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Getting out of my comfort zone
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Hi Gill - don't worry about being more positive... This is your diary and we are here to support you as much as we can virtually... I think sometimes it takes the funeral to start the grieving process as it makes it more real, for others it brings a greater sense of closure and they can start moving on.
I found a lot of good articles on grieving @soulseeds.com that helped me even years on from various losses I've had...Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.8K Equity 36.37%
2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £27.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 34/£127.5K target 26.6% 10/10/25
(If took bigger lump sum = 60.35K or 47.6%)
4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
5) SIPP £5K updated 10/10/250 -
Just read this. I'm so sorry for your loss.
The flag on the town hall flying at half mast is massive, she must have been some lady!0 -
Today we are meeting up with the deacon who is doing the service. As non Catholics we need to understand why certain things are done. Strangely, most of the family have been unable to help here. They just take it for granted that they *are* done.
SH- you are right about the funeral, which is on Thursday. However, for us that is a problem as Saturday is the anniversary of Dad's death and Sunday is his birthday. So altogether a bad weekend.
G
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"The days pass so fast, let's try to make each one better than the last"0 -
Hope it goes well today, of course you need to understand why certain things are done. Will be thinking of you this week xDebt@16.12.09 £10,362.38, now debt free as of 29.02.2012."I cannot make my days longer so I strive to make them better."0
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Of course you need to understand.... hopefully some of the service can be *tailored* to what you and your siblings want too .... sending lots of healing thoughts for you
((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))2023: the year I get to buy a car0 -
Hi Gill the timing is tough. Hope they do personalise the service for youAchieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.8K Equity 36.37%
2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £27.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 34/£127.5K target 26.6% 10/10/25
(If took bigger lump sum = 60.35K or 47.6%)
4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
5) SIPP £5K updated 10/10/250 -
So sorry to hear your sad news Gill.
Hope the meeting goes well today.0 -
Well the meeting may go well, if we can just work out where it is! The message was that the priest would meet us, but he didn't say where; I've left messages for him, but he's presumably busy doing whatever it is he does all day.
We've met up with some of Mum's family today and it was really lovely. We had a good laugh at some of the antics over the years.Debts at LBM - Mortgages £128497 - non mortgage £27497 Debt now £[STRIKE]114150[/STRIKE][STRIKE]109032[/STRIKE] 64300 (mortgage) Credit cards left 0
"The days pass so fast, let's try to make each one better than the last"0 -
Aargh! to the non-meeting-yet with the priest...
but lovely to have a laugh with family about all the memories.
Are you sleeping okay?2023: the year I get to buy a car0 -
Its nice when you can have some laughter in the midst of griefAchieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.8K Equity 36.37%
2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £27.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 34/£127.5K target 26.6% 10/10/25
(If took bigger lump sum = 60.35K or 47.6%)
4) FI Age 60 income target £17.1/30K 57% (if mortgage and debts repaid - need more otherwise) (If bigger lump sum £15.8/30K 52.67%)
5) SIPP £5K updated 10/10/250
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