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Careful_girl

Miroslav it sounds tough.have you thought of helping children with footie? They always need people to help with clubs an it might give you a different focus.Can you find something you like doing in the heat? The woods are cool even at this time of year or if you are in town can you find a shady park or Lido? If not close all the curtains like they do in Spain and concoct lots of salads. Jamie Oliver and Nigella have lots of recipes. As for the meetings try telling someone who organises them how you feel. Maybe you need a different type of help for a bit? Keep offloading to us we will listen and try to support you. I went through a time of thinking about death due to a friend losing his mum. I found some amazing poetry on the subject. The emotion comes out of us all in a way and I wanted to see how others dealt with it. Art galleries are very cool and can be good for the mind.
Mushy You must deal with the threat professionally.Although your company will be going through upheaval it is your duty to report it. Ask the union or CAB. Urbs knows more than me. You need to protect yourself and others at work from this. Just follow the proceedures. Write everything down. Make sure you are sensible about your safety and tell people where you are and keep your mobile on and charged. If you are scared phone someone even the police. all our love and support is with you.
KP Hang in there with that grumpy toddler- splash him in the pool and make lots of ice lollies!!
Mum suggested OH came for a meal. I was horrified I am trying to get away from him!!My reaction made me think I am silly buying the house!!
Onwards!!
Love to all,
CG:cool:

Miroslav

Careful_girl wrote:

Miroslav it sounds tough.have you thought of helping children with footie? They always need people to help with clubs an it might give you a different focus.Can you find something you like doing in the heat? The woods are cool even at this time of year or if you are in town can you find a shady park or Lido? If not close all the curtains like they do in Spain and concoct lots of salads. Jamie Oliver and Nigella have lots of recipes. As for the meetings try telling someone who organises them how you feel. Maybe you need a different type of help for a bit? Keep offloading to us we will listen and try to support you. I went through a time of thinking about death due to a friend losing his mum. I found some amazing poetry on the subject. The emotion comes out of us all in a way and I wanted to see how others dealt with it. Art galleries are very cool and can be good for the mind.

I've never really thought about helping kids with football. I am looking for voluntary work right now, before I get back to paid work. Maybe that is another idea :T

I have no idea what to do. I am very much a stay in person, because I don't overly like being around people.

I'm going to have to find something else to eat, as it's just junk at the moment.

I'm not sure any help is going to help, or if there is any other sort of help around. I've tried asking, but it's like banging your head against a brick wall. I think they are not bothered about what I want at all, so i'm just going to hand in my notice I think, I was better off without it.

cantcope

Hi all. Sorry to see so many posts with people feeling down today.

I'm feeling blue already today. It is a year since I first met and instantly fell in love with my Ex finding it really hard. I feel like I wasted the last year of my life with someone i though loved me as much as i loved them.

Didn't make it to the river yesterday. Spent the whole day with my parents.

Staying indoors today. Know it's going to be an emotional day and dont want to be bursting into tears if someone asks me if I'm ok.

I've done all my housework and am just running a bath. Am tempted just to get straight back in bed and wait for tomorrow.

CG, if your mum has invited your OH for a meal, can't you pack him off alone?? hehe

Have a lovely day everyone and please lets all try and keep our chins up. I am trying and failing but as long as i keep trying i feel ok.

Careful_girl

CC I would do as you say however I am staying at my parents for a break from him and to do those r things!!Mum can go over to my house to see him!!

Miroslav I understand what you mean. I know a chap who says he is always ahead of all the counsellors and I have never found a solution with their help. Not saying they don't do a good job. The only person who can run your life is yourself and react to all the things that life chucks at us. We need love and support. I think the idea about volunteering is great. Everyone needs to feel valued. That is one reason I work with in my school I have lots of love to give the families there. Don't jump in too deep just help out in what you like doing. What about the time bank? Could you do DIY for someone? Even helping looking after animals if you like them. I have always helped people with animals and children. There is a bunch of people who cultivate bits of waste ground in towns to make the place look better. I am sure there are loads of skills you have that somebody is screaming out for. Ther are old people and teenagers. Are there any Britney groups? A Bitney party with some likeminded fans may be a laugh!!
Sorry if I am waffling!!
Oh just remembered. Be careful with your diet as it really effects your mood. Bananas are good for being anti depressants but do some research on the net and add bits to the junk or try to regulate it a bit. Complete vitamins have all the trace elements in too, might be worth a thought. It would be good if you could ease your mind a bit.
Loads of love to all,
CG.:j Oh had good ride and think it is a great way to start the day! She loves me again.

