October 2010 brides (and grooms!)

faeriemoo

tamarto wrote: »

I think i've found my photographer too, need to phone him back, i think considering our budget he's giving us a good deal and he's good. No very fancy pics but i'm not into having my photo taken anyway.

He will also have a booth at the evening do, for people to get their piccy taken and they can get it there and then in a mount for £7.50.

As he's going to be at the evening do when the booth is quiet he goes round taking pics which are included in our package! :T

That sounds fab!

frannyann

Someone slap me, still not sorted flowers or bought that hat thingy yet, seem to have lost the will to do anything!!

shellsuit

frannyann wrote: »

Someone slap me, still not sorted flowers or bought that hat thingy yet, seem to have lost the will to do anything!!

SLAPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!


I'm really hacked off at the mo.

That I'd said about OH's parents, well, me and OH had a tiff over it (again!) and I moaned about me having to do something about it.

So OH went to theirs last night.

They didn't have any excuse why they haven't bothered with the baby (or us) since I was pregnant.

It's just because they're not interested, what else could it be?!

Well anyway, OH told them we'll see how it goes and see if they start making an effort with the baby.


But....

I don't want them at the wedding.

This is meant to be the happiest day of my life and it will turn out to be the worst if they go.

Seriously, I'd rather cancel than have them there.

They have never liked me, they have never acknowedged me in 8 years, they didn't acknowledge me when I was pregnant, and they didn't acknowledge the baby either.

OH is going away this weekend with my family, for my Dad's bday, with my son, and some of my uncles, oh and my stepdad too lol!

I explained to OH that he has NO idea what it is like for me. My family class OH as one of us, and I get nothing from his side.

OH doesn't even get anything from his side!!

So what do I do?

I know OH would like them there because it's his Dad, but he said if I didn't want them there, they wouldn't go.

Why do I feel like a total cow??????

I'm not being a cow though, this is how I honestly feel.

There will be an atmosphere all day and night.

My family will ignore them and wonder who TF they are as the've never met.

OH wanted to have Kararoke and I know his Dad would want to sing.

I don't want to pay for food and drink for them ~ why should we?

I don't even want a photographer now because I wouldn't want them in the photos!!

It's really upsetting me now and it's all I can think about.

Oh !!!!!! I don't know what to do.

chelbel1981

frannyann wrote: »

Someone slap me, still not sorted flowers or bought that hat thingy yet, seem to have lost the will to do anything!!

Snap! But things are looking up so I can start looking at other things now after a wedding fund donation

shellsuit wrote: »

SLAPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!


I'm really hacked off at the mo.

That I'd said about OH's parents, well, me and OH had a tiff over it (again!) and I moaned about me having to do something about it.

So OH went to theirs last night.

They didn't have any excuse why they haven't bothered with the baby (or us) since I was pregnant.

It's just because they're not interested, what else could it be?!

Well anyway, OH told them we'll see how it goes and see if they start making an effort with the baby.


But....

I don't want them at the wedding.

This is meant to be the happiest day of my life and it will turn out to be the worst if they go.

Seriously, I'd rather cancel than have them there.

They have never liked me, they have never acknowedged me in 8 years, they didn't acknowledge me when I was pregnant, and they didn't acknowledge the baby either.

OH is going away this weekend with my family, for my Dad's bday, with my son, and some of my uncles, oh and my stepdad too lol!

I explained to OH that he has NO idea what it is like for me. My family class OH as one of us, and I get nothing from his side.

OH doesn't even get anything from his side!!

So what do I do?

I know OH would like them there because it's his Dad, but he said if I didn't want them there, they wouldn't go.

Why do I feel like a total cow??????

I'm not being a cow though, this is how I honestly feel.

There will be an atmosphere all day and night.

My family will ignore them and wonder who TF they are as the've never met.

OH wanted to have Kararoke and I know his Dad would want to sing.

I don't want to pay for food and drink for them ~ why should we?

I don't even want a photographer now because I wouldn't want them in the photos!!

It's really upsetting me now and it's all I can think about.

Oh !!!!!! I don't know what to do.

You are not the only one who feels like this my imlaws to be live 3 streets away and the last time my girls saw them was the day before Mother's Day! Before that was Christmas day. I don't like OH immediately family and he doesn't bother with any of his extended family. I have invited some of them only so he has someone there.

