Weekly Flylady Thread 7th December 2009

greenbee

hex2 wrote: »

Some lovely fire bits here Not cheap though, I think I have a free P&P code if you want it.

I get the feeling that you've done your research ... I'm going to have to wait until after my birthday, as I have a feeling that I may well get things for Christmas/birthday. And my dad is going to check for spare stuff at home too.

hex2 wrote: »

Dusty - I am useless at icing. My multi skilled DH does ours. As he does anything remotely craft based.

if you find another one like him, could you send him over in my direction please

hex2 wrote: »

DS2 is going to have a lovely BR. It has ended as a small double. The family bathroom will be a funny shape but will work well once the walk in shower is in. We now have a functioning white sink instead of the 'lovely' avacado horror.

Sounds wonderful. I know you have to put up with a lot of mess and hassle at times, but it will be worth it. And remember, this is your family home for the long term, you won't be moving every few years.

Triker wrote: »

Packing more ebay parcels, hopefully making a ton of space after they've gone.

DD1 hoovering upstairs and when DD2 returns home from her friends they'll do the tree and accompianed decorations.

We have a new tv, bought with tesco vouchers ...MSE or what...and yep I know they're worth 4 times as much in deals but we wanted a tv so thats what we got.:jIt's our christmas preent to ourselves between myself and OH.

Well done on the ebay sales - the money AND the space ... just thing, more room for DD1 to hoover . And well done on getting the TV without adding to your debt. The vouchers may be worth more for other things, but actually they're worth most if they get you something you want...

My dad has solved the problem of the pram bits for the cake... it's now a baby in a carrycot . He has also pointed out that the fire might not be burning very hot yet as the chimney will take time to warm up (it hasn't been used for years), and if I've got condensation in the rest of the house, I'll have it there, so need to use the stove as much as possible to try to warm things up and dry them out! As the chimney is in the middle of the house, it'll be warming and drying from the centre, unlike the heating, most of which (except the kitchen & hall) is against outside walls. So I'm going to try to get the fire going really well this evening, and then shut it down and see if I can get it to stay warm all night. It's providing me with hours of entertainment!

(((Hugs))) for Valli & her DD. Hopefully when she's feeling a bit better she'll want another pet, like Mudbath's DD.

Hot chocolate drunk... back to wrapping and present sorting...

boddy

Evening everyone. Thanks for all the hugs.

Went to see mum this morning and she seemed back to her normal self. She actually spoke to DD then my brother on the phone. I have received information tonight from a outside source who told me that other stuff has gone missing. This happened in a seperate home next to mums but run by same people and staff do go between the two. Said police were involved and staff on day it happened interviewed. Apparently manager is doing something to try and catch the person.They said they would let me know if they found out who it was. I have rang the police for advice. They told me that it should be reported anyway and what would happen. I have to ring them back if I want to take it further. My plan is to inform manger Ive contacted police and take it from there.

Went to DDs for a cuppa then to Mr As for shopping. Spent ages in there chatting. It was nearly tea time when I got home. Might do some more wrapping or just chill.

froddy Positive healthy vibes for Maddy.
pigpen Sounds like you had a lovely time with Tiddles.
MrsChaos. Im glad they were lovely memories you had.
Triker Well done on getting the credit card paid off.
Mudbath Hope you have made it out the attic.
valli Hugs for you and DD.

Hugs for everyone specially Toots and Lady L.

hex2

Zoe - a small lump of cheese may help. It is supposed to off set the sweetness and stop the problems.

greenbee

jinky67 wrote: »

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:on your behalf

But I think you are just going to have to rise above it, he is obviously doing it to GET a reaction from you...dont fall for it;)

Jinky is right zoe - but keep a record of it all in a notebook, with dates and details, and then calmly hand it over as part of the evidence. Feeding this kind of stuff to children of their age on a regular basis could well be considered to be neglect, as there is nothing in there of any nutritional value. I bet you find they appreciate their veggies for the next few days! And they probably won't think of those kind of things as treats anymore.

Maybe they'd like some carrot sticks while watching TV to help take the sickliness away? They'll probably need a lot of water as well if they've had that much sugar.

ETA - hex's cheese idea will probably work better than carrots. It certainly sounds good to me!

Zoelikesjam

Na Jinks, he isnt doin it to get a reaction. Since the court date he's not allowed any contact with me. We dont speak,text or call. He is doing it because he is incapable of looking after children. He doesnt have a clue about children or how to look after them properly. He needs to go on some sort of parenting course thing.
The only rise he will get out of me is the phone call i shall be making to my solicitors first thing monday morning.
Its really frustrating me because i am getting it from all sides. He is pushing for contact over christmas, and thinks he should be allowed to have them overnight either xmas eve(over my deadbody) or xmas night...not happening. I originally offered boxing day from 10-6 but since he has been having the kids for four hours instead of 2, the state they have been coming home in is attrocious and i've been re thinking the whole situation. I dont want them going for the whole day and them coming back and spoiling the rest of the holidays. The past few visits they've come back sick from junk, crawling with headlice (which ive managed to aviod all school term!) jaimee was covered head to toe with flea bites! Lewis's asthma has been terrible as when they visit his mothers there are about 8 adults chain smoking in a tiny living room......I've said boxing day is being brought down to 10-3(still too much but i cant do much about it) He wants christmas eve, which he isnt getting for three simple reasons
1.We have plans for that day
2. The kids would come back sick and hyper, and wont sleep which will spoil christmas day
3. I don't trust him to bring them home. plain and simple. He would see it as an excuse to keep the kids becuase i wouldnt be able to do anything about it till the monday.
Right, its off my chest now. Still dont feel any better! LOL
MEN!

