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Lara44

Aww Flower, that's difficult, but also could be a wonderful way to honour your friend. You started to describe her to us, and I think that's what you should say - what she meant to you.

Flower08

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Flower, that's lovely that your friend said that to her mum. I would feel daunted about saying something at a funeral, my advice would be to keep it short and sweet and say it from the heart. Do you know when it will be yet?

Funeral is on Friday. I feel so selfish in thinking that i just cant do it, dont even want to go to the funeral. How am i supposed to find the words to talk about someone i have been friends with since school that im never going to see again.
OH doesnt know what to say to me, i had to leave work early yesterday because it all just got to much.

Sorry to dump it on everyone here, its just i have never really had anyone close to my die.

Tete_en_l'Air

Flower I think everyone would understand if you didn't want to get up and speak, I don't think I could do it. Maybe like TPA says you could write down a few words and the vicar/father/whatever could read them out. I do think you should go to the funeral though, you might regret it if you don't.

Flower08

I know your right tete, i would regret it. I'm going to try jot a few things down this afternoon, like you say i want it to come from the heart but also need something written down incase i just cant do it.

OH has been a real sweety, he text me to say we're going to have a movie night tonight to take my mind off it. Hes bringing all the supplies home and picked out some DVDs this morning.

Tete_en_l'Air

Aw bless him, it's good that you've got someone to support you. Home Alone is a good idea, I watched a bit of it on Sunday morning, OH had to drag me away from the TV otherwise I'd never have got dressed!

Flower08

OH introduced me to Home Alone two years ago, i am ashamed to say i had never seen them before and he thought this was criminal so he bought me the box set. I cant believe i missed out on them for so long!

ETA: also whilst money isnt on the front of my mind at the minute, i did my bingo britain this morning and won £15 and also redeemed on BP aswell. So whilst im not doing any hardcore money making, im still doing ok. Trying to keep myself in as much as a routine as i can, seems to be i get most upset when im sat around doing nothing and have time to think about it all.

Tete_en_l'Air

Haha, there are SO many films like that that are classics but I've never seen - Back to the Future and Top Gun are two that spring to mind!

Flower08

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Haha, there are SO many films like that that are classics but I've never seen - Back to the Future and Top Gun are two that spring to mind!

Same! OH gets very annoyed that i havent seen many 'classic' films. You'd think i had broken some sort of law!

clearmydebts

You poor thing Flower. I have never experienced anyone very close to me passing away so don't know what to say.

I also think it is a good idea to write stuff down and if you don't feel up to it on the day get the vicar/priest to read it out. Once it is from the heart it will be beautiful, and meaningful.

Flower08

clearmydebts wrote: »

You poor thing Flower. I have never experienced anyone very close to me passing away so don't know what to say.

I also think it is a good idea to write stuff down and if you don't feel up to it on the day get the vicar/priest to read it out. Once it is from the heart it will be beautiful, and meaningful.

Thank you CMD, all the kind words really do mean alot to me x