*Ladies only*What nice things did your Mum do when you started your periods?

littlemissmoney

soupface wrote: »

I was paranoid that she'd hear the wrappers opening. From downstairs. Behind three doors. With the TV on. Sad.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:I used to worry about this... and try and open the wrappers soooo slowly and quietly so noone would know what I was doing. Or try and open it really quickly whilst flushing the chain at the same time to disguise the noise!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

elmccw

lleck wrote: »

we have a special box in the bathroom cupboard which is always full of sanitary products and as they are used I replace them so there is no reason either of my daughters would have to ask me for them. It is communal but there is no embarrasment !

Thanks for this. I have two daughters 13 & 10, the eldest has no inhibitions about asking for sanitary products even to her father, who by the way freaks about buying them.

The youngest will probably hide it as she is a tomboy.

I will use an old make-up box and keep tampons & sanitary towels in there and keep it stocked.

I should have thought of this before.

Damita

I was 15 so I was late and really annoyed that I was behind everyone else, started them just before my mother and stepdad went on holiday that evening so was in pain while we had our nanny look after me and my brothers, I tried a pad once then use a tampon, told my mum who was shocked that I could use them before I had sex, I was very proud... but she always brought my tampons or I borrow hers until I moved out when I was 21, saying that I had to text her to get some tampons off her the other day because I ran out and I am 24 now... but saying all this after reading some of your stories I had it easy, my family are very open about sex, periods and getting pregnant or anything I could ever think off so it is easy to discuss anything with my parents, brothers or sisters... I hope to be that open with my own children

anonymousie

sharonr wrote: »

I was really humbled by my Mum when I started. I had tampons from school after a sex ed lesson, but was too nervous to use them. When I started, I told my Mum and she took me on a 30 minute walk to the corner shop, I waited outside whilst she bought me some pads.

This may not sound like much, but my Mum is agoraphobic and used to panic even in the back garden sometimes, so this walk was really significant. She realised that I wouldn't want to go to my Dad (who used to do all the shopping back then) and braved the great outdoors for me. I really appreciated how much effort she made for me that day.

I think I might ring her tomorrow and say "thanks"!

How lovely was that- your mum is really special (())

anonymousie

Took DD2 (10) to choose some pads in Boots this week as I think she'll start soo. Treated it as a bit of special mother and daughter time. Just as well DD2 wasn't really paying attention to the SA (i made her buy them so she could find them and pay etc if she ever got stuck) who was going on about "bad timing at christmas and so young....poor thing etc"

GRRR!! It's a fact of life and you cope with it, not a blooming disaster woman!!!

Foertunately choosing the pads was easy- DD wanted the bodyform with the free lipgloss:rotfl:

Sam-Barr

My mother had recently passed away so I was living with my sister-in-law and my brother at the time. I was a fan of the library so i had read plenty of book detailing puberty and periods.

One morning when I was about 14 I woke up to find the bedsheets quite messy and knew immediately what it was.
I dragged the bedcovers downstairs and just said "I've had an accident" and bunged it all in the washing machine.
Few hours later a hand popped through my bedroom door with a pack of Always and that was that.

Invasion

There wasn't really any great fuss from my mum, though we'd talked about it before, and she'd said that I was welcome to ask any questions I wanted. Unfortunately I got my period for the first time 5 minutes before the school bus came and ended up in a huge panic, got late, and mum had to take me into school! I only used pads alone for one period I hated them so much, and became the girl to go to at school if anyone was in need of tampons because I was always so well supplied

I've now 5 years later discovered the amazing (though not for everyone, I know!) world of cloth pads and have introduced my mum to them, they're one of the things I wished I'd known about sooner! They're so pretty, you can buy teenage starter sets and they're SOOO much more comfy than horrible yucky disposables.

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Lol i have read 10 pages, got to go to bed now though as barely keeping my eyes open.

Sadly i was another who was never told (lived with auntie not mum) but was clued up thanks to school talks. I also used the rolled up tissue as i was never given pocket money so could never buy my own supplies. I also hid the knickers or threw them in the rubbish discretely. Once my aunt found them and had a raging go at me. She then proceeded to shout at me about it in front of the whole family (all males) and i was made to wash them by hand as i had to learn not to be so dirty in future. She never once thought i might be embarrased or talked to me discretely.

Thank god shortly after i ran away and ended up back in care where my foster mum was fab and very open but discrete too. I love her to bits!!! She introduced me to tampons too which i found so much better - and supplied everything monthly ready for me oh so discretely from the rest of the gang of boys.

I am very open with my daughter anyway (she's only 3 though)- she is always in and out of the loo when i am in there, she has seen the pads and asked what are they for. I have just said ladies need them and that seems to keep her happy for now. Lol, she also knows about bra's, she tells me while giggling that i have boobies and that hers are just nipples but when she is a lady she'll have boobies, bless her. She also knows about breastfeeding - she reckons she'll help me when baby comes. It's called 'mummy milk' and she'll proudly tell people she used to have 'booby milk' or 'mummy milk' when she was a baby. Lol, we also witnessed her stuffing her annabell doll up her top to 'breastfeed' - she had been watching my sis-in-law feeding the bubs and just sees it as what you do with babies, haha!

I am hoping to keep this openness with her forever so she doesn't feel to embarrassed to come to me or scared when things happen. She sees everything with me and just assumes it's what will happen when she's a lady - lol, including the hair down there and weirdly she believes she'll be dying her hair blonde (hair on the head btw, lol) as i do because she sees it as norm.

The only thing i am feeling a little sorry for her about is her dad, he won't ever embarrass her on periods but he will on bra shopping. Anyone seen the episode of 'My Wife and Kids' where dad takes the daughter bra shopping and sticks bras and that over his head? - well that'll be my two, lol. And the fact she'll have a younger brother - god i remember those days - the teasing about boobs and bras from the younger boys, hehe!

mazza1970

helena4 wrote: »

what about not having a mum any readers here only had a dad to tell?

My mum died when I was 10, when I started mine a couple of years later I told my older sister who was about 16 at the time, and she told my dad as I was so embarrased , but dad understood as my sister had to tell him when she started hers.

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

BTW i ran away for a multitude of reasons lol, not just for that haha!

Oh thought i must add OH isn't mean just very silly - bras and boobs still make him giggle but buying my monthly supplies has never been a prob for him. I remember once at 16 when i was staying at his parents with him (we have been together since 15) and i had 'come on' completely unprepared while we were watching a film and was mortified as i'd noticed in the loo and it marked my jeans a little - he said don't worry, asked me what i needed and proceeded to his local corner shop to pick the stuff up for me so i didn't have to go out (can you imagine how embarrassed a 16yr old boy must have been popping to his local shop just to buy sanitary towels - bless him). I was amazed and gobsmacked how decently he handled it and didn't make me feel embarrassed or yucky at the slightest.

Lol, i think i found a good man - he was just as good when i was in labour (OH GOD I HOPE IT IS JUST WOMEN READING THIS AS I AM STILL EMBARRASSED ABOUT THIS - damn iron tablets, lol) but i pood a little while pushing and he discretely cleared it up for me and told me not to worry as it was normal - trust me he never knew if it was normal or not at the time but anything not to make me feel embarrassed.