5 OS Pleasures in your Day Today part 2

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Ladyhawk wrote: »

Thanks Tealady - I just don't know how to go about saying to her that I will do what ever she needs me to do to help her and if she wants to talk about it she can and if she doesn't that's ok too.

Ladyhawk, that's such sad news about your friend. Hugs to you both.
What you've just typed there was the perfect thing to say ((()))
When my sister was diagnosed I was extremely nervous when speaking to her and it showed as well. My own sister! I felt so silly. But she said that several colleagues and other acquaintances were avoiding her which upset her. I'm guessing that they were also nervous about what to say. So it's better to acknowledge it, even if it comes out all rushed and silly at first. Good luck hun x

Caterina

Ladyhawk, I am sorry about your friend's diagnosis. I cannot add much to what others have advised, just behave as your friendly self, and do acknowledge what is going on. She will lead you re. whether she wants to talk about it or not but you can let her know that you are there as a friend and sounding board if she needs that support.

When my cousin was diagnosed I was even embarrassed to tell her that my screening had been clear, but when I admitted that to her she told me I was being stupid!

Other than being there for our loved ones, there is very little we can do, unfortunately. And of course, we can hope (and pray, if we are so inclined).

Frith

5 for yesterday (Monday).

1) Bigger son off school all day which was a bit of a pleasure because, if you're a single parent, you NEVER just get time with one child!

2) Getting him in to see the doctor within hours and it turned out the duty doctor was the one who is a mum at school (one son in bigger son's class and twins in smaller son's class!) He has an ear infection but is much better today.

3) Sitting by the fire all day watching Top Gear re-runs.

4) Cooking tea for us and MrN's boys and everyone being quite jolly. Bigger son finally allowing one of MrN's dogs to sit on his knee on the sofa (he has a bit of a dog phobia).

5) Phoning mum and finding she had plucked up courage to take her piano accordian and join in with a local group of musicians. She is a pianist, really, and one time piano teacher so had never played the accordian in public before.

6) MrN coming round. :-)

7) SLEEPING! Can't remember when that last happened. Unfortunately, although the sleeping by 1am or so was a good thing, pinging awake at 8.45 when smaller son needed to be at school in a village 3 miles away at 8.50 was not quite so good! That was this morning's pleasure, though.

sparrer

Ladyhawk my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend. As Blimus said what you wrote is ideal, but if you find it hard to voice the words a little note to let her know you're there for her, to listen, to chat, to laugh or just sit together quietly if she feels like it. Perhaps add a little touch of humour and tell her a screaming/banging heads on brick walls session with a friend often does you both good...Just my opinion but I'd want folk to treat me as they always have, no creeping around and hushed voices.

Caterina I'm sorry to hear the sad news of your friend, thinking of you. The cauli recipe sounds good, I may just have to try that one

CCP re the sausage roll and soup - I do so understand. When I heard the car was a goner I ate a whole bar of huckleberry chocolate. It was a need

No post yesterday as it was quite a tiring day. Had the insurance assessor visit, he's written off my car so I'm housebound for the time being. Fortunately I'm blessed with good friends, one of whom is going to pick me up on Saturday and take me to the station 4 miles away, and pick me up in the evening so I don't have to miss the OS London meet

Will be back later with some pleasures, meantime have a happy Tueday

S x

Introuble28

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Thanks Tealady - I just don't know how to go about saying to her that I will do what ever she needs me to do to help her and if she wants to talk about it she can and if she doesn't that's ok too.

I just think you need to treat her al you always do. part of my job is councilling cancer patients and their families and we always advise to just be yourself.

The Mcmillan website is also fantastic for advice on how to talk to people with cancer and offers a variety of useful leaflets that can really help.

Kitchenbunny

Just wanted to post a couple of pleasures for today:

1. I passed my driving test after about ten years and 4 previous failures.
2. Making stuffing balls so there is one less thing to do for my Christmas preparations.
3. Watching the Hairy Bikers. Their way with food always makes me smile.
4. A cup of tea. 'Nuff said.
5. Getting my Clubcard vouchers through the post and it being more than I thought.
6. Being given a couple of slices of chocolate cake.

(((hugs))) to those in need. I hope something good happens soon.

KB xx

RAS

KB

Well done, now you just need to learn to drive (if you know what I mean).

