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Dawning

Fee82 wrote: »

Just added the book to my wish list on Amazon so hopefully someone nice will buy it for me at Christmas time

Rough day. I've eaten out of boredom today and annoyance with myself. Shouted at my son and immediately regretted it so medicated myself with a mince pie I'd just bake ready for the freezer... then another I don't even like them!

I'm telling myself that it's just a stressful time at the moment and not to be hard on myself. Two mince pies when I wasn't hungry isn't the end of the world.

I was thinking too about something Dawning said earlier about having fitting clothes in your wardrobe. I think I need to go through mine. I have so many different sizes in there and the majority doesn't fit at all. I hang on to them in the hope that one day they will but in the meantime surely I'm just reminding myself everyday that my body isn't what I want it to be? Don't have much money for new stuff at the moment but need to think about this some more.

Fee x

Fee, stopping at just TWO mince pies is brilliant. At one point, I'd have polished the lot off!
Have a look at the Own Your Body chapter in the BC book. It's the chapter that talks about having nice clothes to wear now, and not keeping others that are too small in your wardrobe.

BADPENNY_2

Hi Fee,

I think saying no to diets is the best thing you can do. Diets don't work they have a begining and an end. I have tried ww myself in the past and while i'm sure that they proberbly work for some people they are only telling you what you already know (eat a bit less and move around more).

In March this year I was 3 stone overweight, like you I can trace my issues with food back to my childhood. One of my most vivid memories is of my mother mesuring my hips for a skirt and telling me that my body was 'out of proportion' I was about 8 years old but my issues had started long before this as I witnessed my mum's attempts at dieting. Something this time has just clicked in my brain, my light bulb moment you might say and I just decided enough is enough, I am sick of food and diets dominating my every thought. I had joined a gym a few months prior to this and never really went, I enjoyed it when I did go but could never find the motivation that I needed to stick with it for more than a week. I decided to stop foccusing so much on food and decided to try exersise instead. I still eat what I want but in smaller portions I found that once I lifted the ban on 'bad' foods I didn't really want them anyway it was just me wanting something forbidden. I now find that I naturally gravitate towards healthy food anyway. Now I go to the gym/exersice class at least 3-4 times a week and I love it! I've lost just over 1 and a half stone, without dieting! If I overeat now I really notice the difference in the way I perform at the gym the next day. It is difficult to get into exersise at first but I noticed an immediate difference, not in my body but in my mind and that pushed me to continue.

You seem to of identified you triggers for overeating, you talk of being lonely and board when you oh is at work. Try and fill these times with things that you enjoy doing and plan for it. Read a book, go for a walk, play a board game with your kids. You'll be suprised how quickly you forget about food.
Keep a food diary and each time you eat something note down how you feel and if you where hungry on scale of 1-10. you will start to notice a pattern and then you can address it.
Work out what foods you really love and then make a healthy version of it. For example a treat for me is something like steak and chips so if I want this I will make the steak in a griddle pan, oven chips and lots of green saled. I am fortunate not to have a sweet tooth, my weekness is crisps,bread, pasta ect and they do still make up a large part of my diet but just in smaller quantitys. Don't buy diet versions of anything either lets be honest they taste crap and are full of suger anyway.

Don't be suprised if you gain weight at first by eating what you want, you will find that once the novelty has worn off you will naturally eat a bit less and if you combine this with a little bit of exersise (i'm not saying you have to join a gym, just go for a walk, clean your windows, weed the garden) you will start losing weight.

Good Luck!

Fee82

jem1276 wrote: »

Good luck with your journey......
Thank you, it's much appreciated.
....I have lost 3 stone over the last 18 months.....
Well done you :T:T:T
....I have also developed a regular gym habit....
Increasing my acitivity levels is definately something I want to do. I feel better all round when I've done some exercise but I just struggle to be motivated to do it. Thinking at the moment of getting out the wii fit - anyone know if there's a way to turn of that patronising chat you have to go through with it at the start when it shows you your body swelling and tells you to consider going for a walk every now and then??? :mad:
....Interval training is 9 times more effective for fat burning than regular cardio......
Interesting... I guess small amounts here there do count then.
....Try and avoid 'low fat' versions of foods/drinks. Massive amount of difference in sugar/artificial sweetners....
and taste!!! I agree. I am I'm afraid to say a bit of an addict to Pepsi Max (referred lovingly as my coke habit!) but do notice that it has me reaching for more sugar. Slowly I will cut down on this but not yet.
....Stop weighing in every week (I know it is hard!)....
Try several times every day . I haven't weighed since starting this diary but I will for a while be allowing myself a weekly weigh in with the long term goal of throwing my scales out.
Fee, I really do wish you all the luck in the world, along with anyone on the same journey. It is not easy but we can do it xxx

