MSE Pregnancy Club 17

kindofagilr

SUPER_SAVER wrote: »

it was last summer and within a few months i fell pregnant, he wanted this as much as i did he smokes pot too. he said he was leaving last nite but i pleaded him to stay as i love him. i couldnt sleep at all last nite and wanted him to cuddle me but he kept pushing me away. he said he's working late tonight but will be back. i just want him home to sort this mess out. I'm so stupid as i always do the running. how do i make him realise? i havent spoke to any1 and just feel so depressed could he actually love some1 he hardly knows? we've been together 9yrs this year

Yeah OH wants babybean as much as me but I honesly think he is clinging onto his youth cos he knows he cant smoke that once Elliot is here!

I dont know what to say hon, I mean !!!!!! throwing 9 years away for a flipping fling, I think its a case of grass is greener and if he goes (and I really hope he doesnt) it wont last and he will be begging you back, but thats just not fair

Gymfiend - I plan on it now lol just gonna watch films all day I think, I knnow how you feel about the sleep, it seems as though its hitting us all at the same time, I know me, you and Som are having trouble (not sure if EA Is)

gymfiend

SS I very very much doubt he loves her, from experience I'd say it was the excitement of the unknown/new, after 2 weeks, he doesn't even really know her. If he did leave, is she there waiting for him do you know? i.e. have they been in conversation about it? If I were in your shoes, as heartbreaking as it would be, I'd tell him to go and then completely ignore him, then you'll find out how he truly feels, x

Try not to feel too down hun, you have your boys to think about in all of this, xx

SUPER_SAVER_7

no he swears they haven't been in contact. He kept saying he wants and loves our family but has been trying but these thoughts won't go away he promised that he would always be truthful if a problem arosed. he only met her a few times in 2wks and never knew her b4. i don't want this family to go down the drain and mentioned councilling but he said that it was a load of rubbish.

neneromanova

Hmmmm, there's something a little fishy there if you ask me. Are you sure he's A) not already seeing her or it's a totally different girl that he's been in contact with and is trying to spare your feelings? I suppose you could do a shock tactic. Go upstairs, pack a bag for him, then when he comes home tonight give that to him and say "If you're not willing to work for our relationship then neither am I" and see what he says. It could shock him into thinking "Oh, if I do go and do this she may not be there for me when I get back. Hmmm, I have to think hard about this one"

Or it will show you what a waste of space he is and show that you are better off without him.

SUPER_SAVER_7

I'm so sorry ladies for going on,really i am x can't stop crying
He'd have to stay with his family and for all he knows she could be with some1 else. he said he needs to get away and see's if he misses me and maybe try and contact her in the meantime. I can't cope at all and don't wanna tell my mum as it'll upset her. I've only 16weks left of this pregnancy and i must admit i have been stressy but my hormones have been a mess as ive been down since ive moved out of my family town and have no1 here

SUPER_SAVER_7

He said it was this person and that he wants these thoughts of her to go away but they won't. He said he wants to be with me and loves me as the mother of his child but doesnt think hes in love with me.

barksavingmad

Bloomin nora SS you poor girl x Honestly you have to do what's right, but gosh what a terrible time to go through this whilst you're doing such an amazing job of keeping his baby safe and sound for him.

I actually agree, that buzz when you first meet someone is probably drawing him, but in the end, we all poo, we all have faults and you my lovely lady have proved more than enough that you love the man. Don't beg him lovely, I've done it, it's not a great place to be, just let him go if that's what he wants, I absolutely bet ya that he'll be knocking down your door in just a matter of days. Remember he has to deserve you, you are special, you're carrying his baby and he needs to work that out on his own.

Anyway, this woman from last year may already be settled with someone else and my god two weeks is nothing, they wouldn't have got to know eachother, the only threat is in his mind, nothing more. The reality of life has got to him for a moment but for your family and future I hope he kicks himself into touch.

Lots of hugs SS, I'll be thinking of you x

neneromanova

SUPER_SAVER wrote: »

I'm so sorry ladies for going on,really i am x can't stop crying
He'd have to stay with his family and for all he knows she could be with some1 else. he said he needs to get away and see's if he misses me and maybe try and contact her in the meantime. I can't cope at all and don't wanna tell my mum as it'll upset her. I've only 16weks left of this pregnancy and i must admit i have been stressy but my hormones have been a mess as ive been down since ive moved out of my family town and have no1 here

*hugs* I know how you feel hun. My Ex left me when I was 17 weeks pregnant. He was saying he wanted to do things that he couldn't while in a relationship, plus i never let him watch all the football he wanted *rolleyes*. My DD is nearly 2 and has never seen him or recieved any cards or anything from him. But that didn't bother me. I was pleased because I didn't want my DD seeing that men could be like that.

Although while I was pregnant with her I met my new partner 3 months before I was due to drop. He was an old work collegue and had just got out of a marraige. Just before she was due, he got very cold feet and wanted to see what he wanted. So he went off, smoked some cigs (he doesn't normally do this), drank a lot with his friend, but was always thinking about me so 2 weeks after DD was born he contacted me and said lets be together.

That could be what your OH wants. He's scared that he has a kid coming soon. I would step back, let him have the thinking time he needs to get his head sorted. Chances are the other woman has a new man and will tell him to jog on.

gymfiend

Oh SS I feel so sad for you If he were to leave and contact her and she were still interested knowing you're pregnant with his child, she'd be a fool to take him on anyway, he's hardly showing himself to be a wonderful, caring man is he? Hopefully it's just a case of cold feet as the reality of a baby kicks in, x

LITTLEMISSFLOWER

Hi Ladies,

Watched half of one born every min :Dbut OH's dad came to fix the boiler and i felt a bit werid watching it with him here.(Dont know why) :eek:anyway he needed a part booooooo :mad:so OH got up at 6am to go and get it before work so i had some hot water (thanks god):T

Som: i Know how you feel in the lack of sleep and its just rubbish on tv in the night. hope your getting your zzzzz now.

SS, i feel for you i really do (((((((((hugs))))))))) It maybe he is feeling overwhemed with everything.(not thats right) I would also tell him to go and clear his head.

Hope everyone else is well, i also have no plans today.