Do your parents spoil you as an adult

arlybarly

Mine are as tight as !!!! and always have been. Luckily me and oh have always worked and paid our own way in life without getting hand outs from anyone. My brothers dont get anything either for themselves or their children. My lazy sister who had a job for 3 months when she was 17 and then got pregnant gets money thrown at her because its a "shame" shes nearly 50 and her eldest kids are druggies and her younger ones are layabouts. Am i pessed about it, YESSS.

Also when my parents want any running around doing they Always phone me to do it for them, never my lazy git of a sis. I am completely opposite to them with my own teenagers, they have everything within reason and they are treated the same time wise and money wise.

squirrelchops

No......but i ask Mum not to go spending her money on me with expensive gifts as she is retired and on her own and neeeds the money herself.

However, for me and my 2 brothers she gave us each £5000 when we bought our first houses to go towards the deposit which was amazingly generous.

We tend to spoil her now though by taking her out or buying meals/shopping etc as we have wages and she doesn't.

welshmoneylover

My mother neither spoilt me emotionally nor financially. Can't wait for the day when I pick her nursing home. It'll be miles away from me :rotfl:

My father is a right wad and I guess I got his trait but any money I save up I make sure some of it finds its way to my brood.

I spoil them in terms of love and affection

mintymoneysaver

My mum always gives me little treats when she can. Growing up we had very little money as my dad died when I was only 10 and she didn't work until a few years later. She now doesn't splash hundreds of pounds on me ( I wouldn't want her to) but she will always insist on paying for lunch, buys me flowers every few weeks, always buys me a cake if she ever goes to M and S, always buys me a little pressie from her hols ( even if she's only away for the weekend) offers to treat me to something if I go shopping with her. She gave me and my sister £200 each towards a recent holiday we all went on together, is paying for us all to go to Centerparcs for her 70th birthday, always buys my winter coat or boots for my Christmas pressie ( along with the obligatory smellies, calendar, pyjamas and Toblerone!)

She is also always there when I need her. She still works 2 days a week but will always be around to ferry me or the girls anywhere if I need her to, have the girls if they are off sick, and when they were little had them one morning a week for me to save on childcare. My sister gets spoilt too, but because I live much nearer I do more for my mum so I get more of the little treats!

I don't appreciate her enough!

poppyolivia

my dad is so random....we get the usual xmas gifts and birthday (usually my mum does it)...and my dad doesn't bother then he will give us alot of money or helicopter flights (the whole extended family got it too) ...you know?? We never know when we are going to get anything (not that we want but you you know what I mean) I needed a shed so he gave me money for it..but also gave my sisters the same.
He never visits unless he needs the toilet and hes in town!!!!lol....we see him every wk at their place though so it not like we don't see them..my mum visits more!!
My mum calls me her little princess!!!lol But its just to wind my 2 sisters up!!!haha!!

VeganClaire

Financially yes, but they have always offered I have never expected it and try to do other things to help them out.

My parents really value education and paid uni fees for my undergraduate course and rent for my postgraduate course to help me out. However I have always had part time jobs to help support myself.

I saved money before each of my uni courses to help me while studying, I don't expect my parents to pay for things but since they offered and I know they can afford to help me I was happy to except.

At the moment I have just finished my course and have to register as a health professional before I start work. This means I have a lot more time at home than usual. I do jobs around the house washing cleaning cooking etc and take my 80 yr old grandad out for the day lots. I have no money and my parents don't have much free time, we try to support each other.

oliviasmummy

yes I would say they do but in a good way. I dont get anything handed ona plate and I have worked since I was 14 (my own choice at 14). But im 24 now married and have a baby and I still get £200 for xmas £50 for bday and my hubby gets exactly the same . My daughter gets things bought for her if my parents are out shopping and see somethign they like as they do fro my neice and my brother and sister get the same too (14 and 22). My parents paid for my wedding and saved for 2.5 years so I could have the wedding of my dreams costing approx £17k and would do the same again for my sister and brother if and when they choose to marry. They helped us with our deposit for our house(as we were just short for what we needed when we found the house we wanted) which we paid back in the first year. I know they would bend over back wards and I think I probably get on with them better now I dont live at home but still had a good relationship with them when I did. I love them they are the best parents ever and not just because they buy me stuff because I know they would give their last penny to me ifI needed it without question they have sacrifised so much for me and my beother and sister and we will be eternally grateful. They just need to learn to let us return the favour now.

LouBlue

My mum never had much money (due to a p*g of a father, when he was actually around), so no but it never bothered me or my 2 sisters, because we had a lot of love from her. Even when friends...still now...get helping hands from their parents, I don't feel envious or anything, as we never had that so we were used to it. I know my mum would have, if she had had the money. I don't have parents anymore but I did spoil my mum as often as I could, she was such a great mum and never complained about not having much, that I just loved treating her.

lustuandlittleharrytoo

We never had a lot of money when we were younger but I can always remember being over the moon with a 2nd hand black and white telly, with a dial to change the channels! and a spectrum 48k with jet set willy computer.
Me and my sister knew my mam and dad didn't have the money so we never asked for anything, we always had fantastic christmasses! When my Mam and Dad were more well off we got a bit more money spent on us around £100-£150 pound each.

When I met my partner I was 22 and had just moved out, he was amazed that my Mam and Dad had bought me a telly and video combo, as soon as my partner turned 18 his Mam and Dad stopped buying for him!

I thought that was shocking! You don't suddenly get rid of your kids at 18!

Now that I have a little boy I don't expect my Mam and Dad to spoil me althought I still get a lovely basket with lots of little goodies in, even if it is a little one pound bath bomb its the thought that counts x x x:j

pipkin71

red_devil wrote: »

Do you parents treat you alot and buy you lots of things at birthdays and Xmas etc?

My parents do, and not just on birthdays or at christmas.

I'm not spoilt though.

I treat DDs, again not just on birthdays or at christmas, but I do like to do things with them on those days to make them more memorable.

Christmas sees lots of planning to make it a time to remember