Do your parents spoil you as an adult

squidgeworth

Yes my parents spoil me.
When I was a child there was not a lot of money but I was given all the skills, education and time that have helped to put me where I am now. Living in a lovely house with 3 wonderful kids and a fantastic OH. Now they are retired and not in particularly good health and just when I can pay them back" for all they've done for me, they now spoil me rotten financially. I take Mum shopping each week and it is a very rare week when she doesn't but me a new item of clothing (to keep me looking fashionable) or insists on paying for some (or all) of my groceriesor buys clothes for the kids. She says I do a lot for her and they really couldn't manage without me but I don't feel that I do much more than any other daughter would do for her parents. She knows that we have to be careful with money so that I can be a SAHM and be there for them and my in laws who are also getting on a bit.

sillyvixen

my parents buy me somthing i need for christmas and birthdays - for over the last few years it has been kitchen equiptment ... finding it hard this year as i have everything i need (mum sugests i have no breadmaker - i dont get through a small loaf a week!!) although my parents give me time and experience! my dad is an electrician and will come over at a moments notice to sort an electrical problem for a coffee and a slice of cake! and that is worth its weight in gold!

onlyroz

Yes, I'm absolutely spoiled by my parents and I probably should appreciate them more. In the past they've lent me quite large amounts of money to (e.g.) buy a car or to move house. It's all been paid back since but I've no doubt that if I asked to borrow again they'd do it without a thought. They always spend quite a bit on my family at Christmas as well. But the main thing is the help they've given me with childcare - they come down for weeks at a time to look after the kids when the nursery/school is closed. Also, my mum did a fair bit of baby-sitting when I was writing up my thesis (not easy with a bubba in the house). They're also in the process of uprooting themselves 200 miles so that they can be closer to us and the grandkids (more of a priority for them now that my brother is now living in the south).

Angel777

I am spoilt with love and hugs...

They do buy me lovely presents for xmas, birthdays, easter egg on easter and if i ever asked them for anything they would give it to me its just that i know that they have struggles and worked so hard and still do. I do not like to ask them for anything. I am self sufficient and i spoil them as much as i can.

They have never made me ever feel that i have gone without, i remember them sending me on every school trip even if they found it difficult - these are the days before skiing and god knows where else now a days but we did go to France!

I am fortunate to be so loved by them. I really do not know what i would do without them.

Belisarius

Not in terms of gifts, but we weren't really spoilt as children in that way, either. They have offered me a lot of financial support while I've ben doing my PhD. The best thing they do is just love me a lot unconditionally. I am spoilt in that way!

Glamazon

red_devil wrote: »

Do you parents treat you alot and buy you lots of things at birthdays and Xmas etc?

Not really - I'm 26 and get £50 of each parent at Christmas and £30 for birthday. I don't ask for anything else throughout the year and the only time I've ever asked for money is house deposit.

On the other hand, OH's parents easily spend £500 on him and his bro and about £70 on me for Christmas which I find quite awkward as my parents tend to buy OH the token 'aftershave' for Christmas. OH's parents don't like to give money, instead buy 100's of presents - this is no exaggeration you want to see the living room on Christmas Day :eek:

Every time they come to visit, they bring all the little luxuries we dont buy (sweets, chocs, puddings etc) and stock up the cupboards. They always pay for meals out, buy me and OH random stuff, don't let me pay for anything and now they have their first grandson it will just get even worse. He already has a Halloween outfit :rolleyes: (he's 5 weeks old!)

So, I guess I don't get spoilt by my own parents but I do by OH's!!

Mrs_Ryan

My parents spoil me rotten especially at birthdays and Christmas, but also will always help me when Im struggling. Mum has just bought us a new cooker, plus she has let slip she's bought us both loads of Xmas pressies. Its my birthday on Sunday and as well as giving me money, she's sent me a big parcel of pressies bless her.
OH's parents are totally the opposite, they split when he was a kid and seem to be more interested in his step-siblings so he was quite surprised at how much my parents spoil me (and him!)

lavidaloca

My Dad always insisted on giving me some holiday spending money each time I went on holiday even after I was married and well into my 40s! Always made me smile.

I wasn't spoilt moneywise as such but timewise they couldn't do enough for me especially my Dad and diy.

minerva_windsong

Yes. I am definitely the spoilt one out of myself and my two sisters. There may be several reasons for this - I don't (yet) have a paid job, I'm a lot younger than my sisters, etc. I do get quite a hefty weekly allowance from my parents, as well as occasionally having clothes etc bought for me, but they spend the same amount of money on all three of us for birthdays and at Christmas.

That said though I've never directly asked them for money or anything else (other than as birthday or Christmas presents, and in an 'I would like...' way rather than an 'I want...' way, if that makes sense), and I never would.

brokeworkaholic

I don't get spoilt but my brother aged early 30's (2 yrs younger than me) is incredibly spoiled.

I get items I specify I don't really want for my birthday whereas he asks for cash & gets it. I work 70 hrs a week & haven't had more than a 4 day break for 7 years because I wanted to get my house & pensions in order first - he does 28 hrs a week, has not a lot to show for it & is treated to take-aways etc.

Am I bitter? You bet!!!:rolleyes: