Would a reckless spender put you off a relationship?

brranger

Xbigman wrote:

Someone being in debt wouldn't bother me, it would be the why that was more important. The problem is that you don't walk up to someone and get to know them with the words 'are you in debt'? As pick up lines go its pretty weak! :rotfl:
Regards

X

Its not the Debt that is the problem it is:
1)Can they control there spending?
2) if they realise they have a problem?
As with out these two things its not going to be a very bright future, What with the power being cut off and all.

Eli_2-2

Well as it happens I have just split up with my partner,
His spending was a huge issue and the fact he has kept his head in the sand for the last few years have not helped,
prob is because he spent so much and didnt have enough to pay bills/rent ect, guess who ended up paying for it and getting in debt!
I used to do his money for him, try and get him on a budget ect, but he just would not stop and any money he would make on the side he just wasted, he was down the pub every day.
Im gutted, I miss him like crazy, but I just cant go on being with him, he reseted me, hated me, it was always my fault, he just cant see he is the problem.
Ive got a long road ahead, but one I can sort on my own without him dragging me down!

brranger

Well done Eli,

You sound like a very strong person who now has a brighter future.

Good luck

Chell

Depends on the type of relationship you are after, I had 'fun' with a bloke who had loads of debt but there is no way on this earth I would have ever settled down with him.

Tr@cker

So you wanna a good looking waster for 'fun' (usual euphemism for sex) and a sensible, boring bloke who watches the pennies to settle down with eh ?

Chell

Tr&#64 wrote: »

So you wanna a good looking waster for 'fun' (usual euphemism for sex) and a sensible, boring bloke who watches the pennies to settle down with eh ?

Too late for me now, I'm settled down! :rotfl:

MinnieSpender

Tr&#64 wrote: »

So you wanna a good looking waster for 'fun' (usual euphemism for sex) and a sensible, boring bloke who watches the pennies to settle down with eh ?

You say that like it's a bad thing, Tr@cker! :rotfl:

brranger

Wow aint it great what you learn about people in general?

I want more "fun"!!!

aimme13

would a reckless spender put me of ?..............yes yes and yes....thats why im single and thats why im in debt, (someone else's reckless attitude with money!) but hey thats life.........wouldnt go back there again, but i wouldnt want to be with someone who was afraid to open their wallet!!! a girls gotta have a good time :-)

homersimpson_3

If you liked someone but they have a reckless attitude to spending (ie it all went on going out, nothing in savings) would that put you off? (i know it does me)

It depends. Being in a relationship can be more costly than being single particularly in the earlier stages. On the other hand the rewards can be worth it & living as a couple can ultimately be cheaper- shared bills, 2 incomes etc. I agree people should have common goals, shared interests & pull together. A relationships should be an equal partnership. If I met someone who was very seriously in debt it wouldn't automatically put off but I would be very weary. It depends on how much they were prepared to change- relationships after all about comprimise and give & take- Clearing the debts and working together can bring people very close & cement the relationship. Common bond etc. You have to comprimise between living & saving.