MSE Pregnancy Club 17

redstararnie76

CAFC - Sending you hugs. It's no wonder you feel rubbish, our hormones are all over the place, I keep crying at the most stupid things... I keep feeling really sorry for myself. It's not that much longer and it'll all be worth while.
Xmas - thank-you for your comment, I really appreciate it. It feels silly to be so nervous about spending more time with my own daughter (which I've really been looking forward to!), but I've always admired mums who stay at home and never believed that I would have the patience to stay at home with the children all the time. At the moment, the plan is for me to go back to work in January, but to even spend some time together at home is a big step for us.

gymfiend

Nicky - I've heard it's really painful and am fairly sure someone mentioned to me recently that after 35 weeks they won't try and turn (in Leeds anyway) as baby is too big? Sorry, prob not what you wanted to hear, hope it goes well, x

Cafc happy birthday Sorry you're down, x

Not sure what to say Mermaid, I guess only you will be able to tell from talking to OH whether it's true or not?x

Redstar glad you're having a nice first day off with DD It'll be lovely for you to have some mummy daughter time before the new LO

Hope Som's induction is going well & really hope Kindof is in hospital having Elliot now! I knew I'd be the last one! People are starting to do my head in now, everyone has advice, eat pinaepple, walk up the stairs sideways, telling me to go and tell the midwife I want to be induced on such and such day, I should ask for a sweep today not have to wait til tomorrow, blah blah blah blah blah. I wish people would just leave me be, he'll come when he decides! My dad has always said he'll arrive on the 19th so in my mind I'm sorta thinking I'd like to wait til Friday to make any decisions, cos maybe he just will arrive then (stupid, I know!)...gah

mermaid85

yes, he's told me I'm disgusting for accusing him of it. BUT when we got together we didn't dtd for over 4 months, he had "problems" with it, and eventually came out that he had been raped by a bloke 6 months before meeting me. Which is when this guy is claiming they slept together. So I really don't know what to think. Also don't understand why I'm being told by him that oh dated this girl - the blokes friend - when he always told me he hadn't. I've seen pics of them out for her birthday with a group, she told everyone then that they were together but he is adament that they never kissed. There are some pics of them hugging but he's smashed so doesn't prove they were together.

conventgirl

Cafc....sorry your feeling really down. I think you should tell your OH how you are feeling and that you need some more loving. I know i have needed extra as i just dont feel very attractive any more (but i think that because i dont fit into anything) We have only got 13 weeks left which will fly by. Oh and happy birthday

Mermaid...sorry you are having a rough time too. You really need to know the truth so you can look out for yourself

Big hugs to you both

xx

redstararnie76

Mermaid, I'm sorry you're having such a bad time.
This person may just be stirring, but even if they are telling the truth, it was before you got together and if your OH knows how insecure you feel, he may feel that he's protecting you by not being entirely honest (men have really stupid rationale sometimes!).
You've been with your OH for a year, and he wouldn't be with you if that girl meant anything (assuming it's true...), so while I can understand that you feel hurt, you need to talk to him - take a deep breath and try to hear him out. I know its hard, especially when you're pregnant - God knows, our emotions are all over the place anyway. Good luck - I'm sending you a virtual hug.

redstararnie76

Mermaid, only just read your other post - you really need to talk to him about it, it's odd that this bloke has just got in touch now.

CAFCGirl

ive tried telling him but it just doesnt seem to sink in....
Its like if my calves hurt, i'll ask him to rub them for me and he makes such a stink about it, and will do it for like 3 minutes and then give up.... so part of me just thinks whats the point of asking....
I'll ask him to come and talk to me while im in the bath but he'll want to go on the internet....
And like last night i asked him how much longer he was gonna be on the laptop, and he said not long, so eventually he signs off and gives me the laptop, and i said I didnt want it I just wanted you off of it so that we can spend time together.....

just feel like im such a mess,

Mermaid - i dont know what to suggest about your OH, you've just got to work out for yourself whether or not you believe him, and can let it go i guess....
Sorry to hear about what happened to your OH, that must be traumatic....

Not sure what else to say really apart from sending you virtual hugs xx

mermaid85

Thanks CAFC - if his version is true, it really must have been but now I'm having doubts Sounds like your OH needs a talking to x

Thanks redstar - prob is I have serious issues with lies, and although it would have been before me it's not so much that he was with her that bothers me, but that he's lied about it. And I really really don't know if I can be with him if he has willingly been with a bloke. I know that's prob v narrow minded, I don't have a prob with gays but I don't want one for my oh and baby's dad

redstararnie76

mermaid85 wrote: »

Thanks redstar - prob is I have serious issues with lies, and although it would have been before me it's not so much that he was with her that bothers me, but that he's lied about it. And I really really don't know if I can be with him if he has willingly been with a bloke. I know that's prob v narrow minded, I don't have a prob with gays but I don't want one for my oh and baby's dad

I can understand that completely, but there may be more to it than meets the eye... it's a bit odd that this guy has started stirring when you've been together a year. Regardless, it must be horrible trying to deal with this now, so just try and take care of yourself and baby.

mermaid85

redstararnie76 wrote: »

I can understand that completely, but there may be more to it than meets the eye... it's a bit odd that this guy has started stirring when you've been together a year. Regardless, it must be horrible trying to deal with this now, so just try and take care of yourself and baby.

True - I know he was texting OH when we first were together, but don't know any of what was said, they were deleted and eventually he changed his number. Is my fault really, I found OH old sim card and there was a text from this number sent at 3 am one weekend asking if he was out - which obviously is a bit weird, and not saved so I text it asking who is. Had made out was OH to start, then he started on about how they had been together and I said he better prove as it's not OH, his gf. Has then escalated a bit from there. :( One of them things you know you shouldn't do but as feeling really rubbish wanted some evidence that he's not lying to me about stuff.