MSE Pregnancy Club 17

fernliebee

I pulled a muscle in my stomach on fri (by being sick, great another reason to love MS *rolleyes smiley*) In a way it was quite good as it has alerted me to a lot of things I have been doing that I should take a bit easier or do properly. Like when lifting DD I'm leaning over and picking her which is not good (for bump or my back) so I've been on a bit of a mission of finding ways to make things easier on my tum. Things like out of habit I just pick DD up when going up and down stairs, she is more than capable of going up and down so been encouraging her to do a bit more that I know she is capable of, like climbing up and down from chairs etc.

Anyways, a friend heard I had been in pain and she just popped round with some choccies for me, and invited me to lunch on Sat too, I was touched that she had been thinking about me over something that I count as fairly minor. Made me a bit emotional- damn hormones!

Oooh! Also took DD swimming today and it was sooooo lovely. Haven't been for a few weeks and my bump must be bigger as taking the weight off was amazing, I never wanted to get out!! Must remember to go without DD so I can have a relaxing swim rather than chasing her round the pool, trying to convince her that, yes, she really does need some sort of help to swim!! She has no fear, but can't yet swim (obv she is only 21 months so I'm not saying she should be able to) but she is convinced she can and was fighting to get away from me, wouldn't have ring/ armbands/ the noodley thing she swims with, and then kept sinking down and couldn't get up. I would lift her out of the water and she would cry "again, again, Go on Own, I sure, I sure" ha ha! Hardly relaxing!

CAFCGirl

pigpen wrote: »

CAFC.. blubbering is a vital part of pregnancy.. I am feeling a bit neglected as well.. and it isn't even my birthday.. I hate my birthday.

I do too now....

Am just fed up with being on my own all the time and feeling ignored by DH. I mean he is lovely, and if I wasnt pregnant it wouldnt be a problem.

I just wish he was a bit more like everyone else's OH's LOL..... they all seem so supportive, couldnt do too much for them etc.... and I dont know if sometimes I dont feel like we have totally opposing views over the baby...
Its like I dont know when hes making jokes and when hes serious...

Fell asleep for a couple of hours with the dog on the sofa, woke up and just cried some more....

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

CAFC the grass always seems greener on the other side

My husband laughs when he hears me being sick, he stayed out to 6.30 on Friday night/saturday morning, he never bought me anything for mother's day... I could go on but I won't

We've known each other 12 years, being living together 6, and married 2, we have a 6 year old & one on the way

I might sound mad staying with a man like this but

On the up side I know he would never be unfaithful, he would do anything I ask him to ( he needs prompting for everything, I tell him what I want for birthdays etc, in fact sometimes I buy it and give him the bill ) He is the most patient man in the world, would let me shout at him for ever ( hormones )and never shout back, he would never lift a hand me or our son, he works hard and cooks & cleans and I love him. I am a very unique person ( weird and wonderful ways ) he has learned to love my faults & I have learned to love his, That's life.

Sometimes the lack of spontanity ( sp ) does my head in but at least I know if I want breakfast in bed all I have to do is ask, if I want to go out for a meal I ask, If I was flowers I buy them myself ( cos I know he would spend £50 on a bunch and I could get them for £5, very MSE ) . I would love to live the pretty woman lifestyle but I'm pretty sure it doesn't exist

Hope this makes you feel a bit better

CAFCGirl

not really LOL

At least you get it when you ask.....

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

He has learned that if I don't get, a black cloud decends :rotfl: Anything for a quiet life

pigpen

CAFCGirl wrote: »

I do too now....

Am just fed up with being on my own all the time and feeling ignored by DH. I mean he is lovely, and if I wasnt pregnant it wouldnt be a problem.

I just wish he was a bit more like everyone else's OH's LOL..... they all seem so supportive, couldnt do too much for them etc.... and I dont know if sometimes I dont feel like we have totally opposing views over the baby...
Its like I dont know when hes making jokes and when hes serious...

Fell asleep for a couple of hours with the dog on the sofa, woke up and just cried some more....

I'm NEVER on my own.. that has its downsides too!

He isn't supportive really.. just terrified lol. We have so far agreed on absolutely nothing..

hospitals, births, appointments, names, vaccinations.. gender.. the works!

