OberonSH's DFW Diary Thread - 1 Woman, 1 Toddler & A Whole Lotta Debt!

OberonSH

Morning everyone,

Well, it's all in uproar in the Obi House today! OH came in last night from his gaming club (think lots of nerds in one place, doing goodness-knows-what with little plastic models) absolutely fuming. Turns out his mental boss (recently promoted, still a bit drunk on the power) had a crack at him about the state he left the shop in the day before! Bearing in mind he was late home that night becasue it took him so long to do the paperwork and cleaning up, he was naturally a bit peeved. Not to mention the fact that it was in a social setting!! So he's decided he's had enough - his boss keeps yelling at him for not taking work home, and not spending his spare time painting models or figuring out new campaigns, like he does. J told him that he has a family and didn;t want to spend time doing unpiad work when he has 2 small children to play with, but this doesn't wash with the manager, who basically lives and breathes the job.

So poor Mr O has trotted off to a job he now hates in a right mood, and I feel really guilty because I get to stay at home and play with The Boy. I've offered to go part time, so he can drop his hours, but it's knowing how it's going to affect the tax credits - we kind of rely on them! According to Entitledto.com we could survive if Mr O came to work for my company (not drawing a wage) and TBH I'd love the help! But the actual Tax Credit site says something totally different, and we all know that what is logical and normal in this dimension has no bearing whatsoever on how your Tax Credits are worked out. I reckon they pick a number, double it, take off how many cups of coffee they've had, times the number of staples in their staplegun. Then write down a totally diffent number altogether and send that.

But he wants to support his family, and if that mean working for a guy who's either bouncing off the walls or jumung down his throat then so be it - that's why I love him. I'm a great believer in doing what makes you happy - we only get one shot at life, and if your job makes you that unhappy that you don't want to go in, then you should do something about it, I want to see him smile and get excited about what he does again. To be fair, he still loves his job, it's just all the associated rubbish that goes with it. If he was left to do what he's paid to, he'd be great. Like most compnaies the bosses don't actually look at what's possible when setting targets - in fact I think they use the Tax Credits system of maths when working them out - and generally drop big releases on them with no word of warning, then wonder why they didn't sell too much!

So today going to draw up a bit of an action plan for Mr O to do on Fiday (day off) whilst I work on my food site. I don't want to tell him what to do, per se, but think he could do with a bit of a boost. So come on all you DFW lovlies - send my OH a few happy thoughts today to get him through.

Todays tip - examine your job, or how you make your money. Does it make you happy? What aspects could you change to make it a better place to be? If you can look at it objectively and say, actually, no, I'm not bothered spending half the rest of my life doing this, then do something about it. Redo your CV, take a look at the jobs on offer where you are. You might just spot your ideal job. Persoanlly I want Lush to open a branch in Grimsby so I can work there, but failing that I'll settle for gettng my food export business up and running!

peb

OH OBi - good wishes headed towards your DH (rather than OH?)

I understand how he feels. I felt a couple of years ago that it was ok for me to leave a job I was unhappy in as I have no dependants - but when you do life ain't that simple.

OliveOyl_2

How nice to have such an honourable OH (DH?)
When you've seen the other extreme (I have too) a husband whose greatest drive is looking after his family is so lovely
Hope your plans for him work out

(I don't mean that to sound like you are some Machiavelian controller )

boredofbeingathome

I hope he finds a job he can be happy in..sounds like he is really into the warcraft thing..so why not open a rival branch? Do something he likes and irk the ex boss as well...

OberonSH

Oh Bob you read my mind, that's his little dream, and I'd love to make that happen for him (even just a spot on the local market doing role-play stuff), but like most things - it's a cash thing. He'd need money to set up. Fingers cross the FIL coughs up the money he owes us, as that I'm more than happy to let him set up with.

I'm secretly putting all my daily click cash aside for this for him as well - he think's it's going on debt overpayment!

hypno06

We can empathise completely with you - my OH has just left a job that he wasn't happy in, and has taken a (lower paid) job that I am fairly sure he will be very happy in.....and I have recently returned to a career I love and therefore am happy in my work (albeit very tired as it is sooooo intense!).

So, I am all for anything that gets you in the position you want to be in.......it is worth all the adjustments and efforts.

Positive thoughts coming to you from the hypno household!

boredofbeingathome

OberonSH wrote: »

Oh Bob you read my mind, that's his little dream, and I'd love to make that happen for him (even just a spot on the local market doing role-play stuff), but like most things - it's a cash thing. He'd need money to set up. Fingers cross the FIL coughs up the money he owes us, as that I'm more than happy to let him set up with.

I'm secretly putting all my daily click cash aside for this for him as well - he think's it's going on debt overpayment!

Oh that is lovely..I think if it all comes off he will be one happy Mr. Obi..i must get back into my daily clicks as well.

Also i reckon your monkey's have nicked my underwear as well..has all vanished ( the decent stuff) I reckon it has just worn out as am too tight to buy any more at the moment:rotfl:

OberonSH

Cheers Hypn - thought you'd know where he's coming from, with your hubby's recent doings. I've told him we can get by if he takes time out to get something else, but he's got it inot his head that without a ton of qualifications he's not going to get anywhere. Plus he knows he likes and is good at selling, but most sales jobs require weekends, and thus time away frm the kids.

It's a toughie!

OberonSH

Bad monkeys!!! Give back DD's socks, OH's pants and my new bra. And give Bob back her turnip-catchers!!!

Mudbath

Hiya
I've not posted on your thread before but wanted to send positive happy work vibes to your DH and positive paying back what you owe vibes to FIL!! At least you're understanding and he has your full support as that must make all the difference. I left a job I hated 11 years ago and set up myself. I'm never going to be a millionaire but I love my job which makes it worthwhile. Hugs to you both xx