Annoyed

smartpicture

Well if it was my mum I'd be very annoyed with her.

And I'd think twice before I gave ger extra cash to help her out of a financial sticky situation again.

honeyD

Your brother gets £100 a week and pays absolutely nothing?! :eek:
When I was at college I got £30 a week EMA. I had to give £15 to my parents for my keep and extra for petrol money for my Dad to take me to college every day. I wasnt left with much after. Im glad they brought me up to pay my way though as now I know the value of money and try very hard not to get into debt, I only have one and its about £70 now. If I borrowed from my parents I had to pay it back, my brother and sister however were never treated the same and now do not have a clue about money and waste it at every opportunity. So Im very thankful.
Anyway my point is he must have something left in that £100 a week that he can offer! He has nothing to pay towards the house so where IS his money going? Maybe he should post an SOA too! :rotfl:

TheEffect

Thanks for all the responses. Everyones going to have their own opinion and obviously there's a lot more to this situation then can be summed up in a few paragraphs.

foxy-roxy

Mrcow is just looking for argument, OP i think you sound like a bright lad with a good head on your shoulders and should be proud of yourself.
Unfortunatley, some people will always be bad with money, my mum is terrible with money and has been repossessed to prove it, my sister and i tried so hard to help but to no avail, so just live your life and let your mum learn from her own mistakes.

Good Luck

zzzLazyDaisy

mrcow wrote: »

How much rent do you pay her each month?
How much does your brother pay her?

Perhaps you need to increase whatever you are paying. I'd be fuming if one of my children had a go about me spending £100 on something I wanted.

Even if you spent £100 on a mirror when you owed them £200?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

It's the same principle as lending someone a tenner to get nappies and milk for the children, only to find coming out of the corner shop 10 minutes later with 6 cans of Stella and 20 Mayfair.

You never do it again.

Just keep to paying bills rather than handing over cash. If she's still short after that, it isn't really your problem. She would then have to go after your brother for cash. Although I would be inclined to say that £200 isn't a great deal anyway, if she wanted more money, I would tell her that it was all gone - just like your brother's.

And to the poster who lost most of their EMA to their parents, I totally disagree with their actions there - EMA was designed to go to the student to meet their study costs, not to prop up the family finances. I believe that money should have been yours and yours alone, particularly as there was a high likelihood of the parents still receiving benefits in respect of the student, so expenses had not gone up for them.

The OP's mother is going to have a bit of a reality check in September, when the money stops coming in. At least if she begins to learn now, it doesn't all come to a head when the OP is waiting for a grant/loan from the student loans company and is completely unable to do anything to help.

mrcow

foxy-roxy wrote: »

Mrcow is just looking for argument

Erm.....who are you?

What suddenly makes you an expert on anything about me? I'm not "looking for" anything of the sort.

Seriously, get a grip.

mrcow

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

Even if you spent £100 on a mirror when you owed them £200?

She doesn't owe him anything. He's been living there rent free up until this month and she's been providing for him all that time. The first bit of money he puts her way and he thinks he has some sort of moral right over her. Way to go to treat your own mother.

What makes you think she "owes" him anything?

mrcow

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

The OP's mother is going to have a bit of a reality check in September, when the money stops coming in. At least if she begins to learn now, it doesn't all come to a head when the OP is waiting for a grant/loan from the student loans company and is completely unable to do anything to help.

But you're talking like she's been replying on this money to keep the house running all these years which clearly isn't the case. The OP hasn't given a penny to his mother until very recently.

Maybe when she's one less person to have to feed and maintain, then her outgoings will finally reduce?

TheEffect

mrcow wrote: »

She doesn't owe him anything. He's been living there rent free up until this month and she's been providing for him all that time. The first bit of money he puts her way and he thinks he has some sort of moral right over her. Way to go to treat your own mother.

What makes you think she "owes" him anything?

I'm glad I'm not your son/daughter. You sound very stuck up and angry. Where have I said that I've been living there up until this month rent free? How do you know my mother has been providing for me all those 18 years? You know nothing and your basing your opinion on speculation, possibly because how things have gone in your life? Once again, where do I state I think I have some sort of moral right over her? You sound very old fashioned, in the fact that you think the world owes you something, and that everything your children own actually belongs to you.