Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

TDQO

afternoon, welcome in Bluebird!

Well after all that malarkey earlier in the week I'm no longer seeing the lovely redhead. We're staying friends but I'm not very happy about it. Suppose I'd best get on with chatting up a couple of pretty blondes I've noticed looking my way recently

On the DFW front I worked 9hrs last night and earned £72 cash in hand Unfortunately I've realised my payment from Australia is going to be taxed.... at 22%... that's $4400 dollars less I'll get

Buffythedebtslayer

Just dropping by to say hi to Gwen08 xxx thank you for the pm xxx when my head is a bit straighter I will reply xxxxx

Shoe_Gal

Hi ladies

Hen night was fab - but I am suffering for it today

And am gutted about the football

Lula-Hula

Hey all,

I've nothing of any greatness to declare other than I have had a NSD.

Have spent most of the day washing, ironing, tidying & decluttering & putting stuff back in my room but not wanting too as it's starting to look cluttered again :mad:. I have only done minimal chores for 2 weeks now & am starting to get a bit fed up with all the chaos that comes with decorating .

Glad you had a fab night out Shoe Gal & well done on continuing with the ebay sales sarah :A. I have removed the reminder I get when I've been outbid on an item, which means that now I never know whether I have won an item until I log in.

Those outbid warnings were like a red rag to a bull; I immediately felt compelled to log in, up my bid, oust the usurper from my rightful place & then get all competitive about it. It became all about the winning rather than the item .

Other than paying the gas bill I havent done any finance stuff at all . I'm also rather dreading going to work tomorrow; I feel as though I'm in a vipers nest & the green-eyed goblin colleague in the corner clearly has a lot of issues & is making my life there pretty miserable.

I hate even having to think about how to handle the situation, the put downs are so subtle that I'm even questioning whether I have slight paranoia.

Apologies for the whinge, again. I'm probably just overtired & fretful :rotfl:

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

well done on continuing with the ebay sales sarah :A.

Have made £120 over the weekend:j:j:j Just got to wrap and post 20 things now:(. I think I might get everything sold by the end of the month as this rate, I think I will actually miss it.:( It is starting to look a lot tidier though and the cc is going down.

Lula-Hula wrote: »

I'm also rather dreading going to work tomorrow; I feel as though I'm in a vipers nest & the green-eyed goblin colleague in the corner clearly has a lot of issues & is making my life there pretty miserable.

I hate even having to think about how to handle the situation, the put downs are so subtle that I'm even questioning whether I have slight paranoia.

I hate being in those sort of situations, at least if they were open about it you could deal with it.:mad: In the meantime, even though it is difficult can you try to ignore it and rise above it? They will know if they are getting to you, doing it to someone who doesn't notice will get very boring and they will move on to someone else. The green eyed goblin is obviously a rather pathetic, unhappy and unfulfilled individual if they have to behave like that. :mad: Best to ignore them, it will drive them mad.:D

Butterfliesarepretty

Hi all bad news im afraid. My andy finished with me today, he has received a visa for australia which he has always wanted to go there, 4 years and he could be sent back, wants to take his daughter. He was rejected last year. He felt crap, he said he didnt want to hurt me further down the line, yet I had already let my wall down and trusted him and fell for him.

Im still awake, and feel really really knocked back for six, after all the stuff i have been through with my dad being ill and other things, i am heading back towards depression. I can't sleep, drank alcohol and kept thinking i want to die while asleep. The opportunity meant more to him than a relationship and so I feel awful and hurt and teary and really really down.

Been texting my friend from work and she suggested i take an emergency holiday tomorrow as she said i wont be able to cope in work (which I know i will break down), we only get ssp after first two days are not paid and im going to make an appt with my doctor to help me.

The cash situation and the fact i cannot change my life for the better is really making me feel trapped and i feel like giving up on everything.

Eyes are swollen and im sat here trying to relax and cant.
He was going to do my cv for me too, and I really need some help with mine. i have already applied for one better job and need to try and apply for more tomorrow. Been thinking of selling the house and settling in a static caravan to help my money situation. I cant stand this struggling any longer and yet I have less debts than some lovely people on here.


Anybody felt like giving up on life?

Souk08

Tracey please go to the Doctors today hon. XXX

Butterfliesarepretty

Hi i have thankfully got an appt with doctor today at 5.40pm. Really need help as I am so lonely and fed up of my routine.
I have been awake all night and lovely sarah sent me a message last night - thankyou sarah for caring about me.
I cant stop crying or thinking about how trapped i feel. i want better for myself and feel that nobody wants me or really cares to visit me. i keep thinking of bad things and have phoned in work for emergency holiday. if doctor signs me off i cant because employer only pays ssp and thats not even enough to cover my bills so will have to grin and go in.

the last time i felt like this was 2001 when i was divorcing and i lost my daughter and i now cant believe all these feelings are coming back, i have tried so hard.

eco

Butterflies that's carp, but Souk is right get help from the doc's, was going to say those feelings will surface again and again, this Saturday would have been my mum's birthday, and besides the feelings of wishing she was still here, I get the green eyed bug of hating everyone who still has parents, it does get easier but when life gets tough I hate the fact I'm on my own with no one to turn to. Enough of me tho and my little rant was to say that trying to rise above the feelings of despair is sometimes harder than others, but you know you can come through it and hopefully next time the feelings surface they won't seem as bad as now.
Lula was going to say your work colleague is obviously jealous of you for something, so smile sweetly at them while mentally sticking 2 fingers up at them, that's what I do, was thinking that Sarah's flat mate is jealous too, and when you think about it lads don't like confident women who appear to have it sussed without there help.
I'm going to do aome work now, be back later, keep smiling they wonder what you've been doing.

makeup

Butterflies - I can only echo the others advice. Speak to your doctor today and see what help they can give you.

You sound really down but I hope you can find something to help you feel better.

I can see how difficult it must have been for andy as well though, he must have applied for that visa ages ago, well before he met you and it would be hard to make that decision if you have been planning that move for so long.

Try not to take it personally, he would have gone regardless probably if he had been thinking about this for a long time. I know it will be hard but try to keep thinking about positive things, you've done so well to get yourself out there on the dating websites and I know you will be able to come back from this let down.