I don't know what to suggest except (((((HUG)))))

chelbel1981

:j :j :j :j :jI'M SO EXCITED!!! :j :j :j :j :j


My mum has just given us £1500 towards the wedding. Money worries are over and we can continue sourcing cake, photographer, flowers car etc :T

bubble96

chelbel1981 wrote: »

Snap! But things are looking up so I can start looking at other things now after a wedding fund donation



You are not the only one who feels like this my imlaws to be live 3 streets away and the last time my girls saw them was the day before Mother's Day! Before that was Christmas day. I don't like OH immediately family and he doesn't bother with any of his extended family. I have invited some of them only so he has someone there.

I don't know what to suggest except (((((HUG)))))

chelbels right, your not the only one, my inlaws live 2mins drive away, been with OH 6years, have met up with them maybe 13/14 times, and only once have they been here, difference is we dont have children, but i get upset thinking about what it will be like when we do. just remember its not them your marrying!

oh and chelbel, congrats!!! am excited for you! wish my OHs relatively well off parents would offer to contribut even £50!

magicgirl

shellsuit, i totaly get how you feel but one thing (and please dont take this the wrong way) you may also need to consider is however much you dislike them, it is still his parents. it is also supposed to be the happiest day of HIS life and if he feels he wants his parents there, is it really fair to deny him that? My inlaws are so different to me and their ways i find shocking sometimes. but i also know my h2b feels same about mine. he was taking about banning mine cos they wouldn't offer any help with the wedding and he expected them to despite the fact he wouldn't dream of asking from his. i know this is an extreme example but its just to give some context. i have totally different view to h2b and would rather have eloped without both sets of parents than invite one and not the other (both ways round in my position.. not just mine) but thankfully we were able to work it out. my parents are paying close to half of our costs and my h2b still thinks that is not enough but my parents have been reluctant to offer anyting cos they feel he is a money grabber and generally, he is so not, he is just old fashioned about some things (although fine about having kids out of wedlock. haha. ) perhaps it is something as simple as that wth your in laws, perhaps it is more but one thing i have learned is however bad we feel they are, if its what the OH has always known, they may not see what we do?! i hope that makes sense and doesn't make you feel any worse than you already do. photoshop is a brill tool you know.

magicgirl

sorry chellbell.. meant to say also that i am so chuffed for you. i can imagine how worrying that must have been. my balance is abot £3k and although we are chipping away at it, its still scary how to get there on time. amazing how much you can save from nursery costs isn't it? i am looking forward to that myself but we may well have another by then (I am adamant we should have at least one baby 'legally'. lol)

chelbel1981

magicgirl wrote: »

sorry chellbell.. meant to say also that i am so chuffed for you. i can imagine how worrying that must have been. my balance is abot £3k and although we are chipping away at it, its still scary how to get there on time. amazing how much you can save from nursery costs isn't it? i am looking forward to that myself but we may well have another by then (I am adamant we should have at least one baby 'legally'. lol)

:rotfl: Hahahahaha! I thought I was the only one that was thinking the same thing. Well what are Honeymoons for


We still have a bit to find but it's half of what we needed so at least we can breath. Guess where I'm going this weekend? To pay the venue off :T

shellsuit

chelbel1981 wrote: »

Snap! But things are looking up so I can start looking at other things now after a wedding fund donation



You are not the only one who feels like this my imlaws to be live 3 streets away and the last time my girls saw them was the day before Mother's Day! Before that was Christmas day. I don't like OH immediately family and he doesn't bother with any of his extended family. I have invited some of them only so he has someone there.

I don't know what to suggest except (((((HUG)))))

Our baby is 14 months and the last time they saw him was around July last year. They only live a 15 min drive away.

I want to want them there, but every time I even think about them and what they've done (or not done) over the years, I just see red.

It's not even just because we are getting married that I'm being like this.

Last year they came and OH was playing with the baby. I lost count of the time his Dad told him to 'STOP THAT, LEAVE HIM ALONE'.....I just sat, and bubbled over inside, so the next time they came, I went out!

chelbel1981 wrote: »

:j :j :j :j :jI'M SO EXCITED!!! :j :j :j :j :j


My mum has just given us £1500 towards the wedding. Money worries are over and we can continue sourcing cake, photographer, flowers car etc :T

That's brill news Chel, awww so happy for you, least you can breathe a big sigh of relief now hey!! x

bubble96 wrote: »

chelbels right, your not the only one, my inlaws live 2mins drive away, been with OH 6years, have met up with them maybe 13/14 times, and only once have they been here, difference is we dont have children, but i get upset thinking about what it will be like when we do. just remember its not them your marrying!

oh and chelbel, congrats!!! am excited for you! wish my OHs relatively well off parents would offer to contribut even £50!

I've met them 4 times in 8 years and they don't live far at all!