Peoples acceptance of disability/illness

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LadyMorticia wrote: »

I had all the symptoms of my mental illness for years and people were still friends with me. It was only when I was diagnosed, that people decided they didn't want anything to do with me. =/

I have experienced a similar attitude from people. Needless to say i no longer consider these people friends, as friends stick by one another, not turn their backs. Sadly some people seem to fail to see that you are still the same person they knew before the diagnosis. It really does show who true friends are.

bundly

wannabepennypincher wrote: »

Not many people get mine either- I suffer from panic attacks and currently trying to get over agrophobia... All anyone sees though is someone getting "free" money from the DLA even though there is 'nothing' wrong with me and someone even threatened to report me for faking...Even my mum has said in the past that I just need to pull myself together.

I can sympathise with you because I used to have panic syndrome and agoraphobia. It's so hard to explain to anyone who's never had the feelings just how terrified you feel out of doors. I used to feel as though the ground wasn't flat, it was all wobbly, and I was totally enwrapt in the terror I felt -- my biggest fear was collapsing in the street and nobody doing anything (there are a lot of drunken streetdrinkers in my town you see).

And yes, I had friends who said just pull yourself together. How stupid are they? I mean, obviously if you COULD, you just WOULD. It's not really their fault. They like to see something, like a caliper or a false leg, or something like that.

Bryando

I hate what I am. Mental illness, well for me is a nightmare. Feel as if it is a vice around me. It varies. I'm in and out police custody for safety, well was not for a while. Find that I will probably be in crap paid work in the future. Mental health will hold back. As I can be stable for month or that. Then a 'blimp'. Thats me square one. At times I wondered what is the point of my life. A life resigned to being unemployable, therefore rely upon the state. i'm only in my early 20s. The 'there is nothing wrong with you' That is something that no longer bothers me. Or my taxrs pay for you. Yet the get Child benefit or working tax credit. However I don't bother to bring this to there attention or air my views in regards to child benefit. Why. I don't know. Got enough to deal with never mind arguments etc.

MadMikeshalfhour

I have chronic Irritable Bowel Syndrome and that;s a big no no for people to talk about it. I have bult a bog in th eback of my car and I now where every toilet is near home

I also had depression many years ago and yes niether of them are very sexy things

Invasion

You're not mental illness, you have mental illness, don't let it take that hold on you. My dad's been very ill mentally in the past, and is thankfully a lot better now, could you look into less conventional jobs that you'd find easier to cope with? Sometimes that's a way around things.

Child benefit has nothing to do with all of this, they don't get child benefit because they have something wrong with them... they have it because they have children, I've no idea what that's got to do with anything.

willa

Invasion wrote: »

You're not mental illness, you have mental illness, don't let it take that hold on you. My dad's been very ill mentally in the past, and is thankfully a lot better now, could you look into less conventional jobs that you'd find easier to cope with? Sometimes that's a way around things.

Child benefit has nothing to do with all of this, they don't get child benefit because they have something wrong with them... they have it because they have children, I've no idea what that's got to do with anything.[/QUOTE]

Bryando is saying, I think, that people moan about 'my taxes' paying for people with mental illnesses to get benefits while the people moaning may be getting other types of benefits themselves.

Bryando

Yes thats what I mean. People moan at me. Yet they get working tax credits or child benefit. Yet don't appear to realise what there is saying to me is crap. If that make sense.

sleepymy

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I wouldnt have thought too conclusive.
More study needed[/QUOTE]

Any scientific proof of this?

pipkin71

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I have experienced a similar attitude from people. Needless to say i no longer consider these people friends, as friends stick by one another, not turn their backs. Sadly some people seem to fail to see that you are still the same person they knew before the diagnosis. It really does show who true friends are.

When my health really deteriorated last year, I realised that I had some wonderful friends, friends who saw me at my absolute worse and I love them very dearly for it, as they all pitched in and helped.

I do try to hide how I'm feeling at times, because I don't want to become the broken record, always moaning about how I feel, so I put a brave face on it, say I'm ok, ect, however, I also know that friends will drop what they are doing and will be here in a shot if I really need them to.

I hate being disabled. I hate some of the things I've experienced, like when we were about to go to a till and a woman pushed in front of the wheelchair to get there first, or when people huff and puff behind you, because you can't move very fast and they have somewhere to go. On the whole though, my friends have become very accepting of my health as it is now

That, and the way my children have coped, has shown positive aspects of a negative situation

pipkin71

Rochelle wrote: »

I have chronic osteoarthritis in my neck, back, shoulders and knees and also very bad sciatica and sleep apneoa,and a bad weight problem but although have lose 4 stone since june my health is getting worse, i walk with a stick but much prefer to hold on to a shopping trolley in the supermarket for support as my legs collapse quite often.
I am sick and tired of people especially older people telling me i should not park in the disabled bay although i have a blue badge and even have the cheek to tell me i should stop using someone else's card

My foot has twisted virtually 50% now, due to the drop foot, so I fall quite a bit and can't walk without an aid. Thankfully, I haven't had any bad experience when using the blue badge, but have heard people say that older people often query those younger than them using it.

I think that's a shame really.