I think it is quite normal.. we all have our own ideas about how things are an dhow we think they are supposed to be and what we would like for the future.. the trick is knowing when you are becoming childish and sticking to your guns just because you can.. and sticking to your guns when you know you are correct.

Once baby arrives it will be different.. it may just be a case of he'll back down for the sake of peace or you will agree because you have the same ultimate goal.. to create a loving, well adjusted, sensible adult human being.

It'll turn out ok.. my ex-KH always said it was not like we were having a baby it was like I turned into the spawn of satan.. after a few months of being evil I dragged him to the hospital churned out a bawling bogey and THEN we had a baby.. he could never apparently comprehend it was happening until baby arrived.. it was all just hearsay until then.

I could understand it being difficult for a man to understand as they cannot feel baby moving or the tiredness or general crappiness etc and for them knowing that whatever they say or do we will dissolve into tears anyway.

I never want much more than a hug and to know I am oved.. it isn't a great deal.. though I do require copious amounts of tea and juice.

I think it would serve you both well to sit down and talk this out.

JoleneM

Hello,

I am fed up today, been to see consultant and he has put my c-section back a week, because he is going on holiday! I was having it on the 6th April but will now have it on the 13th April, so instead of 3 weeks left I now have 4 weeks! Not fair! I am so fed up now, back aches, and sooo tired!

Jolene

bexta

YAY SOMNIUM!!!!!! Congratulations on your little lady!

CAFC - Happy Birthday! Sorry you're having a hard time of it at the moment. I'm not sure of your full situation, but I guess all of us react to stress in our way, and regardless of how much our bubs are wanted, it is a stressful thing to go through. Everyday things that we might be able to work through with our 'regular' heads on, become heightened through everything that's going on with our bodies, and thoughts for this little life that we have to protect forever.

Sorry, I'm not meaning to sound doom and gloom, I know you have your good days as well as your bad. I always used to find writing very cathartic when I was like that. You just keep writing until it's all out of you - then press 'delete'. Might sound nutty, but it stopped me going pop before.

nickynoo08

gymfiend wrote: »

Nicky - I've heard it's really painful and am fairly sure someone mentioned to me recently that after 35 weeks they won't try and turn (in Leeds anyway) as baby is too big? Sorry, prob not what you wanted to hear, hope it goes well, x

After speaking to my friend who also opted to have it done, she thinks i'm barmy. She said it was really painful!!! I've read and heard more bad things about them than good although i may be looking in the wrong places.

pigpen wrote: »

Nicky.. You do NOT have to have a section if baby is breech.. though it is advisable if footling as that can be quite dangerous for baby.. normal bum first isn't anywhere near as dangerous.. hospital staff have little experience in delivering breech babies so tell you it is imperative you have a section because of their inefficiencies!! If they turn baby now it is more than possble for him to turn back!! They can turn right up until delivery!! Turning them is soemtimes painful.. depends on the size of the baby and he position they are in.. it is easy enough to do yourself anyway.. rubbing the top of the baby's head often makes them flip over... kneeling on all 4's with bum in the air is meant to help too.. best to have legs on the chair or bed and head on the floor. Birthing ball practice helps too.

The midwife did mention i could opt for a breech birth but not many have been peformed at my chosen hospital and many of those that have, have ended up being an emergency section:(
Unfortunately for me my babys head is right under my ribcage, so i've been told it may be more painful than normal. Also midwife could only tell me if he was breech or not so have to have another scan tomoro to see if he's footling breech or not. Since my midwife mentioned i may be breech i've tried all fours the lot to get this baby moving. All he did was turn over:rotfl:. I think i've more or less talked myself in to booking an elective cesarean tomoro although i'm still nervous about that too:o

pigpen

Having had 3 sections and almost died myself as a result of the botch job done the first time I would never ever in a million years go for an elective.. it is a barbaric practice. I have 3 horror stories that would make your grandmothers hair curl!! surgeon number 1 has lost his licence!! surgeon number 2 wanted photographs because they had never seen so much damage and the person and baby still alive.. though DD has cerebral palsy.

If his head is so high there is absolutely no reason to think he won't turn on his own.. play it by ear you can always wait until you go into labour and see how he is laid then and make the decision at that stage.. you don't have to make a decision at all now.