The General Diet & Emotional Support Thread

Eliza_2

I'm a big believer in the power of positive thinking, visualising and all of that. The trouble is that I'm now so good at thinking myself to be a slim beautiful young woman that I come a cropper when this slim woman finds herself unable to squeeze past people in a shop, then I look in a mirror and see that young and beautiful is all in the mind too. But still, the fantasy makes me feel better.

I was watching something about this the other day and about being grateful and how important it is to make other people feel good too and how doing those things really brings on a boost to self esteem. The trouble is it's so hard to do. I complimented someone at work on how nice their top was, even more so as they got it in a charity shop, and they were obviously pleased but someone else nearby, who usually sees me as a friend and ally, said something about being two faced and crawling. I did genuinely mean the compliment too, it's just that I wouldn't normally have said it, just thought it. So then I felt bad at having made the other person feel sour and maybe a bit betrayed. The other thing is that I've been really lucky at finding work (actually I don't believe in luck for one moment!) and have several jobs that are keeping the wolf from the door but I keep quiet about them, because if you're successful that also makes people feel uncomfortable, (is it jealousy?) when really I'm only scraping by but that's good enough for me. As a consequence I hardly ever talk about my life to work colleagues.

The reason I'm thinking all of this stuff aloud is that self esteem is the biggest problem I have in terms of weight. I can turn to the carbs at the smallest thing, especially if I think I've hurt someone's feelings/forgotten to call or that kind of thing.

So today I am grateful that I live in lovely surroundings (will try not to think about the broken central heating!!) and have a Sunday job in a shop with lovely customers, and have had a nice egg on toast for brekkie and am about to get into a hot shower. Today I will ban the word 'try' from my thoughts as there is built in failure in that word. I'd love to know what other motivational ideas other people have to keep thinking positively and give their esteem a bit of a boost. If I feel good it's easy to eat healthily.

God I do ramble - sorry!

Liz

crazystace

Oh Fee thats awful kids can be cruel without even realising it. But sometimes you need a bit of downright honestly to snap you into gear. I had a group of kids make some comments behind my back a while back and I didn't even think I was that big but it made me think about what other people saw. I wasnt ready to do anything about it then but i am now and you have to do it for yourself. Ive cut out the carbs gone on celebrity slim and really feel in control of the weight loss this time round. Never felt better!

joslimmer

Good luck catlover47 maybe we can compare our celebrity slim success stories and keep each other motivated! We usually get fish and chips on a Friday night for us and the kids but I did my own crumbed fish with Jamie Oliver crushed carrots and mint peas and everyone loved it. Does take a bit more effort to think of food but I don't mind as other meals are worked out for me and I'm getting the hang of the no carbs thing a bit more now.

catlover47

That's rotten, don't give up Fee we're all in this together and here to help eachother out. I'm doing celebrity slim and it might not work for everyone whos on a really tight budget but i don't find it that expensive when you work out savings of meals that are being swapped for shakes. I hope you can work things out, I really do.

Anita1075

I am enjoying the freedom and control that celebrity slim offers to me. I am aware it is not the choice or answer for everyone but my weight loss so far has made me feel happy and I have been enjoying the replacement meals that this particular diet offers.

catlover47

glad its going well for you one celebrity slim anita. I'm still losing weight every week and i think its by far the best diet ive done as it seems constant and i dont feel like i'm going without.

Anita1075

I agree with you catlover, it seems a sensible diet too with no funny or faddy foods, no need to starve yourself and the snack bars are just the same as having a little treat every day!

Anita1075

My goodness it is so cold, it is definitely time to swap the CS shakes for soups every lunchtime I think!

catlover47

Im having the CS soups for lunch now too Anita1075 - good to keep warm!

INeedHelpNow_2

hi first time on this part of the forum... i started eating healthily a few weeks ago and find i have more energy than ive had for yrs.

im 35 have type two diabetes, exczema, high bp, kerataconus, PCOS, and i have the highest uk reading for sleep apnoea in the UK. If i take my life back, theres a BIG possibility i do not have to take a lot of the medication im on, and i may no longer need a machine to help keep my airway open while i sleep...

One thing i wanted to say is that when you start this journey theres always going to be people who want you to remain the same situation because it helps them to keep you in that lower, low self worth, low self esteem position...my advice would be set your goal and do not detract from it...

i had a situation today where a woman called me "fatty" over a parking space (i was in it first). her three children (probably all under the age of 8) then started shouting the same thing out the window also... something like this would have had me diving for the comfort food... it was upsetting yes, embarassing yes but i cant afford to stop now... its time to get my life back...

Before i have struggled because i have not purposed in my heart or been sold out to the idea... the biggest battle isnt in the fridge or the kitchen cupboards or a trip to the supermarket, its in the mind... i lost weight some years ago and when i got the attention from people for the wieght id lost i did not like it as i struggled to handle it and came of the diet...

i am currently going via a low fat diet, and making my food less complex and lowering carbs...i also have a bike that im using at home...

for my treat on the weekend i go to a local hotel and in their health place they have day passes for sauna steam room pool gym and jacuzzi for £7... they are not as busy as mainstream gyms as usually the busyness usually depends on what visitors they have that week...they usually do memberships too... i now no longer try to treat myself with food but see excercise or the sauna etc as my treat...

here endeth the ramblings of a reducing woman!



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