MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Serena pay twice for Blair?

edited 3 November 2009 at 6:04PM in Money Saving Polls
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  • LongTermLurkerLongTermLurker Forumite
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    A stone's a lot - she should find a new bridesmaid and ditch the bloater! :D
    You've never seen me, but I've been here all along - watching and learning...:cool:
  • niki23 wrote: »
    I had a similar problem to this when I was a bridesmaid. My friend bought 3 bridesmaids dresses on offer from a shop two at size 14 and a 12. The 14 fit her sister perfectly, however whilst I was a size 10 I have quite big curves. This shouldn't have been a problem as these dresses were corset style, however she gave me the size 14 and the other girl, who was rather large got the 12.

    I tried the dress on and it hung off me, but couldn't be adjusted enough due to the bones. I kept telling my friend, but she was mortified about asking the other girl to swap with me. Eventually we did swap 10 months later, 2 months before the wedding. Both of us put on a bit of weight in the next month, lucky for me really, as I then fitted perfectly into the size 12 and didn't need adjustments but the other girl only just about squeezed into hers and could only eat half of the reception meal (as the dress restricted her)

    Weight with girls is always an issue. It depends how long ago it was fitted I guess, you can't expect someone to stay the same weight for months after the fitting.

    I have no idea what I would do. I guessas the bride I would ask for half, they are supposed to be your "maids" after all, supposed to makes the bride's job easier not more difficult!
    Surely this is a different situation though, the bride bought them On offer without getting you all measured.

    I would say Blair should pay, it's not the bride's fault she shovelled that amount of food down her!

    I am getting married and would hate this to happen to me, but the bridesmaid would have to pay for 2nd one.....
    Can't think of anything funny to put here!
  • scataudoscataudo Forumite
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    Of course she does.......what did she eat to put on a stone, anyway?!

    (disclaimer: I'm aware it's hypothetical, I just can't help being sarcastic)
  • If Blair was so quick to over indulge on her jollies, she should dig deep and pay for a new dress. Failing that, she should be graceful enough to step down and let a slimmer bird take her place.

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  • meames_2meames_2 Forumite
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    i used to work for a weight club , and believe me 7lbs in a week was nothing so a stone in a fortnight is quite usual, easily caused by drinking more on holiday, eating different food (hotel buffets, restuarants) and possibly being a lot less active. It is not acceptable to call the bridesmaid a piggy or other such insults.

    Some people would be able to moderate their eating on holiday if they had such big event but it isn't so easy for everyone.

    From somone who was a size 12 (at the time!!) and still called the fat girl by the woman in the shop, I can understand that Blair may be mortified by her weight gain and would probably should offer some sort of compromise in payment
  • edited 4 November 2009 at 10:28PM
    jr66jr66 Forumite
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    edited 4 November 2009 at 10:28PM
    I don't see there is even a question here. Won't the shop exchange for a larger size? If not Serena asked Blair to be her bridesmaid which Blair presumably considered an honour. She agreed and the dress was bought. Blair knew what size the dress was, and she should have been responsible enough to ensure she did not put the extra weight on before the wedding - A STONE!!! - you'd have to do some serious eating to put that much on. Whatever happened to personal responsibility? Why should Serena pay for another dress because of Blair's thoughtlessness? Blair should not be expecting Serena to pay as it's her fault the problem has ocurred. She should offer to buy another dress, and give Serena the opportunity to either accept Blair's offer or say she's happy to replace it herself.
  • LongTermLurkerLongTermLurker Forumite
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    niki23 wrote: »
    Both of us put on a bit of weight in the next month, lucky for me really, as I then fitted perfectly into the size 12 and didn't need adjustments but the other girl only just about squeezed into hers and could only eat half of the reception meal (as the dress restricted her)
    How many guests had to share the other half? Good job she didn't have a twin :rotfl:
    You've never seen me, but I've been here all along - watching and learning...:cool:
  • Maybe Blair went on an all-inclusive holiday and was just trying to get her money's worth!
  • edited 4 November 2009 at 11:08PM
    leeleepopleeleepop Forumite
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    edited 4 November 2009 at 11:08PM
    The bridesmaid should definitely pay for this new dress.

    If one of my bridesmaids had bloated on holiday before the wedding, i'd offer to pay for another dress - but wholly expect them to decline this. If in the end i had to shell out for a 2nd dress i'd be very put out.

    I paid for all four of my bridesmaids to have a dress, bolero and matching bag, and for my 2 flower girls to have a dress, cardigan and bag, (plus their gifts of course). I let them wear whatever shoes they wanted (asked for ideally darker shoes to match their dresses) but did ask for the flower girls parents to have them wear ivory shoes (which they bought). Then again, i was a bridesmaid myself recently, but in this case it was me who had to buy the dress and shoes.

    If you're true friends you would only be arguing over who pays ie - each insisting to pay for the dress themself.
  • Blair should certainly have to pay for it - she knew it was measured up, and every woman I've ever known with a dress specifically meant for an event ensures that they will fit into it when the occasion comes.

    However, if Blair refuses, then at the end of the day it's up to Serena. She can ditch her mate in disgust at her attitude and find someone else, ditch her and forget all about it, or decide that it's too important a day to take issue over something like that and just pay out for a new dress.

    It's all going to come down to what is most important to her, which isn't a moral decision anyway in my eyes.
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