Vasectomy Experiences

catkins

Miss-Moneypenny wrote: »

my ex fiance had his vasectomy after the birth of his second child as he was married and in his very early thirties and not planning any more children. A year later his wife left him and he got divorced. I met him a year after that, I have no children and being 10 years younger than him was starting to want them. He always said he would have the operation reversed and although we knew there were no guarantees it would work we were willing to take the chance once we were financially able to have it done. That day never came and after 4 years together our relationship broke down because I wanted a child and he couldn't couldn't give me one.

I am not saying you shouldn't have it done, but I think Gingin is right, you don't know what is around the corner. My ex only had the operation done because he was married with two children and thought he had his family for life. It never occurred to him at the time that his life might change so significantly and he might regret it.

Although I can see your point of view, this is the reason why doctors are so reluctant to do the op if you do not have children or only have 1 or 2. We knew from day one that we did not want children but had to pay privately for my husband to have it because our doctor was so convinced we would change our mind. She said loads of men ask for it to be reversed and it is not very often successful

mummym_3

hi, i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me on whether my dh would be able to have snip on nhs? i have just found out that i am pregnant and this will be his 5th child ( my 3rd) he is only 24 :eek: and really doesnt want anymore after this one, but i am not sure if he will have to go private?? any advice will be gratefully recieved x

windswept

I can only advise him to ask his GP. If 5 kids by age 24 isn't a good enough reason, i don't know what is!

mummym_3

windswept wrote: »

I can only advise him to ask his GP. If 5 kids by age 24 isn't a good enough reason, i don't know what is!

thankyou hence the :eek: x

TUS

mummym wrote: »

hi, i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me on whether my dh would be able to have snip on nhs? i have just found out that i am pregnant and this will be his 5th child ( my 3rd) he is only 24 :eek: and really doesnt want anymore after this one, but i am not sure if he will have to go private?? any advice will be gratefully recieved x

I'm 27 with 3 kids and am having mine in September. My GP tried talking me out of it and even said "what if your youngest baby dies next week?" :-o I am quite adament though and he's referred me to the hospital. Bit nervous about it.

A question to lads who have done it - I actually live about 500m from the hospital. Am I going to be in a good enough state right after the Op to walk home? Or will I need to drive/be picked up for such a short journey?

TUS

My OH looked into getting sterlised when she had our youngest, as she was having a c-section anyway. But they wouldn't do it at the same time and recommended to wait a year if she still wants it. The way I see it, she has been through natural labour twice and had major surgery once already. I don't have any expectation of her to go through major surgery AGAIN if I can get it done as an outpatient procedure.

Although this is a joint decision, it is also a personal decision for me. I do not want anymore children. I don't have the financial or emotional capability to bring up any more children. I love the children I've got and I know that's it for me (even if a worst case scenario, which doesn't bare thinking about).

Edit - additionally, IF you wanted to reverse a sterilisation, it is a VERY expensive and VERY difficult thing to have done. Reversal of a vas is a lot more accessible and straight forward. Worth remembering that.

brians_daughter

My oh had it done in May 2009. He had 1 day off work, the proceedure was in the morning and he had the afternoon off to recover. He was in some pain - but when he took some co codamol he was is discomfort rather than pain. He felt back to normal by the end of the week...

He got the all clear in Nov/December last year but we are one of the failure statistics, we are expecting number 4 early next year! However i will say THIS IS VERY VERY UNUSUAL, once you have the all clear after 6 months or so very few men experience re connection (or whatever they call it). Most couples who fall pregnant after the vacectomy have had unprotected sex prior to being given the go ahead

mummym my oh couldnt have it done if i was pregnant or had had a child in the last 6 months - but that all depends on the health authority, or so we are lead to understand

mumslave

I am going to let DH read this thread, he has just had his appointment for his assessment with anesthetic, should be having the actual op within the next month. He is feeling a bit nervous about it.

I am the same as your wife, hormonal contraception affects me really badly. I had a very bad experience on one form of it, that took a year to rectify.

Husband was told that they don't do reversals at the hospital near us any more, but after 4 children, that's not a problem! I did want to be sterilised, but they said at 25 I was too young and we couldn't afford to go private.

Op, hope all goes smoothly for you

shellsuit

So glad this thead was bumped up yesterday!

I had our baby last May, so he's almost 15 months now.

I had a horrendous time with the pregnancy and the birth and don't want anymore kids ever! (I have 2 older children who aren't OH's)

Anyway, the pill turns me into the she-devil, so I stopped taking them, and since then we haven't had a bit of the hokey cokey in ages!

So when I read this thread, I spoke to OH and, found some videos on the net of a vasectomy being done and OH has said he will go and speak to the GP about having it done.

I would do love to jump his bones again without worrying lol!

mumslave

We use condoms shellsuit and every month before af is due I panic even though I know we use them! Sometimes my AF has even been late because I have worried myself so much, I would love to be able to not have to worry again.