MSE Pregnancy Club 17

three2be

Nikki don't worry too much about it as last time mine was small lower end of the scale too and sent the MW in a panic but this week he is bang on the center line of the growth chart so i think they just take growth spurts, My DD was only 4. 13 and she is now bigger than her older cousin so even if small they can make up for it when older.

BeenieCat

CAFCGirl wrote: »

Hi Beenie,

Just wanted to say I really feel for you given how your ex has been, but you're a strong moter, just look at how far you've come with DS, your nw addition is truly blessed to have a mum whose not going to take any cr*p from a fella..... and thats a good lesson for a baby to learn.....

Plus I saw somewhere that you live in Darlington (poss my mistake though) DH and I are moving there in a week, so I can offer you some decorating help when Im up there

Hi CAFC, yeah i do, aww yay for you coming to live here lol, although i have no idea why you'd want to Think there's only me and kindof from the n.east on here but there's a few on the parents thread! And thank you that's so kind ::):)
/wells up

After some investigations (i/e ripping off some wallpaper) in the hallway, i've discovered i can't decorate in there for a while yet, cos we had a leak and it's made the wall crumble, so will have to ring the LA and get them to re-plaster it before i put anything new on it.

fernliebee wrote: »

Aw beenie, sorry your feeling so low today, you will do great without a man. You got your two LO's and by the sounds of it the 'man' you had would have been more of a hinderance anyway, your best shot of him. Don't give yourself the guilts for believing his lies, he is in the wrong for lying not you for believing him.

If you lived near me, I'd come and do some glossing for you! Thats one job I don't mind! I can understand why you feel you need it doing, is there no way you could beg some friends fro a wee hand to decorate and you cook them some dinner or a buy a pizza or something- thats what friends are for, and I bet they wouldn't mind, you would just feel bad for asking.

I try to tell myself that a lot, but his lies made me quite paranoid so he's good at twisting it around to make it seem like it was my fault. If we ever argued he'd tell me how his ex would never have done/said that, and how he had a glorious x amount of years with her as she was so perfect etc etc, then he'd do stuff like text her for ages (innocent stuff, about their kids, for example) but would delete the texts so that i would get paranoid thinking he was hiding something.
Then at 20wks preg we had a huge fight and he went knocking on her door, crying saying i'd kicked him out because he'd told me he wanted her!! (why the hell would he tell her that unless he wanted her to think it?!)
So he missed the anomoly scan, and stole my bloody car (i've got it back since) This was at the start of the summer hols and he took my DS's Wii console with him (technically he'd paid for it, but it still riled me) :mad::mad:

My friends... well when i got with the ex, it caused a bit of awkwardness between our friends, we'd all worked together for years (plus his ex) so when i left and was with him, i lost contact with most of them.
I've got a couple of people i consider good friends, and i honestly haven't seen or heard much of them throughout my whole pregnancy. My best mate knows i'm having a hard time cos last time i spoke to her i sobbed on the phone, and she bought me some maternity leggings which was lovely, but she doesn't seem to understand how lonely it is and she's having lots of fun going out judging by her FB.
I'm a bit of a loner at the mo so this thread has been a saviour for me :T

lauzjp wrote: »

My God, he doesn't deserve your tears, nor anything else. :mad:

I really really hope that you never take him back, he'll never change, look how many times he's been such a :silenced:.

I don't know how on earth you are doing all this, all I do is stand by a till, put a few things out, etc. for a few hours & I'm knackered! I have to lie down afterwards, and will be asleep by 7pm. I wish I lived near you though, cos I would come & help you out. I'm resisting the urge to go on your fb and call your 'friends' names.. Why are none of them offering to help you? Or have they?

No offence Beenie, I just seem to be a bit grumpy today - two girls moaned that 2 different packs of chicken breasts didn't look the same erm... :rotfl:

I just hate myself for having been so lazy for so many weeks, i could have had it all done by now but he kept telling me not to do anything cos he'd do it all when he came back!!
He kept saying he wanted to do the decorating himself so it could feel like his home too, cos i've lived here for ages before i got with him.

I've done nothing today anyway lol, except take DS to a party and i couldn't be bothered to sit making small talk with other parents so made myself scarce and went to Primark for some nighties and slippers for my hospital bag! Hoping by the time i dig everything out of the cupboard i should have everything i need to pack!

Kindof - Yay i'm excited :T:beer: Also, i've had that feeling loads, the one you describe as having had action haha, i had it when i was about your stage too.


