What romantic things does your OH do for you?

Jo_R_2

Aw that is so sweet!

Going to ask OH when he gets in later what he thinks about this... I suspect it'll be along the lines of the earlier "show up naked and bring beer" accented with "more beer":D

bylromarha

Been married 10 years and OH still does lots of wonderful little romantic things.

Don't think the honeymoon period should stop. Long live showing each other love in whatever way you receive it!

If you can get past the Christian aspect if you aren't a believer, can recommend this book

All about how you give and receive love-we all tend to give love the way we want to receive it and this book encourages us to examine in what way our partner feels loved and to show them love in that way rather than our way.

Eg-OH feels loved when I do things for him, I feel loved when he is touchy feely. This book stopped me being so touchy feely with him and doing things to show I love him and he stopped doing things round the house and chose to be more touchy feely to show he loves me.

make sense?!

Stephb1986_2

Aww Jahney thats so sweet. My OH aint that romantic either he does however buy me a chocolate bar at the weekend (I only see him at weekends) comes and picks me up if it's raining really bad because I don't like driving in the rain. He tells me he loves me all the time.

Steph xx

busiscoming2

Mine is not particularly romantic, in my opinion. Judging what other people have said their oh's do, I suppose making me poached egg on toast on a Sunday could be construed as romantic, but he only does it cos its what he is having!

giddynici

Love this thread. Hubby has been known to be romantic... when I started my first job he surprised me by arriving to get me at finishing time on my first day with a big bunch of flowers (which considering we were long distance at the time was so sweet). He used to do the notes in the lunchbox one too... back when I took them. And to propose he took me back to where we had our first kiss and got down on one knee.
However, I agree with most posters that it's the thoughful things that make a difference. DH would always do the dishes because I cooked (we have a dw now). If I'm having a low day he will have a wee choc pudding waiting in the fridge for me. He always comes to meet me if it's late so I don't need to walk home in the dark even though it's a 10 min (max) walk. And just generally being a sweetheart.

GFN123

Thanks Jo-R for starting this thread, it's really lovely

It's also very poignant for me as lately I have got into a bad habit of being quite critical & negative rather than focusing on all the good things about my long-suffering OH! He's such a lovely man & I was actually going to write a list of all the nice things he does, so I hope no-one minds if I do it here, not trying to 'boast' but wanted to remind myself of why I love him

* He's really considerate - before we lived together I caught him tidying & straightening out all my really messy drawers (because I was always moaning I couldn't find anything!)

* When we were due to move in, he sent flowers to my work with a note "these will look lovely in our new home"

* When I was doing a really tough course he had dinner waiting every night & did all the washing up too.

* He does do bigger gestures, like buying jewellery & bringing home surprise gifts, but it's the small things that count - like others said, a cup of coffee in bed is my favourite thing & he always offers

* When I went out with my friend for lunch I came home to find the kitchen sparkling, no mean feat as we'd had a load of work done & the place was chaos in inches of dust!

* He will always stay home & sober so he can pick me up from a night out, so I get home safe

* Buys my favourite biscuits & sweets for when we are going to curl up & watch a film

* If I moan about achey shoulders he always gives me a massage

There's loads more but these really stand out for me. I'm a very lucky girl!

lostinrates

I'm interested if the people who say their OH's are not romantic feel that they themselves are romantic and it is unreciprocated, or whether niether party really makes the effort? Perhaps its worth making the first move oneself?

When we both worked whoever was home first would get a couple of glasses out and towels ready for a bath, then we'd always start the evening with a shared bath/glass of wine and talk about the day.

Now we live apart four nights a week so things have changed a bit. every mornig I call DH to wake him, so he still wakes up to me. We occasionally send each other a card/postcard. He always gets me a postard of where he has been throuh the week if he travels.

when he is home he makes me a coffee in the morning, he akes beautiful coffee. He also vacuums as he knows I hate that job the most. I get a massage most weekends, and when ever we sit to watch a film he rubs or massages my feet. .

giddynici

GFN123 wrote: »

* When we were due to move in, he sent flowers to my work with a note "these will look lovely in our new home"

Thats so sweet!

GFN123

giddynici wrote: »

Thats so sweet!

Yes, it was the loveliest thing ever! And I walked back to my desk from the reception area grinning like a loon with everyone swooning which made my day! :o

lostinrates makes a good point, and it is about being considerate to each other. I sometimes make his lunch sometimes & leave love notes in there, run candlelit baths & tonight as a mini celebration making his favourite meal & bought his favourite pudding too I buy him flowers & small gifts if I see something he will like as well.

I guess we can all be guilty of becoming complacent, and I don't want us to fall in to that, even though sometimes it seems like an effort!

Rummer

Hello!

After just having a silly squabble with my OH this thread has made me think of all the nice things he does:

• Makes my packed lunch every day
• Hugs me when I cry at bad TV
• Comes home with flowers and my fav choc bar every so often
• Feeds the animals when I am tired
• Takes care of all the stinky things (bins etc)
• Spends time with my family especially my gran
• Loves me as I am