in the family, and until you have the funeral, you have everything on hold, so to speak.
I don't want to go for the tablet option of miscarriage, as that seems very invasive, to be in hospital and have to pass everything into a bedpan to be 'looked at' by the nurses to see what you are passing. It also sounds very painful. I am going to talk to the EPU on Monday ( why do these things have to happen at bank holiday times and weekends?!!!). I will book in for a D&C as early as they can do it when my dh is off work. Probably Friday next week will be the earliest option.
If it happens naturally before then, then I will be relieved I suppose. If any of you have advice on practicalities of any of the options, please share.
Sorry for waffling on so much. I have a lot of very good girlfriends around me. But if I try to actually talk out loud about it, I just burst into tears. So it is easier to write things down.

elliebobs

Hi again Rosie

I actually went for the tablets option and it was actually not too bad, although I have mentioned before that the staff in my EPU are fantastic. Whichever option you chose has to be right for you; no one way is more correct than the other

You have certainly sruck a chord in saying that you was it have it over with. I am exactly the same and I really don't think that it is harsh. The only advice I can give is to prepare yourself for the bleeding that will follow. I'm now in my 3rd week and to be honest I'm getting seriously depressed about it; I feel able to move on emotionally but can't do so as there is a constant reminder each time I visit the bathroom.

I sincerely hope that I haven't made you feel any worse as that really isn't my intention but there really is no way to sugar coat the experience. Forewarned is forearmed and all that jazz.

As always, you are in my thoughts at this time and remember that you are not alone.

Take care

Ellie

rainbow81

Hi I'm sorry the news was not good. There's nothing anyone can really say, but it does still seem a taboo to talk about it in real life.

I have had 2 miscarriages, the first the whole thing was natural and the second with an ERCP. For many reasons the first one was by far the most traumatic and because the blood loss was not controlled I had to spend the night in hospital.

For me the operation was far easier and I didn't have to spend weeks waiting for things to get back to normal.

I hope you feel better soon. It's not bl**dy fair is it?

Here's to a happier 2010.

X

rosie383

Thanks Elliebobs and Rainbow. No, it doesn't seem fair. But I am so blessed to have 2 beautiful girls already. I know there are many who are not as fortunate.
Everyone who has gone for an ERCP says that it seemed the best option, and the recovery was quicker. If I went for the tablet option, I would just be in a the gynae ward, probably having to explain to lots of little old ladies what was wrong. Can't face that. The staff in the EPU are so-so. Don't know about the staff in gynae. I suppose it all depends on the day. If I go in for day surgery, it will be over with, maybe won't bleed as long. That seems a long time that you have been bleeding for Elliebob. Are they following you up?

Frith

Sorry to hear your sad news, Rosie.

elliebobs

Hi again Rosie

thanks for asking and yes 'they' are checking my progress. I had a scan on Monday and there is still a small amount of tissue remaining so I just have to let nature take its course at the moment. I have to telephone them again in a fortnight to update so it will have hopefully stopped by then.

In retrospect, the D and C may actually have been the better option for me afterall!

Anyway I'm off out now for a New Year late lunch; you take care and let your lovely girls make a fuss over you.

Ellie xx

Katinkka

Really sorry to read your story and it's outcome. I've had three miscarriages myself at 8 weeks and earlier and they are heartbreaking. I've done my time in EPU watching and experiencing the misery that goes on within. Most people will tell you to take time to get over it, even the Drs will but I believe unless you've had a d&c there is no harm getting right back into it. I had a six week misscarriage and was pregnant again 3 weeks later. That's my son Stefan. I also had one before my son Finn at eight weeks. WHile I urge you to do what's best for you, don't feel like you have to take ages stewing on it. It might help to put it behind you and get on with trying again. It did for me although it was hard at times.

Take Care xxx

slscarborough

I too had a missed miscarriage that was discovered at my 12 week scan and I decided to let nature takes its course rather than any medical help. Deep down I was hoping they were wrong but 5 days later I miscarried. I am glad I choice to wait though as I was at home with the people I love. I still had a have a D & C though as the miscarriage was incomplete but at that point I was glad it was going to be all over. I wish you all the best with whatever you decide Rosie. x x x

On a positive note I conceived my now 8 month old daughter 3 months later x x x