5 OS Pleasures in your Day Today part 2

nuttybabe

Hiya all

Bit late for me tonight! lost track of time. Anyway mine for today are:

1 A brilliant nights sleep with no dh snoring (he was in hotel as out on work do), this is a pleasure because it rarely happens, if it happened alot I would miss him!

2 Finishing my first sock monkey. Ds1 and dd saw it and want one so they will all have one each in the xmas eve hamper as will dh who wants me to do some for some of his family - think i may be fed up with making them by xmas!! :P

3 Getting a new recruit for parent group and cooking for school fete which is a relief as I didnt want them to depend on my cooking (you only hear about the good stuff, not the bad!!!!!!!!!)

4 Starting on dd's sock monkey and I have done quite alot tonight in 2 hours. Hopefully only another hour to finish it and maybe an evening for the knitting of the scarf and hat to match dd's.

5 Walking to shops today without it raining and without dd moaning that she doesnt want to walk anymore! Was really nice as we were singing - people must think I am a complete looney when they see me in the street!! :P

Thats all folks, need to sleep now!

Sal

Caterina

Hi all

A very unpleasant and challenging few days for me, I'm afraid. I have fallen ill myself and still coughing and spluttering away, weak as a kitten.

Ollie, no Cambridge I'm afraid, just as well the hotel was free!

What is happening at the moment is that I might decided not to stay married. I feel that for too long I have put up with a sub-standard relationship. Nobody's fault, just absolute bl**dy mismatch, coming up to 22 years together soon and I feel just as miserable with him as when it started. Good man, but bad communication, inability to rapport himself as adult (can only be in "parent" or "child" roles, for those of you who know anything about transactional analysis etc..). Am worn out. In bed with fever, spent 3 days and 3 nights crying and trying to get through to him, saying that we are ever so near to retiring together, that this marriage needs to be refreshed and shaken, that I need to be heard, that I am absolutely desolate and miserable all the time when with him and that I feel I have done everything in the world that was available to me. I must have repeated this over and over, crying and crying - don't feel it has gone anywhere. This is just the painful continuation of what happened when I ran away to Ireland. But I cannot keep running away, so I have moved to the spare room, dusty horrible chaotic space, but so peaceful without his oppressive silence near me.

Am desolate, can't manage to stop crying. Meanwhile still really feeling grotty and working like mad because I am giving away most of my wardrobe of clothes and shoes and someone from freecycle will come to pick up this morning.

Anyway, some positives, scraping the bottom of the barrel:

1 - Getting rid of most of my clothes, shoes and bags. The decision feels so right, I can't wait to be free of clutter.

2 - I have a spare room where to go, so I did not have to run screaming out of the house in a feverish state and book myself in some hotel.

3 - Saw the same rainbow as usual, same place, same end... Ampersand, see you there with a couple of spades and pick-axes, ready to dig!

4 - Early morning saw a formation of 5 Canada Geese flying in the sky, so beautiful, so free, I sent my spirit with them, soaring out of my troubles.

5 - Considering the circumstances and the fact that I have not slept a stitch I am managing quite well. Going to catch some rest after the clothes have gone.

Love to all

Caterina

Broomstick

Caterina, just popped in and read your post and had to post something. No wonder you are feeling awful but huge 'well done' for finding five things - those geese sound like an important source of strength. Get some sleep and, if you can manage it, some food and drink. I'm sending you some very big (((((hugs))))) for now. (Rats, where are the huggy smilies when you need them?)

B xxx

Olliebeak

:wave: morning everybody - miserably damp today in Liverpool. Weather is never the same two days running (unless it's absolutely chucking it down for 3 days on the run ).

angeltreats - nearly all my cookery books have come from charity shops too and a 'Dairy Cookbook' was one of the first that I bought - because I remembered my sister raving about hers . Good Luck with the job - sounds very promising :j.
SunnyGirl - Could that lovely bird have been a 'yellow hammer'?http://www.rspb.org.uk/wildlife/birdguide/name/y/yellowhammer/index.aspx wd on the leg-waxing - never been brave enough myself :rolleyes:!
mineallmine - we HAVE thought a bit about getting another cat and when we do, it will definitely be from a rescue centre - maybe an older cat whose owner has died because I don't think I could go through that 'crazy kitten stage' again. Tiggy-tiger used to climb everything in sight (curtains, trees, furniture, the roof, even the christmas tree one year :eek:) but could never get back down again - would whinge and whine to be rescued. wd on getting your electric under control :T.
Muppet81 - brrrrrr - can do without that thank you . sounds like you and Mr Muppet enjoyed your winter sports and wtg you on beating him.
Broomstick - spotted these and thought of you http://barbsz-lifeisgood.blogspot.com/2009/10/fan-lace-wrist-warmers.html
ACEY - :j great to hear that you're all showing signs of recovery - just hope that you're fast catching up with the boys :rolleyes:. Don't worry about the 5lbs lost - I'm sure you'll make up for it in the next couple of weeks - just like the rest of us .
alisong - Can you post a link to that Banana Bread with syrup in it please? I'm always on the lookout for different versions - thank you . congrats to you for the work you've done with your dog :T.
nuttybabe - wd on getting your dd to walk a distance without complaint - suppose the idea is to make it as interesting and fun as possible - even if it means that you 'sing as you go' (just like Gracie) - showing my age there :rolleyes:.
Caterina - specially for you. Please give yourself time to get over whatever germs/bug you've got before making any irrevocable decisions. Sorry that Cambridge didn't work out for you - maybe in the circumstances it was for the best. I fully understand what you mean about an 'oppressive silence' - my ex-OH was like that and it dragged me down for years. He couldn't communicate as an 'adult' at all (youngest of 6 lads with doting mother :mad:) and never accepted responsibility for anything. It can be very lonely and painful when you finally have to make the decision that enough is enough - so please give yourself plenty of time to take that step. Has he ever been for relationship/communication counselling - maybe something like that would help him to not only listen but 'to hear' as well.

