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Philippa36

Messy ~ Good luck with the 4x4'ing ~ I expect it was his DD's way of dealing with her fathers relationship. My ex has had several relationships since we split up and they have all reacted differently to my DD & DS ~ fortunately my children are reasonably laid back and don't get too stressed about them

KP ~ Good luck with the move, I hope it all goes smoothly. House prices are insane at the moment aren't they :eek: At least DS is enjoying school ~ I always had to drag DS to school, he loved it when he was there but getting him there was impossible :rolleyes:

Fantastic list Mclaren ~ that must have taken ages! Amazong how many people have popped in our thread I hope, now you have a diagnosis, that you feel more in control. I have problems with left and right too

whatamess_2

Philippa36 wrote:

Morning all

Should have known Messy would be the gobbyest

Thanks Phillipa.:p:D

Gob does run away with me sometimes.:D

Soon be up to my first 1000 posts:T

KathrynPenguin

Hmmm time to do some churning to get up the list LOL!

After some advice here guys. DS started school last Thursday, did an hour Thursday, morning Friday, Morning today. DS is statemented because he has a speech and language delay, he is about a year behind his peers although in the last few months he has come on in leaps and bounds. This is the story so far.

My Mum went in to see the teacher last week to go through his paperwork, mentioned his speech. Teacher asked if he likes to be called Jamie, Mum said NO he's James.

DS seems happy but doesn't say much about school, he has learned his teachers name but no names of any other children. I dropped him off this morning and his teacher said "hello Jamie" and told me he was settling in well. I pointedly said "goodbye James, be a good boy". Mum was picking him up at lunchtime and I asked her to ask about what provision is being made for his special needs (he;s statemented) and to clarify the name issue. I also asked when the teacher is available after 3pm to see me.

Teacher told Mum that no special attention is being given as she "will spend a couple of weeks getting to know the children and what their needs are". I'm not entirely happy with this answer, for several reasons.

1. He has been statemented which is an indication of his assessed level.
2. The SENCO from this school visited him at nursery last July and should have written a report about him
3. She has now spent 7 hours in the company of these children so should have identified which ones have needs (I teach a year 8 class for 1 hour a week, during my week I see over 100 different children in my classroom but after 3 weeks of teaching this class I can tell you which children have needs and I have some idea of what those needs are - I have identified the children and read their IEP's - she only sees one class of 30 and has had the whole of September to read his IEP!). Mum said about his speech and teacher said "yes he is difficult to understand" hmmmm

When Mum was talking to her she again referred to DS as Jamie, Mum pointed out that is NOT his name and that she said at the meeting last week he wasn't known by that name. Teacher said "oh there are several Jamies in the class" Mum bit her tounge and only replied that "he is not one of them". She said to me she very nearly said "I'm sure there are several Davids in your class but thats not his name either!"

Mum asked when I could go in and see the teacher (at the introduction session we were told she would be available every afternoon to see parents). And said I would need to come after 3pm, apparantly the only day she can make after 3pm is Tuesday - our day for staff meetings when I don't finish till 4.15! I wish I could tell parents who wish to see me about their kids they had to come in before 3pm!

I'm worried about DS, it would appear that he is not getting the attention he should do. His speech is delayed by about a year and he is just managing basic sentances. Often he gets very frustrated when he tries to tell you something and you don't understand. The teacher is unlikely to get much response from him whilst she continues to call him by the wrong name. He may get frustrated if nobody is bothering to listen to him when he does try and talk. The progress he has made in the last 3 months is amazing and I am really worried that this teacher will now have him regressing instead of progressing. To be honest I wish I'd left him at nursery.

We have not told the school we are moving and he will be leaving the school, very glad we didn't as they may not have bothered with him at all if we told them.

I'm after any advice over how to progress with this, a bit reluctant to post on the main site in case anyone recognises this tale (you never know if the teacher is MSE!).

At the moment I've asked ex and Mum to watch out for what the teacher calls him when they take him and collect him. I am planning to phone the school and ask to speak to her maybe tomorrow as its the only afternoon I have the opportunity - what should I say? I don't want to be the stroppy over protective parent (god knows I see enough of them) but DS won't tell us a thing about how it is and I'm worried he's kinda sitting there being mostly ignored.

whatamess_2

What a pickle kp!!
He is difficult to understand:eek: what sort of statement is that!!!

Ring her and have a polite chat mention his statement, name, is he interacting with the others.

Who has written his IEP?

Can on a certain level understand wanting to get to know the children but after 7 hours she should know them enough!

I have to learn behaviour strats, ieps (suggest targets for them too) and help write risk assessments within a very short space of time from meeting the new student.

If the polite chat doesnt help maybe getting on to the senco and expressing your concerns is the way to go.

Messy

KathrynPenguin

Thanks Messy, I was worried I was being over protective.

He has an IEP from his nursery and I believe their SENCO was supposed to write one, although I havn't seen this yet. She saw him in July and said she would come back at end of August (which I thought was kind given it would be her holiday) but she didn't come (which I don't blame her for as it was her holiday!).

