MSE Parents Club Part 8

BeenieCat

hehe yay i'm loving all the name talk, i'm lurking with my notepad/spreadsheet :rotfl: Yes tia, tell me this new childs name, i'm all about the stealage

Just been to put the rest of my stuff in hospital bag and sat with my dog and had a lil cry over how messed up this whole situation is. I'm almost guaranteed to be going to hospital alone when i go into labour, my friend has given me a few time/day restricted possibilities for getting DS looked after it has to fit around her work as she can't get leave, but obviously i can't predict when baby will come :rolleyes:
It was always complicated but it was simpler before my mother decided she had better things to do than help her heavily pregnant and completely alone daughter, such as sitting on her fat stinking selfish waste of space backside all day doing nothing. Haven't heard from her in well over a week and refuse to call upon her no matter how desperate i am.

Feeling v.emotional today, hate my ex soooooooooooo much for putting me in this position while he's swanning off living it up, especially as it was him who convinced me we were ready for this baby. Just don't know why the people who should be helping me are not interested it's not like i'm a b!tch who has chased them all away.

Also annoyed at myself because i thought mw appt was 1pm but it's not, it's at school picking up time, when i took the appt i thought mother could help but seemingly not. So have had to ask my sister which i didn't want to do cos she's being funny with me, like i keep offering to have her kids when she's in need but she'd rather ask her neighbours and make out like i do nothing for her, if that makes sense. So it makes me feel bad if i ever ask her to do anything for me??

Sorry, just feeling sorry for myself today, need someone to give me a slap.

searching_me

woohooo i drove home and did really well next lesson is on monday x

searching_me

ooooooooooo forgot to say THANK YOU TIA FAIRIES!!!!!!!!!!!!! recieved them today and she will LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE them x

ManOnTheMoon

BeenieCat wrote: »

Feeling v.emotional today, hate my ex soooooooooooo much for putting me in this position while he's swanning off living it up, especially as it was him who convinced me we were ready for this baby. Just don't know why the people who should be helping me are not interested it's not like i'm a b!tch who has chased them all away.

Hey, in time he'll be the one missing out on seeing his baby growing up. Yes, you and child will miss out too, but any parent who doesn't want to see their children is the ones who miss out in the long term, especially when older and child turns around and tells grovelling parent to go forth and multiply - and I know all about mothers who leave and want nothing to do with their children, and kids who would tell them to go take a hike, even if they did return now.

Not sure if you want to go down CSA route, but if you do, I wish you all the very best in taking his sorry backside for what your child is due.

I know no-one from here can physically be with you, but everyone is here to help in any way they can.

Best of luck with it all and remember those in the hospital helping you with the baby are there for you and offspring.

I don't know if you are religious, but most hospitals have Chaplain's nowadays, that you can call upon to come and visit you and discuss anything, so don't feel alone.

jillie1974

aww beenie. if i lived near to you i'd help out!!

nice driving sm!!

SugarSpun

Where do you live, Beenie? I know a couple of doulas and if you're nearby to them I can pass on information if you want.

csh_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

CSH I think the potatoes can be parboiled and then thrown in the turkey tray while the turkey's resting and you're doing other veg and gravy?

Thats how I usually do the roasters but theres no chance that I can fit enough for 9 people in! Hoping to cook them xmas eve and do some kind of reheat on the day, just need to find the best way. Lots of peeling later I think.

I didn't realise German effiency didn't stretch to hospital care, I'm actually quite shocked!!

Buttonmoons

beenie, I was supposed to be going to Darlington this weekend, for some reason I think you live near there? I could of been your birth buddy, not that I'd be much use, I always have snacks on me though :rotfl: I couldn't go because Keira is Ill

Sami_Bee

awww Beenie :grouphug: have you spoken to your MW, surestart or the NCT? there might be someone who could help. Do you really want/need to go to hospital for the birth? maybe a HB would be simpler? you'd get 2 MWs to yourself, Chris slept through my labour, he only woke up when OH went in because he'd fell out of bed and he could hear voices and your DS is older so could he be trusted to stat put in his room or where ever if you make up a lunch box for him so he only needs to come out to pee

csh_2

Beenie, Why not give the delivery suite a wee ring and tell them you are having to birth alone and you are a bit scared? They might be able to arrange to get a student to stay with you or maybe if they are quiet make sure they have a MW that can stay with you the full time?