Mine for yesterday:

1. Finished off yesterday's cooking session and got things in the freezer.

2. Visit to the charity shop to donate some of OH's books - HIS suggestion, not mine! Bought 'This Morning Coundown to Christmas' for 50p - 1995 but hey! Christmas is Christmas and things don't change THAT much . I'll copy out of it what I know I'll use and then donate it back again. Also got a little wooden puzzle (one with lift-out pieces) as a pressie for dgd2 (2yrs) for £1.

3. Quick sprint around HomeBargains and got some Dr Oetker's Petitfours Cases (19p for 100); Dr Oetker's Christmas Cake Decs (29p); set of Christmas Cookie Cutters 89p; Hot Chilli and Garlic Grinder 89p; early reading book of 'Roary the Car' for 49p.

4. Whoopsie hunting in MrA's - 4 Garden Gang Organic Pears (£1.97 - 42p); Moroccan Style Hummus (£1.00 - 56p); Ginsters Chicken Lattice (£2.50 - 67p); Asda Cornish Plait (£1.78 - 49p); Asda Organic Salsa (? -50p). Rest of it, I more or less stuck to my shopping list apart from 2 boxes of Luxury Biscuits (£6.97 each 2 for £7); 2 Extra Special Garlic&Herb Bloomers (£1.58 each 2 for £2.00) which are both for the Christmas stash.

5. Evening meal of whoopsied Chicken Breast Garlic Kievs (bought a couple of weeks ago) with jacket potato and salad - very :drool:.

6. Laundry done and on the airer/radiator rails.

7. Brekkie of fresh coffee, porridge with brown sugar and toast.

8. SC is on with the Chicken and Winter Veg Casserole thingy and it smells delicious - will serve later with mashed pots. Any left-overs - hmmmm not sure as no room in the freezer at the moment! May need a bit of a re-shuffle - could take out some soup for tomorrow .

9. Just had a phone call from DD - 'M-u-u-u-m, can you lend me .............. :rolleyes:?' Luckily I had nothing really set in stone for today, though I do need a thorough clean through downstairs as I've got my 'Mid-year Staff Appraisal' tomorrow and that means a visit from my Line Manager :eek:. Oh well she loves my Lemon Drizzle Cake with a cup of cafetiere coffee .............. !

Just off to get dressed - lazy mare !

I'll pop back in again later to find out what you've all been up to while my back's turned . Hope you're all having a great weekend with people you want to be with - ((((BIG HUGS)))) for all - love Ollie xxx

ampersand

CATERINA - CALLING CATERINA....

Back later, but must send you these things which you know are you -
-repeat after me,


'Everyone who knows me, who works with me, knows this also - I will say it to myself. regardless of what happens, I am this........'

and

*
...it will be less time, less debilitating than you think, because ultimately all will be.........

Dear Caterina, I'm sorry this is so trite beside your utter heartwringing distress and turbulence.
I had moments of feeling we would cross paths in Cambridge yesterday.
I'm so glad my geese arrived.
We love you here.

Olliebeak

Following on from ampersand's posting - Just for you Caterina: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmExAiCcaPk&feature=related

Caterina

Thank you thank you all, I am crying so much with feeling all your kindness and listening to the song. I could not do with you wonderful people thank you thanks you

Edited now that I am not sobbing quite so hard to say yes Ollie we went to counselling years ago, for a solid couple of years, where he said probably all of 10 words (in the two years I mean).

It feels like the right thing to let go but it is very scary. For the time being I am delighted to have given most of my stuff to a delighted Lithuanian single mother, she just could not believe that I was giving all this stuff away and you know what, it made my day, it was so perfect to give the things I loved to someone who will love them and care for them too.

I am better.

Oi, I am WOMAN!

bunny_too

:jMorning everyone, my 5 for today are.

1. Long bubble bath, the works.Glass of wine, facepack etc.:D

2. Roast dinner all the trimmings, lots of left overs too.

3. Dvds again with son, this has been just such a great weekend.

4. Making lentil pate for freezer, really has become a standard for pack lunch.:money:

5. Feeling all cosy and warm indoors, looking out on frosty afternoon. Bliss.

Have a great os day everyone, big hugs to all who need them. Special hugs for:A Caterine and Muppet.:A

Muppet81

Caterina ... it sounds as though you are in turmoil right now. Take time to work things out carefully once you are feeling better. Sending you my love. You sound like a very strong person so I am sure you will cope with whatever you decide is best for you.
Take care
xxx

ampersand

I'd forgotten all about Helen Reddy - thankyou so much, Ollie.
Also Caterina:A - that is such a lovely avatar piccie - I've felt from moment 1 that I'll 'know' you when we DO cross paths in Cambridge un de ces jours.
I'm quite certain, too, my suggesting Freecycle to you for some furniture in an early post was about as crass as crass could be:o...[grandmothers?suck?eggs?teaching?]
My dear friend M and I in France kicked off on an equally clumsy and clunky footing -in 1974.
Have you looked out? it's dark again already[time for a Lady Grey?], BUT I found myself thinking that the run-up to shortest day - love its passing - is belting along this year.
Back to a bit of listing and I'll pop in later for a hug[shall expect kettle to be on; I've travelled a bit and it's freezing out now].
#########
p.s.
Keep meaning to say the folding shovel is always with me in car. Rainbows arc up everywhere.And this is the same lucky one that brought a change of fortune for mot!!!
It's yours now.