Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

eco

Hiya everyone, Saturday night was the black tulip reunion, and I had a ball, didn't get home till about 3.30, and woke up early and now I'm tired, but it was worth it, I was smashed.
The only embarressing thing I did was, I saw this guy at the other side of the bar and thought OMG thats... ran round and he was like hiya how you doing, we hugged and chatted for about 5 mins, it was only later I was thinking I'm sure I don't really know him, but he seemed to know who I was so thought sod it, I'd even asked my friends if they knew him and they said no, so god knows who he was, but as he was 6'3 well built figured it was worth it.
i think i might do a list of 100 things to do next year, and I have decided it will be my year, been more mse and doing the things i like as well as some new stuff.

RosaBernicia

Hi all

Bowski, well done on the pressies

TDQO, I shall consider the wrapping hustle if still skint next year ... your Christmas Day plan sounds v sensible to me but have you considered it might not be so quiet if the several hundred bikers do arrive after all?

Love your list Lula, I will be using that along with Makeup's suggestions.

Good luck with new job Souk :j, :grouphug: for Carole and Gwen.

Well I have had a bit of a wake-up call this weekend. Friday decided to give up on guy at work (too boring to repeat), then Sunday morning woke up to two texts from a guy I had an, um, dirty stopover with a few weeks ago. The first was addressed to someone else telling her how much he loved and needed her, the second explaining that he hadn't sent it as his mate nicked his phone. Now I realise I should have known better than to reply, but I did think maybe he'd bumped into my friend who was out that night and they'd sent it to me to get him to deny it and get him talking. Turns out his mate apparently sent it to his entire phone book. And I suspect he wrote it, even if he hadn't originally sent it. I know it sounds daft but it really really stung - it's never good hearing how someone you like loves someone else, and it made me think how long it is since anybody said they loved and needed me . So have had a very grumpy upset couple of days. Now recovering and trying to look at it as a push to rethink my priorities. 2010 list will help. ok you can put the violins away now...

Rosa xx

eco

Turns out his mate apparently sent it to his entire phone book. And I suspect he wrote it, even if he hadn't originally sent it. I know it sounds daft but it really really stung - it's never good hearing how someone you like loves someone else, and it made me think how long it is since anybody said they loved and needed me . So have had a very grumpy upset couple of days. Now recovering and trying to look at it as a push to rethink my priorities. 2010 list will help. ok you can put the violins away now...

Rosa xx[/QUOTE]

some lads will always be carp and not worth a second of your time, but your right it alway hurts and it's not a nice thing to do, but you know like I do deep down we all deserve better and we'll get there, and I don't say things half as well as Lula will, but you have to keep telling yourself you are F Fabulous and this is a low day but tomorrow will be better. Sorry I ramble a bit sometimes.

gwen80

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Good luck with new job Souk :j, :grouphug: for Carole and Gwen.

I'm fine, ta! I was just commiserating with Carole. I pretty much gave up with men ages ago. Unless an a-m-a-z-i-n-g specimen (and by that I mean Jake Gyllenhaal or Hugh Jackman, ha, ha! ) comes along and proves me wrong, I'm concentrating on being rich and fabulous

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Well I have had a bit of a wake-up call this weekend. Friday decided to give up on guy at work (too boring to repeat), then Sunday morning woke up to two texts from a guy I had an, um, dirty stopover with a few weeks ago. The first was addressed to someone else telling her how much he loved and needed her, the second explaining that he hadn't sent it as his mate nicked his phone. Now I realise I should have known better than to reply, but I did think maybe he'd bumped into my friend who was out that night and they'd sent it to me to get him to deny it and get him talking. Turns out his mate apparently sent it to his entire phone book. And I suspect he wrote it, even if he hadn't originally sent it. I know it sounds daft but it really really stung - it's never good hearing how someone you like loves someone else, and it made me think how long it is since anybody said they loved and needed me . So have had a very grumpy upset couple of days. Now recovering and trying to look at it as a push to rethink my priorities. 2010 list will help. ok you can put the violins away now...