Ginger_Snap

Ladyhawk: I understand your concern about how to approach your friend who has been disagnosed, its so hard but I agree with posters that the best thing is to be open and to carry on as normal. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of years ago I decided my mantra was "keep calm and carry on" as it really struck a chord with me. I still find it difficult even though I have had the disease to always know what to say to others who are suffering, it is difficult sometimes to find the words. I agree with Sparrer and others that a note can often be a good calm way to start. Sometimes your friend may want to talk things through at length but if my experience is anything to go by, it is usually less painful to be in charge and lead the discussion and not be caught on the hop with a sudden comment or emotional subject matter... Good luck!!

Caterina Very many thanks for the recipe! Will be trying it soon.

My positives for the last day or two:

1. Having a child to tutor yesterday for the first time after school. She was so lovely and keen and we covered so much ground. :j I really felt I was "teaching" her, which I sadly rarely feel in the classroom these days.

2. Going for a great swim after school with the children yesterday and managing 70 lengths without too much trouble. :T

3. Coping at work today and returning home in a positive mood (although unfortunately also with copious marking!)

4. Enjoying a simple but yummy tea last night of pizza (on offer) and a tasty mixed salad.

5. OH being an angel and ironing, hoovering through and cleaning the inside of the oven while I was at work- WITHOUT being asked!!!!! :eek:
The negative side of this is he was at home as no work again...but at least he kept himself busy!

6.Started reading Nigel Slater's "Toast" last night- what a fantastic, nostalgic book about childhood food memories, but also strangely revealing about his relationships with the members of his family.

I will be back later if I can when I have had time to read through everyone's postings...xx

CCP

Evening all.

I hope everyone's OK on what has been a scarily unpleasant day weather-wise (it has been on the south coast, anyway).

Ginger Snap - I read the Nigel Slater book last year and loved it. I passed it on to my mum, who also loved it and passed it on to a friend, who passed it on to another friend... It's a well-travelled book by now! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Kitchenbunny - :T:T:T on passing your driving test.

sparrer - I'm sorry to hear that your car is no more. It's good that you don't have to miss the meet-up, though - what a nice friend you've got! :T

ampersand - how lovely to see hares. Would you believe I only saw my first hares earlier this year? They're great creatures, although they scared me quite badly by bolting out of the long grass I was walking through.

Ladyhawk - I'm sorry to hear about your friend - best of luck to her. And :T over your presentations - that all sounds very promising.

frugalpam - WD on your weightloss - that's great going. Best of luck coming off the tablets - I hope that helps with the weightloss, too.

Caterina - I do something practically identical to your cauliflower pasta with sprouting broccoli, and that's delicious, too. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend - hugs to you.

My pleasures for today:

1) Watching nature's firework display while eating my breakfast, although I was less impressed when it was still going on when I left work - driving through a thunderstorm isn't a great deal of fun.

2) The fact I no longer live in a basement flat. I may well have ended up flooded out if I did!

3) Popped out to buy an apple at lunchtime and found that one cost 35p, but a bagful (11 apples) cost £1. Needless to say, I now have a fruit bowl full of apples.

4) Rehoming a carton of juice drink I had bought for myself, and discovered at the first sip was sugar-free rather than normal. _pale_ I was about to tip it down the sink in disgust when a colleague told me it was her favourite, so at least it didn't go to waste.

5) I did my first ever Approved Foods order this evening. Only other forumites are likely to understand why that's exciting. :j

6) Football on the radio later - play up Pompey! (It can't be any worse than Saturday's match, at any rate. :wall:)

Have a lovely evening, all.

Introuble28

Hi all!

This is always much harder when I have had a day at work. Though its such a lovely thread, it really keeps me motivated!

They arent old style really, but I have some nice things happening;

The managers job at my work was given to a good friend who will be great at the role so only good things will happen now.

Lovely prawn curry for tea using freezer prawns and things I found in my cupboard.

Had a lovely cuddle with my big old cat today which was so nice and relaxing

Am wearing my home-made slanket so as not to put the heating on

Took my prectice batch of baileys truffles into work and everyone loved them! I love seeing people enjoy things I've made.

Oh and I put an add on freecycle for a freezer in the Glasgow area so fingers crossed!

Hope everyone else had a good day!

On a sadder note, one of my patients at work passed away today and I spoke to his widow. I love my job but its so sad sometimes :-(