Zoelikesjam

Greenbee, hex they have both been so thirsty bless them. Gutsing loads of water down. Jase has just given them a cheese string each(run out of normal cheese lol) Thanks for the tips girls. Yup greenbee, lewis devours his veg and fruit when he comes home, and we rarely hear the request for sweets x

Valli

Zoe (((hugs))) and you are NOT being petty
- you might be able to 'get' the system changed over the smoking issue tbh - if you don't smoke at home and no-one else does then how can it be acceptable for other adults to smoke in front of the kids, especially with asthma. Also record the infestations...
My two were obssessive about being smoked in front of because they were asthmatic when younger and they knew they shouldn't breathe it in but I had to ask their dad not to allow people to smoke in front of them as they didn't like it
Mind you I also had to ask him not to diss me in front of the kids as they were finding THAT upsetting....
I never dissed him in front of them.
(doesn't stop me though;))

kazmeister

greenbee wrote: »

Testing the stove with solid fuel rather than logs. It chucks out a lot more heat - I've got a wooden wine crate in the sitting room with the fuel & logs in, but I'll obviously have to get something a bit more sensible sorted out.

If you come up to Norfolk, have a look at Bradfields hardware store in Heacham. I got a brilliant companion set and coal scuttle from there and they have loads of other lovely stuff as well. Got to support the independants as well. ETA - fireguards came from there too.

Valli wrote: »

thanks
I know it's not a big thing but DD loved her gerbils with a passion and cared for them so beautifully - I have been really proud of her over that.
We knew it was coming but even so...

Hugs valli and DD. It is a big thing, just because they are small doesnt mean that they arent such a big part of the family. We have 2 gerbil graves under a bush in the front of the house.

boddy wrote: »

Evening everyone. Thanks for all the hugs.

Went to see mum this morning and she seemed back to her normal self. She actually spoke to DD then my brother on the phone. I have received information tonight from a outside source who told me that other stuff has gone missing. This happened in a seperate home next to mums but run by same people and staff do go between the two. Said police were involved and staff on day it happened interviewed. Apparently manager is doing something to try and catch the person.They said they would let me know if they found out who it was. I have rang the police for advice. They told me that it should be reported anyway and what would happen. I have to ring them back if I want to take it further. My plan is to inform manger Ive contacted police and take it from there.

I'm glad the police are involved, as I said before personnal belongings should not just disappear.

zoe - I know how you feel, when I was still married to my ex if I worked all day I would get home to find he had given sweets to our then 2 year old for his lunch as he cba to get him a sandwich. When we did part and he went to visit his dad he used to eat all sorts of trash and tbh there was nothing I could do about it. Unfortunately you have to accept it, he's their parent too and can give them what he feels he wants to, you wouldnt want him telling you what you can or cant feed them. Yes it spoils your evening but in the long run it wont do them any harm. My lad is 17 now and he's tall, very slim and hasn't had to have a filling for years and he and his dad still eat takeaway rubbish for just about every meal he's there. He also appreciates just how good the home cooked food, fresh fruit and veg that I give him is. ETA - I hadnt seen your other post when I wrote this, obviously there are other issues as well, apologies.

triker - well done on the ebay sales. You sound so positive about your debt management too WTG. Glad you got what you wanted with your vouchers.

OK what else do I need to do, dont know dont have a plan, best I should get one then

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

A way to deal with the contact over the holiday period, ignoring all the other irritations (and junk food is the usual one that blokes do - but the kids eventually bring it home and chuck most of it because they realise it makes them feel ill) is to be most generous through the solicitors and offer contact regularly over the second half of the holiday period. That way, you get the run up (nativity plays and the like), the day itself and then he has the opportunity to see them for the New Year (which incidentally, probably mucks up some of his New Year Party plans).

Oh, and it sounds perfectly reasonable to set down the second half as it is providing them with a stable holiday period routine.

It's worked for me for 12 years, anyway.

froddington

greenbee wrote: »

Had a lovely lunch and gossip with froddy (yup, we talked about ALL of you ) who is lookin very well and has a very big smile on her face like this one now she's sorted stuff out at work.

greenbee - you're not supposed to tell them we gossip!!! Thanks for a lovely lunch and natter - and thanks for saying I look well

smartie - congrats

valli - hugs for you and DD

zoe - hugs for you too

Thanks again for all the thoughts for Maddy. I'm unlikely to hear anything before Monday .........

I need to write some more cards and check if I need to buy any more presents