Rosa xx

:grouphug: Rosa. It always stings when you find out somebody you care about cares about somebody else. Take care of yourself, rethink your priorities if necessary (I can help a little with that....No.1. = You!) and come back fighting in 2010!

Gwenx

eco

Another thing I keep telling myself is I'll have to sift through loads of carp to find the one, so the quicker I sift and discard the better.

RosaBernicia

Thanks Eco, thanks Gwen :grouphug:

Somebody said 'we put ourselves in place where we learn the lessons we need to learn' so I'm taking it as a message. 2Fabulous10 will sort this out!

eco wrote: »

Another thing I keep telling myself is I'll have to sift through loads of carp to find the one, so the quicker I sift and discard the better.

The kissing frogs approach? Hm, not a bad idea just sometimes hard to maintain motivation!


Rosa xx

Souk08

Thanks all for kind words on the new job, Bowski same line and more or less same company, just posher frocks! Excited as this year my boss has been horrid to me and nearly wrecked my confidence completely. Thankfully I am rather a strong lady but anyone else would have been on tablets after dealing with her! New boss is older and looks like she can handle herself a bit more.

Rosa - I got a text giving it 'Good morning beautiful' a few months ago. It was for someone else but not from someone I knew. I thought it was hilarious as it was all 'Did you sleep well' and I had passed out pi55ed so guessed it was for some more refined creature!

Carole - It's normal to question your judgement when something like this happens but like you say no reason not to like yourself. Put yourself first doll and maybe even enjoy a bit of debauchery of your own! Only if you want to of course.

On the late tonight so just in and enjoying a cuppa and custard cream or 3.

bathgatebuyer

Hey all - how's things right now? Everything seems to be getting a bit funny as Xmas gets closer, isn't it? People seem to be either all philosophical or just mental at this time of year.

One of the things I was criticised for was actually admitting that I can't stand kids. Some people don't believe it because I'm a woman and everybody knows that we have no other ambition in life as women but to have kids :rolleyes: Are there any other women at all on the planet who feel anything like this? Amazing the amount of people who said to me, "But don't you want to get married?" like not wanting kids means that I should never marry!

My best mate from Uni has 3 kids and I've given up going to see her. Every time I go down there (she's about 100 miles away) we can barely have a conversation together.

"My cousin has been told she has a brain tumour"
".............eh..........oh yeah..............nice"
"Shame, she's got 2 little boys......"
"Oh that's nice..............come here (to one of her kids)"
"She might have little as 3 months to live........"
".......oh.........ok................sorry, who's that..........."
"My cousin, she's got a tumour............."
".............put that cup down (to one of her kids)................so she's got wee baby boys now..............nice"
"No, she's seriously ill........."
"Why didn't you say? Do you want the wii on (to one of her kids)?"
:rolleyes:

Frustrating to say the least. Not the kids fault admittedly, but I can see that we're more distant than ever because our lives are just going in two totally different directions. Her's is all about family and kids and mine, well, isn't LOL:o

Is it just some sort of subliminal jealously that I have that other people have reached some sort of relationship nirvana with doting husbands, babies, complete package et al, or is it really possible for some women to just really dislike kids? Apparently not according to 99%of my office.

Of course, I'm right though

Sorry, that's just a random thing I had to get off my chest!

bathgatebuyer

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Physical
Mental
Self Development
Money/Finance
Career/Work
Family
Social
Spiritual
Emotional
Property

I'm officially working on these now! I was always told to write down my resolutions for the year but put them in the box with the tree when it went back up the loft so that the following Xmas I could look back t the previous years' resolutions and see if they came true or not.......................:o erm, usually failed by February!

Will put these on front of the fridge!

Souk08

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

:rolleyes: Are there any other women at all on the planet who feel anything like this?

Me! I like other peoples kids but won't be having any of my own. Just like doing my own thing really.