MSE Parents Club Part 8

feelinggood_2

weezl74 wrote: »

has anyone read any good books on raising children with healthy self-esteem?

I haven't (as I can't read) but it is a very interesting topic! One thing I've purposefully done since LO was born, is to praise him for the things I want him to value. Although I do say 'who is a beautiful boy' often enough so he knows I think he is gorgeous, I try really hard to tell him when he is being: helpful, kind, affectionate, focused, determined, hard-working, patient, loving etc - the qualities I want him to know are important. It was hard as a baby, but easier now that he actually demonstrates those qualities. Not directly related to your question, but thought you might be interested

wi3adora

Morning x

I'm so tired/angry so excuse me if I'm not very talkative. At least I have LO to cheer me up this morning

tinkerbelluk

morning all,

sorry for coming on and having a moan but feeling totally pants today. We had to put our dog down yesterday and I'm at the stage where I don't know how much more I can take, in the last 6 months we've lost my FIL, I was at the doctors daily to be treated for my c-section infection for 17 weeks, DH has lost his job, and now the dogs gone as well.

I can't help but feel we've done nothing wrong so why are all these bad things happening to us The only positive was the safe arrival of my DD but I genuinely don't think I can cope with much more.

As I said sorry for moaning I'm just feeling at a loss.

weezl74

tinkerbelluk wrote: »

morning all,

sorry for coming on and having a moan but feeling totally pants today. We had to put our dog down yesterday and I'm at the stage where I don't know how much more I can take, in the last 6 months we've lost my FIL, I was at the doctors daily to be treated for my c-section infection for 17 weeks, DH has lost his job, and now the dogs gone as well.

I can't help but feel we've done nothing wrong so why are all these bad things happening to us The only positive was the safe arrival of my DD but I genuinely don't think I can cope with much more.

As I said sorry for moaning I'm just feeling at a loss.

I think it's so confusing and hard when bad things happen to good people. Makes the world seem really unfair. So sorry to hear things are bad. As you say, so good that evie's hear safely, but GAH! about everything else.

Hugs for you. x

money_maker_3

((hugs)) needed all round this morning

feelie, thats what I do with both the kids It is far more important to praise the good things than punish the bad !

dora, whats up hun?

aww tink, ?I am so sorry to hear that. Not your fault about the c-section scar though, I've been there though not for as long, mine took just under 4 months to heal first time as it was constantly infected. Hope youre ok and moan on here as much as you need to

money_maker_3

You all organised for christmas weezl?

money_maker_3

OK, since no one seems to want to talk to me, I'm away to do some housework instead.
Bye

jillie1974

hi mm!!! thats carp bout preston but we shoukd organise a meet while you are here!

would suggest belfast when i'm home but dont think we've got a spare day!! never been to belfast so would have been fun

feelinggood_2

Aww, sorry MM Have nice housework!

3onitsway

Tink Hugs hunny - and what Weezl said. I often wonder why !!!!!! happens to nice people. But if you believe in bad things happening in threes - you've already had your fair share so 2010 will be a perfect/happy year.

Dora More hugs - whats up?

money_maker wrote: »

OK, since no one seems to want to talk to me, I'm away to do some housework instead.
Bye

I'm here! We've only just got up. V had a bottle at 7, then we all went back to sleep.
DS gets collected for playscheme at 9 - and we didn't hear them knocking. :mad:

feelinggood wrote: »

I haven't (as I can't read) but it is a very interesting topic! One thing I've purposefully done since LO was born, is to praise him for the things I want him to value. Although I do say 'who is a beautiful boy' often enough so he knows I think he is gorgeous, I try really hard to tell him when he is being: helpful, kind, affectionate, focused, determined, hard-working, patient, loving etc - the qualities I want him to know are important. It was hard as a baby, but easier now that he actually demonstrates those qualities. Not directly related to your question, but thought you might be interested

Thats sounds perfect Feelie. I do try to do the same - but wonder if i've done it too much with Liv and created a vain monster will too much self esteem!