OberonSH's DFW Diary Thread - 1 Woman, 1 Toddler & A Whole Lotta Debt!

OberonSH

Aww, what a sweetie. Sorry to hear you're feeling rotten love. Quick, get your clothes on, pop a quick meal in the micro and spray the place with furniture polish. That way it looks like you've still cooked and cleaned, despite suffering from nasal plague. Then prepare to spend the evening being fussed over cos you're such a trooper. Works like a charm....

Well chicks, I'm hoping you're all happy and healthy, if not particularly wealthy. Here we come to spring again, and I don;t know about you guys, but I always get the spring clean bug around this time. Only lasts as long as the shake and vac, but for at least 45 minutes I'm a one-woman cleaning machine. So maybe it's time we all had a good cleanout, get the old stuff on ebay (therefore being good l'il moneysavers too) and give our places a bit of a spit n polish. I tend to find stuff I'd been looking for, like the back off the remote, paperwork I deperately needed 2 months ago and fluffy sweets. Not sure why fluffy sweets always feature, as no-one remembers buying any.....

Hopefully the ladies who are considering buying the shop will be popping in to pick up the paperwork. Keep absolutely everything crossed people, as I'm not sure what will happen if they don;t take. it. I haven't got the energy to keep up the slog it's become, and I haven't got any money left to put into it. Plus we really need to be in the states to get the new business up and running. So heh ho.

Right, I'm off to serve mad old ladies with the hopeful thought I may not have to deal with their mad requests much longer.

OberonSH

Yet again, the sale of the shop fell through. This time, the buyer went for finance, and then decided she didn;t want to secure it against her home. What did she think the bank were going to do? Be a pal and GIVE her the money?

So I'm back to square one. FIL is going to see about arranging finace (he's a financier) so I can get the place fully stocked again, LB is going to ave to g back to work and I'm going to have to do my bes to get the place running again. If I can get it doing well enough to support us and a manager, we can look at doing themove to the States, but it means our hopes of bing in Florida before Xmas are dashed.

I'm feeling pretty low right now, and could do with some cyber hugs! Just feels like everything is pnats/ I took the lass who owes me rent to court, and managed to get a tenner a week (total debt is £343). Whereas I offered my main debt (nearly £20k) £10 a month, as that was all my budget said I could afford, and they've turned me down. I know they always do this, as they think everyine has more cash than they tell them, but I'm hoping when my bank charges come back, they'll accept them as final settlement. If not than they can take me to court, and see if they get more. I guarantee they won;t. It's just such a pain in the butt.

Feels like the whole world as decided that as I'm coping so well with the situation, it'll just load on some more to see if I crack. I'm tired of owing money, I'm tired of working my bum off and not havng anything to show for it, and I'm tired of having old ladies being rude to me all day.

Sorry for the rant, but think I just needed to get it off my chest. Hey ho, I've just got to keep slogging away, and eventually it'll all come right. I suppose.

Snaggles

Obi!! ((((HUG))))

So sorry to hear about the shop.....not surprised you're feeling a bit poo.

It WILL all be okay in the end, your website looks fab and I'm sure it will take off in a big way. If I was moving to America, I don't know what I'd do without Marmite and Lea & Perrins (no, it's not a dodgy pregnancy craving lol).

Have you thought of doing some kind of 'Just Emigrated' survival pack - like a mini-hamper of UK brand goods that people could have delivered to relatives/friends in the US as a present? (Probably a rubbish idea, sorry )

Keep ranting away, and hope you start to feel more positive soon xxx

*zippy*

Hi Obie

Sending you a hug ((((Obie))))

Sorry to hear the shop fell through, horrible when you get all your plans sorted and then have to put them on the back burner for a while.

Hopefully someone else will come along quickly. Just remember you will get there its just going to take a bit longer.

zippy x

Seaxwyn

Hi Oberon

Boo hoo, what a disappointment about the shop. have a cyber hug from me.

Just a thought - and feel free to ignore it - but could you switch to selling something else other than knitting stuff if you're really sick of your old lady clientele?

tumbleweed261

Sorry to hear about the shop sale falling through :grouphug:

Good luck with the website, I used to live in Canada and the US and your website would have been fab - most of your competitors in the respective countries charge an arm and a leg (I had amazing friends who sent care packages - and my Mum's even sent Cadbury's to Serbia!), I remember getting a box of Yorkshire tea in the post in Toronto and walking past the English shop where it was "on sale" for $18 CDN (about 8 quid!) - god knows what it was at full price :eek:

Anyway, keep smiling and assassinating those debts - you're doing a brilliant job!

slowlyfading

Sending you a (hug)
nicola x

OberonSH

Thanks guys. We're really hopeful about the site, only problem is the postage. Last order cost us £42 to send out, and now we're having to replace a lot of it as the packaging was insufficient and the biccies all got crushed.

That's why we want to move over, start importing containerloads at a time then selling them in a retail store.

I'd love to sel soemthing else, but my lease won;t permit it. My clients aren't too bad, it's just that I'm horribly understocked with no way of buying more stock. So I'm in catch 22. Hopefully FIL will have some good news for me tonnight, although I usually have to patiently explain the flaws in his plans - i.e I can't sell anything other than wool etc.

I know I shouldn't have got my hopes up, but it was great thinking all the debt would be sorted, and we had a new life somewhere sunny where we were selling stuff people appreciated, rather than took for granted. Guess I've just got to plug away!

JET34

:grouphug: :grouphug: Sending you loads of hugs :grouphug: :grouphug:

OberonSH

Today is not a good day, chicks. Not only m I a mnth behind in my rent, I owe nursery £160, the shop rent is due and I only have half of it in the till, had a row with LB because I told him I was sick have being left with all the worry and having every cantankerous old b1tch through the shop door this arvo.

I've been out to pick up a jar of Quiet Life herbal tablets - last night I managed 2 hours of sleep, and I just can't function on that. I got an aromatherapy pulse rollon and that really helps. I hadn't realised that I've been walking around with a clenched jaw the last few days, and now my cheeks hurt!

I guess I'm just having a rough time of it, and I'm a bit tired. There's loads of stuff to be ebayed, FIL has offered to finance the shop, he's offered to move us into their rented bungalow when they move in a few months and pay the rent for us, so really I have it not too bad, but you know the days when you just feel like screaming 'For F*cks sake will the Universe PLEASE leave me alone for 2 bleeding minutes!!!'

I'm sure I'll be fine tomorrow, just needed a bit of a rant I guess. One day I'll be next to my paid for pool, in my beautiful paid for house in Florida looking back and saying 'remember when?'

I hope you guys are doing a bit better today than I am.