Do your parents spoil you as an adult

borokat

I got my birthday present early this year, £500 towards driving lessons. This is after they have already paid out for my first lot when I was 18/19. It was really really nice of them to do so. I couldn't afford them myself and not being able to drive is holding me back a little so I think they just reason that as they have the money there is no need to watch me struggle. I am 25 and bought my flat at 22, over the past 3 years my boyfriend and I have spent thousands on it! My parents have helped out where they can, they gave us money for a new boiler, and bought us a bed when we first moved in. They are great when we go to stay as well, they really make an effort to accomodate us and keep us happy by filling the fridge with beer! It pays off because we enjoy visiting my parents and all get on really well, although I'm sure it would still be the same if my parents weren't so well off.
I hope one day that I can repay them in some way, they are fantastic parents I really couldn't wish for more. It wasn't always like this by the way, when I was a kid money was tight and we got what we needed and not much more - although Christmas was always dead special.

babymoo

My parents are divorced. I get about £50 from mum for main pressie and few other bits n bobs. Usually get about £100 from dad but he is better paid than mum. So yes I guess I am still very spoilt.

RoxieW

unfortunately i was at the back of the queue when they gave out parents. reading some of the posts on here I feel very jealous and quite sad. i hope those of you with wonderful parents take time to appreciate them as you are lucky I just hope to be the kind of parent to my own children that I would have wished for.

foxy-roxy

I am far more spoilt by my parents (esp. dad) now (aged 27) then i was a child, as a kid i was mainly spoilt at christmas and birthdays etc but now as an adult living in my own place i think my dad knows how hard it is to have to pay bills etc.
He has given me a laptop, a car, contract mobile, flatscreen t.v, trip to NYC next month, cash, hairdresser paid for the year, digital camera....i could carry on but i am starting to sound like a right spoilt little brat, but i don't ask for any of it...really i dont.:o

Wow just reading it is making me fill up, thanks dad, i will always remember everything you have done for me:D

maggied_2

RoxieW wrote: »

unfortunately i was at the back of the queue when they gave out parents. reading some of the posts on here I feel very jealous and quite sad. i hope those of you with wonderful parents take time to appreciate them as you are lucky I just hope to be the kind of parent to my own children that I would have wished for.

Roxie - you sound lovely and I'm sure you are a great mum - you can break the cycle!

I'm eternally grateful for my mum and dad - they'd do anything for me and I honestly don't what I'd do without them sometimes. They're much softer on me now - they were so stict when I was younger although I see now how much they did for me.

Moneywise they do spend more these days but I always feel bad - we're all still earning (and thanks to their whip cracking all have good jobs ) and they're both retired.

They still know how to drive me crackers but they are the best :T

bylromarha

Spolit as a kid materially, not spoilt since I got married in my last year of uni.

OH was never spolit, got lovely Cmas pressies though. Then we had kids....OH never got such lavish Cmas pressies as the lavishness transferred to the first grandchild.

katieclampet

I wish!!! I really envy some of the posters on here, you have lovely parents. However I am really nice to my dds, I wouldn't say I spoil them, as such, but I do buy them little pressies from time to time, I'm generous at birthdays & christmas, and I always help them out, and do little things for them (and big things).

This is all the things my parents didn't do for me, so it gives me great pleasure to do it for them.

katiex

Greener_Grass

Nope not with money or emotionally. My dad phones me once a month if I'm lucky. My mum only phones me to moan about my brother.:mad:

Despite being in a very hard place financially none of mine or OH's parents help out at all. OH's parents haven't even bough anything for our son and it is thier first grandson My dad pays my sisters uni accomodation despite her being up there getting drunk/ stoned all the time, failing the first year and having to resit it then deciding to take a gap year. He has now said he was going to buy us something for our new house the last 2 times we have moved and has then not done so. He generally takes nothing to do with me, Never has. I'm not bitter, honest :mad::rolleyes:

Very sad really, I aim to be the complete opposite in every way with my son and any future children I have

Mrs_Optimist

Not financially no, but then I wouldn't want it - I am better off than my parents financially so I try and spoil them !

However my parents have always given me security, love and great life skills that money cannot buy so for that I will always be grateful.

Marcheline

"my parents have always given me security, love and great life skills that money cannot buy so for that I will always be grateful"

Well said Mrs. Optimist, same here! I am not (and have never been) spoilt materialistically, but I honestly believe I have the best parents in the world in terms of love and support.