ukbadger_2

Sorry not been around much this week, I think I have been going through an agjustment phase re break up with OH and been feeling very low. I know that's not really any reason not to say hello but I didn't want to admit to how I was feeling. Well I am totally in tears tonight and just need someone to tell me it'll be ok. I

I had been having a good weekend , Friday was out with gum tree friend which was fab, Yesterday I went to see footie with my brother and today I had two things planned , one was to take ex's 9 year old out for a walk with my dog , I really miss her so agreed with her mum that it'd be good for her too as she was missing me and tilly dog too. Well ex has upset everyone by banning his dd from even meeting up to say goodbye. Honestly it was really upset me - brought back all the times he has let me down , opened all the wounds about losing the babies. I really feel like going to his and smashing his face in (but I won't I promise).

And then tonight I was supposed to be going on the rearranged blind date and that to$$er didn't get in touch today and we hadn't confirmed tonight. Maybe he has been sat there since 6 waiting for me !!

Ex has just done this re his DD to hurt me and it was worked , I am totally heartbroken. When I lost the 2nd baby he turned up two hours late drunk at hospital and said 'well at least I've still got my DD'. He sent me a message earlier giving me all this special place in my heart crap - I honestly wish I had never set eyes on him.

Sorry for ranting , I know I'm just going through a blip and longer term I WIIL BE HAPPY but today it just doesn't feel that way.

Hx

Careful_girl

Hey UB you are doing so well and you are getting a tough time from everyone else. So sorry to hear about the rotten flea of an ex (You need a Rooney to stamp on him) he is just being mean. Cuddle the dog. The child will still love you just the same. I am desperate for children. I really feel for you having lost two. The ex is at least gone now and you are doing all the right things to get yourself back on track. There are going to be some tough days but we will be here. The blind date still may work out well. Tomorrow may be easier.
Take care,
CG.:beer:

ukbadger_2

Thanks CG

It just makes me realise what an awful manipulative twerp he is - will do as he asks even though I meant no harm to his DD , just would have been nice to see her.

Tomorrow will be a better day - last week in my current job :j

Have just been to get myself a big family bar of chocolate - Diet can wait for a day X

Careful_girl

Can I share? had a couple of mums tiny chocs last night(she said iI could she can't eat them) but could have eaten the box without thinking. No alcohol either. Pimms or white wine or champagne would be nice but alas. Even a cold beer. Must go home soon!!
See ya!!
CG.:beer:

waterlilyann

Having a really bad day. Very blue and no-one to talk to - story of my life!! Glad you ladies are here........

Been a while since I've been on and so much has happened! ((((hugs)))) to those who need them and positive thoughts going to everyone else, especially UKB, you sound like you need some. Sorry to hear that so many are blue, I can't seem to feel better at the mo either. I'm deliberatly making my OH miserable because I'm secretly punishing him for not asking what's wrong and for not understanding how I feel. I know this is childish but I've got no-one else to understand me and I feel he should instincively know when I need to talk. Instead he is spread out on the sofa watching crappy history programmes!

There doesn't seem to be much light at the end of the tunnel either - I know I'll feel the same tomorrow because it's how I've been feeling all week.

Sorry to rant, but need to let off steam.

Lily.xx

ukbadger_2

Rant away Lily - then I'm not the only one !

CG have saved you half of my choc - it's a bar of mint chocolate aero.

I feel a lot better now , had a good cry and now just have to cope with w*rk tomorrow looking all puffy faced.