relationship split what to do?

speedster

and both to claim tax credits.

cue... corny guitar rips!

DX2

I am amazed at the bad advice given on this thread.

csh_2

plok wrote: »

Cazscoob, if it's not working out together and you have paid employment it may be best for you to move out. Let the dad care for the kids as he has been doing and let him claim the CB. This way the kids don't get uprooted, stay together and have one of their parents looking after to them. Despite what other posters tell you about the CB, it needs to go to the parent who actually does the caring so that the kids can benefit from it- don't get carried away with thoughts of custody/residence right now. As you pointed out - you don't want to give up your job and your ex is happy looking after the children - JOB DONE!

Job not done! ex is happy to look after children 3 days a week while she works! Not to have them full stop. Shes on her own the rest of the time with the kids/housework etc. No way should a mother of 5 young children be advised to leave them. 2 of them are babies and need their mother.
As for not worrying about custody right now the worst thing she could do in the eyes of the court is to leave the kids

csh_2

DX2 wrote: »

I am amazed at the bad advice given on this thread.

Me too! If you mean post no 26 then i agree, if you mean me then i am

plok

As the OP said - living together isn't working. So who should leave? The person doing the majority of the childcare? Obviously not. The original post was about the financial aspects and allowing ex to claim CB gives him IS. Mum wants to work so let Dad look after kids and get some money for doing it. Somehow you have turned it into a custody battle which it isn't. The kids will be financially and emotionally better off staying where they are with the person who is looking after them right now.

csh_2

plok wrote: »

As the OP said - living together isn't working. So who should leave? The person doing the majority of the childcare? Obviously not. The original post was about the financial aspects and allowing ex to claim CB gives him IS. Mum wants to work so let Dad look after kids and get some money for doing it. Somehow you have turned it into a custody battle which it isn't. The kids will be financially and emotionally better off staying where they are with the person who is looking after them right now.

This is Caz not her OH. He watches them while she works part time only. This thread was about can her ex claim any benefits if he is not working and minding the kids 3 days a week, but somehow you have turned that into her leaving her children?

speedster

if you want so see some bad advice. hop over to the csa section! :rolleyes:

bestpud

I can't understand why he can't claim JSA...?

You say he'd be looking after the children but that in itself is no barrier to him seeking work.

It sounds as though the main reason he doesn't work is there is none, in which case he can claim and have the children, surely?

If he found a full time job you'd be in no worse a position than you are now. You may then have to give up work but you never know, something better may come up...

If he found a part time job, you may be able to work it out, or at least minimise the childcare costs.

If he doesn't find a job then he is at least getting as much benefit as he would if on IS. And he may well manage to get some training too.

What's the problem? Have I missed something?

willa

dmg24 wrote: »

It is your choice to have a life on benefits. I'm sure your children will be very proud of you.

That is abusive!

plok

CAZ asked if her ex could claim IS because 1) she couldn't afford childcare if he didin't provide it for free and 2) she didn't want to give up her job.

My advice to you CAZ was that yes, ex can claim IS if you let him at the CB. In that respect, JOB DONE! Your query resolved.

CAZ then pointed out that living together wasn't working post the split. Still bearing in mind that CAZ needed a "free to user" childcare solution I suggested that ex could continue providing that service but it was in the children's best interests for him to do it from the existing home.

That's not bad advice to you CAZ, it's advice that gives you want you want and at the same time ensures the children are looked after with the minimum of disruption. You get to stay at work which is what you want. Ex gets to look after the kids and gets to claim IS - which I think is what you are saying he wants.