I will ring the teacher tomorrow and be dammed if she thinks I'm pushy. By that time he will have spent 10 hours in her classroom - I have to write reports and have parents evenings before I've seen some children that often, I also have to complete IEP's for their reviews in less time that that (10 hours is probably all I see most KS3 kids for in a term!). And I have to see 100 different children a week (I often NEVER learn a kids name by the end of the year, difference is I don't refer to them by the WRONG name - I just don't use a name!)

Hey I just added up how many kids I see in a week - its not 100 its 190 and I already know which ones are on IEP's!

whatamess_2

Not over protective, just concerned for your son:D

She might be one of those teachers that chucks away ieps written by someone else!! We would take an iep written by another school then adjust it to suit.

Give them a ring to put your mind at rest.:D

rose07

hi all

how you doing?
well me not too well but on the mend

well messy when i see your pics of the whole 4x4 experience, they make my extreme side go all excited. do you go off roading alot or just one of those things you do when it can be afforded?

KP i agree with messy, give them a ring and then your mind will ease

well my bro goes to uni on saturday. he got all As and is now off to warwick to study maths, i am soo proud of him but will miss him sooo much.

wow i was nearly in the top ten there, lol.

oh MC,i find it easier with pics too.
i found out i have dyslexia and dyspraxia when i was at uni, was quite late for it to be picked up and they were shocked it hadnt been spotted before. in school and etc.. but at least now i understand why i dont quite understand some things quite yet. hope you ok and getting used to things.?

hey phillipa fancy seeing you here, we can be here there and everywhere. lol

anyway i should be in bed, but once i get going. . . . .
sleep well everyone
speak to you soon
xxx

whatamess_2

Hi rose is he staying in halls of residence?

I come from around there and at one point used to work there cleaning the halls!!! :eek: Students can be scummy.:rotfl:


Love the whole 4x4 thing.:D The trialer that you see me driving belongs to Mr4x4 its based around a daihatsu chassis. It can become expensive a days driving costs £15 but then there is fuel etc on top, plus buying food and drink. Meets are held once a month at various areas.

Glad you are on the mend, fancy seeing you here as well.

Love all Messy

KathrynPenguin

Update from me. I spoke to DS teacher today, after he had to be collected early due to poo! He says he didnt' go quickly enough but he also doesn't wipe the right bit so misses. Just cant seem go get it right! Teacher sounded nice on the phone but said on the special needs front "the ed psych is coming in a couple of weeks to see if any of the children need statmenting - only paperwork we have on DS is IEP from nursery". I told her he was statemented and that I thought they had the statement, this was why THEIR senco visited him last year. To be honest I don't think she even knows the senco did visit him although she didn't come out and say that. I said how strange it was that the ed psych hasn't forwarded his statement to them but that he will be bringing it in tomorrow morning! Lets see what she has to say next week after she has read it. He had better be getting some extra attention by then otherwise I will pull him straight out and send him back to nursery till we move. I have no legal obligation for him to be in education as he is in reception.

This really p*ss*s me off - I am an intellegant woman who has experience of education. I spent a lot of time last year getting him statemented so that he would get the attention he needs, I know the school are aware of his needs as their SENCO has seen him. I can't decide if the teacher is lying to me or is really in the dark but every dealing we have had with the school has seen us mention his needs. I want him given the extra attention in his early years so that he has caught up for when it really matters and is not marked out as "different" in secondary school when kids are more judgemental an unforgiving. I pity anyone who has not my knowledge and understanding of the system who has a child in a similar situation.

He is still saying he is happy there, teacher says he is polite and does as he is told but says very little. I don't expect him to say a lot but he will need some one on one attention to draw him out. In contrast by his last day at nursery they said not only has his speech improved greatly in the last 3 months (hmmm since about when I chucked daddy out!) but that he chattered all day until they were sick of the sound of him!

rose07

whatamess wrote:

Hi rose is he staying in halls of residence?

I come from around there and at one point used to work there cleaning the halls!!! :eek: Students can be scummy.:rotfl:


Love the whole 4x4 thing.:D The trialer that you see me driving belongs to Mr4x4 its based around a daihatsu chassis. It can become expensive a days driving costs £15 but then there is fuel etc on top, plus buying food and drink. Meets are held once a month at various areas.

Glad you are on the mend, fancy seeing you here as well.

Love all Messy

thanks messy

yeah my brother is in the halls, 12 of them in one place. :eek:
dread to think what that place will look like. lol.

ooo the driving does look fun messy, i thought it would be more than 15 but there is of course alot on top of that. lol

KP, soz your DS doesnt seem to be getting what he needs at the mo, and you sound like you have the right mind with this, he seems to have came along way since starting nursery and this is a very positive thing.
i hope it gets sorted soon, as you are correct these things are best sorted from an early age.

hope you all well
MC any recent pic?
take care all
xxx