Thank you :beer:

East_Coast_Girl

Just like to wish you the very best of luck Fee.
Really well done for coming to the conclusion that diets aren't the answer, it's so so easy to be seduced by yet another eating plan/diet. I too have been there and done that but have now decided that the only long term answer is to think about my health and fitness and try and focus on eating a reasonably healthy diet like eating at least 5 portions of fruit and veg a day and doing regular excercise. For me in the past excercise has been the key, i can get away with the odd indulgence if I do even a relatively small amount of excercise.
Eating wise I've also found that not going more than approx 4 hours without eating something helps keep the cravings/eating under control so I don't know if that could be of any help to you but here's wishing you the very best luck for your journey.

Anita1075

So, I have started on the celebrity slim today, having arranged all my meal plans for next week and planning family meals for the evenings. I had the choc mint shake this morning and it was very nice and I'm about to have a soup for lunch. I can't say yet about feeling hungry in between as it is too soon but I feel fine at the moment and I went for a run this morning.

puddy

can i ask a personal question of people that have lost big weight (several stones) what has happened to your skin?

unfortnately, i have never had very good skin, very thin with lots of stretch marks from a teenager, so its quite a bad state, are there any creams or whatnot that you use to help it whilst losing weight?

Fee82

Well, I picked a yoghurt over some chocolate by choice today so something's working :rotfl:. I think having so much in the cupboards really is making me see that I can have it any time so don't need to wolf it down all in one go.

I went out for a meal last night ith some of the girls who helped me out when I was a consultant for SW. We've been socialising for 6-8yrs and I realised that they are all still dieting and all are saying they keep yoyoing. They asked about me but I kept it pretty casual and didn't say too much. They're lovely and I'm sure will be really positive but at the moment I don't want to hear any comments about 'having' to be on a diet and nor do I want to be negative about the diet's their all on... each to their own and all that . Anyway, dinner was superb. One of those places that serves small portions of gorgeous food and costs a bomb (Sorry Martin!). Drank too much wine so woke this morning a bit fuzzy headed but loved not feeling guilty - I rarely go out so I'm glad I allowed myself to enjoy what I ate.

Friday is going to be my weigh days. Once a week is currently quite a challenge for me but it's a start. I weighed this morning at 18st 5lbs so I'm pleased to see a 1lb loss since I started this. Not going to get hung up on numbers though. On that note I think it's time to delete my slimming spreadsheet. I have a record of all the details of my weight losses (and gains ) over the last few years as well as the goals I set and how I haven't reached them. It needs to go I think.... anyone else?

Fee xx

sarahs999

Puddy, it is a problem. I had endermologie while I was losing weight which helps to stop the skin sagging (google it) but it's still not a pretty sight when I'm upside down!Gravity can be cruel. Losing slowly helps. I lost 4.5 stone in all; you've got to expect a bit of loose skin from that (although my therapist said she thought my skin was amazingly good for that amount of weight lost).

Eric_Pisch

puddy wrote: »

can i ask a personal question of people that have lost big weight (several stones) what has happened to your skin?

unfortnately, i have never had very good skin, very thin with lots of stretch marks from a teenager, so its quite a bad state, are there any creams or whatnot that you use to help it whilst losing weight?

this will be me

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5jyNui_IBA

depends on you skin and how fat you are, if your big enough surgery is the only option ..

jem1276

I had a similar thing Fee and it is soul destroying when you look and think, oooh I was at my lowest weigh then, if only I had carried on from that point etc.... Chuck it out, it only taunts you, like a small pair of jeans!

Weekly weighing would be a great start for you then, try hard with that, it is very liberating.

Well done on last night. Every journey starts with a single step etc...

Keep it up and you will do it.

'If you do what you've always done, you will get what you always got' you are making a great positive change and striking forward x