Lou - i am convinced you're having a boy, but you're team yellow aren't you?? I have no idea why i think that lol! I feel like i don't want to be too far from home too, really think i haven't got long left at all :eek:

three - am so glad you're back posting, and glad bump is doing well. We've all been thinking of you :grouphug:


I need a lie down after all that ranting now :rotfl:

three2be

BeenieCat wrote: »

I'm a bit of a loner at the mo so this thread has been a saviour for me :T

I think allot of us have a bit of a reliance on this thread, sometimes when i was finding it hard in the early hours i would come on and read a couple of pages and it would help me feel like normal life existed after all.

~Didn't feel like posting though as sometimes i think i would have scared everyone off the thread lol But i like to know that some of the pg stuff i experience is normal and what i have to expect and of course rant away when i can't IRL.

Your ex is an idiot for running back to an ex like that but considering what he done to her and she's took him back !!!!!! thats just asking for trouble, she'll soon realize and kick him to the kerb just make sure you don't listen to the sob story.

Somnium

SJ - I like that cot bed, should be easy to match up with other furniture and a fab price too. Only posted Hipg on wed so cant help with timings am afraid.

Esio trot - good luck for the scan, am sure will all be fine tho xx

Sami bee - thanks for all the info re swine flu. have already decided to have it and am booked in next saturday morning, just hope I dont pick up anything between now and then as there have been a few cases at work!

Beenie - huggles, and rant away he really left you in the worst way, hanging! Hope the comp doesn't die cos we will miss you. Is your mum not helping you with painting?

EA - thats so cool that you could feel lilly bump so clearly

Nikkit - boo to feeling rubbish, hope it doesnt last and you fell better soon xx love the the 1st ticker.

jha - sorry your antenatel class wasnt what you expected but at least you got to have a good look about and know what you want now.

32b - yeay good to see you xx Sorry you seem to have such an unsympathetic hospital, grr!

well woke up this morning with lots of pressure around the pubic area, made walking etc really uncomfortable, so took a slow walk to work which meant I was late! Work were ok tho, but I did say wasnt sure if I'd last the day. I did but was uncomfy and am exhausted now. OH cooked a lovely BBQ chicken veg and rice tho, so was able to come in and get my pjs on and chill straight off which is so nice. Lil girl bit more active today but not much, maybe just being paranoid or maybe the pressure is just her shifting in position.

Fishcake_Random

Rant alert.

Our neighbour from downstairs has just come into our flat. Literally knocked on the door and then walked in when OH opened it. He's competely !!!!ed and stoned off his head. Just popped in for a chat and now we cant get rid of him. He just keep talking about how much he respects us and can he help us and how tragic his life is.
Its scaring the hell out of me because he wont take a hint and looks like hes going to fall over!!!! Im also sat in my dressing gown under a blanket so I dont feel "suitable" to be seen. Get him out of my house!!!!!

three2be

Beenie in reply to your question on the parent thread i found baby would fall into the routine well after a week. main thing would be the timing of the feeds early on. i found that after DS's morning feed i was able to change his nappy get him dressed and into his pram/ car seat. so i was still free to see to DD's breakfast etc and he was ready to go when we were. without having to dress/feed last minute.

That usually ment i had time after dropping of DD to get the shops or pay bills/make calls before the next feed. HTH

OMG fishcake what an idiot!!!! if he can't take the hint be blunt tell him you are PG and need an early night please leave and get OH to escort him to the door.

Fishcake_Random

He is now begging us to give him our baby when we have it because hes 38 and he doesnt have any babys and he thinks he would love to have one. WTH?

kindofagilr

Somnium wrote: »

well woke up this morning with lots of pressure around the pubic area, made walking etc really uncomfortable, so took a slow walk to work which meant I was late! Work were ok tho, but I did say wasnt sure if I'd last the day. I did but was uncomfy and am exhausted now. OH cooked a lovely BBQ chicken veg and rice tho, so was able to come in and get my pjs on and chill straight off which is so nice. Lil girl bit more active today but not much, maybe just being paranoid or maybe the pressure is just her shifting in position.

Looks like we are exactly the same today! Honeslty its so bad isnt it, we went to the shops and post office today and we had to walk so slow we were practically stopped!

I think we missed the lesbian postwoman picking the post up today lol so it wont leave Ashington till monday, I got a tracking number.

Awww god fishcake I hope you get him out

BeenieCat

Ah thanks three that makes sense, i hope she isn't gonna be tooooooooo demanding lol, my DS was a lovely easy baby but i didn't have any other kids to think about then! At least he'll be off for Xmas for a few weeks when she's tiny so i should be able to try and get into some routine before he goes back!

jha

:eek: Fishcake

can you oh tempt him out of the house with an offer of a pint or chips or something and then abandon him and run back in the house:rotfl:A random guy walked into our student flat once in halls and thats how i got him out:D