Need some advice - stealing

PaulLuke

LeeSouthEast wrote: »

Call the bloody police! That's outrageous. You'll get most of your stuff back with any luck.

Agree - involve the police - if only to re-inforce the fact to yo9ur ex-lodger that what she did is theft.

BitterAndTwisted

In your position I'd wait and see what the social worker has to say before calling the police. If nothing else it would be interesting to know how they choose to handle a situation like this. That someone could abuse your kindness, generosity and mentoring in such a way is completely disgraceful and I hope she is repaid for her despicable behaviour. I'm totally outraged on your behalf.

The social worker thought it was unlikely anything could be done? What about popping round to her new, fully equipped place and taking back your possessions? The cheek: don't SS try to reinforce any rules or standards? These disadvantaged youngsters don't ever have to face the consequences of their actions? We're all going to hell in a handbasket *rant*

LilacPixie

I am guessing as she was with you over 2 years she is over 18 therefore an Adult. Call the police.

gizmo111

I would definetly mention it to her Social Worker, and the end of the day they are the girls parents and need to discuss it with her and get a plan to reimburse you. She obviously won't need her leaving caregrant for the stuff she's taken will she, they have complete discretion on how it gets spent, it is unlikely ot be a cash amount she gets.

charliee_3

that is awful!! the attitude of the social worker shrugging her shoulders and saying not much can be done.. of course it can.. they must have some sort of insurance or something? what if one of these trouble teens burns your house down, or trashes the place? would you be expected to cover that?

tell them that unless they get your stuff back in the same condition it was in, or compensate you for the loss that you are going to the police. if you want to claim off your insurance you will need a crime number so you are perfectly entitled to do it. if they dont want you to do it they had better make sure you arent out of pocket...

its disgraceful!! fight them....

shyam25

you should have called the police

mrbrightside842

Call the police, the earlier you do it the better. Even if you don't follow through with it, it's good to have it logged early, otherwise there'll be 'why did you leave it so long'. Do it today.

poppysarah

If you've not called the police by now I would assume you can't bring yourself to do it.
Without doing that though you've got no chance. There's no point going round and asking for stuff back unless you want to call the police out when she says no.
I'd write it off to experience and next time ask the SS to provide a bond to cover such eventualities in future.

You could look upon it as your charitable donation for the next year or two.

sarahb

Call the police - if not to secure the return of your belongings, then do it to show this girl that there are repercussions and she must take responsibility for her own actions now she is an adult.

Debt_Free_Chick

crawley_girl wrote: »

Cos I am a softie like you said earlier!

Do you think they would take me seriously? And what are the chances of them being able to do anything/ prove anything?

I feel like such an idiot!

Report it to the Police. They should take a statement from you including a list/description of the stolen items. Photos and receipts would be a bonus, if you have them - if not, a good description e.g. Slumberdown goose feather & down duvet, tog 13.5 (or whatever).

They should visit the girl and ask her if your allegations are true or not. This gives them an opportunity to "have a look around" to see if they spot anything stolen e.g. they see the stereo and ask where she got it from. She would need to be a very convincing liar to hookwink them.

Just report it. With luck, the girl will simply return all the stolen items and the matter may not go any further.