The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

Lurkio

squizz wrote: »

[*]I will find a nice man who is not married, only interested in sex or a f***wit

Well I fail on all three of those :rolleyes:

Marru wrote: »

I am thinking of doing the Sport Relief mile in March - seems to be challenging enough for me - anyone to join me in [STRIKE]spirit[/STRIKE] cyberspace?

I did this two years ago. DO IT!! Just sign up, then you HAVE to (like I did) :rotfl:

So_Sad_Angel wrote: »

Hope everyone has got a lovely evening planned ?

I have a mate playing in a band at our local.... kind of feel duty bound to go and support him (for a while at least). Might have BIL and family descending on us :eek: which will mean frantic tidying all day..... else it'll be Jools' Hootenanny all the way (can you believe they pre-record that?!!! :eek: its like being told Father Christmas doesn't exist. Which he does, obviously.....:))

Hope we're all well today. I braved Mr T's yesterday (was REALLY quiet actually, bordering on 'pleasant') and got our Duck for tomorrow. Slow cooked in honey, I reckon

jo1972

Lurkio wrote: »

got our Duck for tomorrow. Slow cooked in honey, I reckon

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

You leave our poor HB alone!!!




That sounds blummin luverly, how you do it? (Apart from chuck honey on it and bung it in the oven :rolleyes:)

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Morning all

Thanks for the kind words last night. Went on to have far too much to drink, was incapable of speaking to my Mum when she rang to let me know how she'd got on at the doctors (she has heart problems) and was generally an unpredictable, overemotional drunken mess.

So tonight is going to be an AF New Years Eve. And then, as GC always says, I'm going to take it one day at a time. Am even seriously contemplating going to an AA meeting. Never before thought of that but think I need help. OH doesn't understand (he doesn't drink so thinks I'm being over dramatic....I drank two bottles of wine last night and don't have a hangover...and he thinks thats ok:eek:)

Other than that, I'm good!:rotfl::rotfl:

Jo - hope you and your daughter are ok. It's very sad when they're going through hard times.

HB - thank-you for your wise words last night. It was good to have someone looking at things from a different perspective.

Budgie - I'm another pickled onion fan. My FIL sent over a massive kilner jar of them and I intend starting them tonight. Have been known to just sit with a jar and a spoon!:rotfl:

Anyway, off to sort Piglet out...he's got every toy out he can find and my living room looks like Toys R Us!

Miss P
xx

Go sooner rather than later. Many people think this, then don't go, think they are better, under control, etc and a few weeks/months later another incident.
No-one I know wishes they had waited longer before getting help about their drinking.

I had this for years - I would get very drunk, feel rubbish, promise myself that I would do something, but then never do it. I lived for years like this, and when I went to a meeting, one of my first thoughts was "Why didn't I do this sooner?"

You may have to lose something first though - job, family, health, dignity, etc
I hope that doesn't occur

graemecarter

mollypolly wrote: »

Awww Miss Piggy.Please dont cry.
We are all here for you and know how hard this is.
Its only the wine making you an emotional wreck....hopefully you will soon feel better.
Hope your Mum is ok.
Heres to a happy AF new year.

Take care of you
love Mollypollyxxxx

For me, the drink was an escape from the emotions.
I had the emotions with or without the drink. That's why I drank as I was full of fear, anxiety, self-loathing, anger. The emotions were too much and I drank to escape them, to shut my head up for a while

That's why I needed to change myself - putting down the drink was just the start - dealing with the emotions was the big thing.
With the emotions dealt with (on a day to day basis only) I don't even feel the urge to drink. New Year holds no fear to me. Caution as I will be around alcohol, but no fear, and no resentment that I cannot drink.
Just a clear head and an early start on Jan 1st

Different_Corner

Morning.
A whole night AF ! First in 2 weeks, sleep a bit bleugh but am so pleased to have acheived one. Always feels easier from here on.

Tonight, probably in bed by 10, not a NYE fan. I think it it's a special night if you want it to be. And then I think it can also be a particularly sad one for those that have lost in this last year. It seems to take you a few steps further away. Hugs to all those in that situation.

IM your analogy of a friend outstaying their welcome is true.

For those of you partying enjoy yourselves

40somethingmum

jo1972 wrote: »

Ooooh, what good news is that

Miss P, hugs to you, hope today goes well

I also hate NYE and IM has described it as it is, a friend that's outstayed their welcome :rotfl: OH is out with his mates, DD1 was supposed to be going out with BF and her mates but now they've split up I'm not sure what's going on there, I on the other hand will be picking my mum up early evening and take her and the kids (including DD1 if she's about) to my local Toby Carvery for dinner :drool: then home early for telly, choklit and coffee. May or may not be awake at midnight, I feel it's compulsory to but to be honest, this will be the first New Years that I've not been drinking since I was about 14 years old (bar 2 pregnancies) so I don't think I've much reason to as there is utter $hite on telly! I was planning a Chinese takeaway but just spoke to mum and will probably take her for dinner instead, either way :drool: :drool: :drool:

DD1 v. upset. This is very bad timing, not cos of xmas and new year, but because it's right in the middle of her final A-Level exams. Her GCSE's where completely mucked up because of boyfriend trouble right in the middle of the exams and now she's doing it again :mad:

So, if anyone's about at midnight and home alone, pop on and see if I'm about

Have a good day Jo.

Love
40SM;)

jo1972

Well done DC, fantastic!

I love waking up after an AF night in the first few weeks, although sleep is not that great, it's the unhungovered feeling that it so good, feel tired but clear headed at the same time!

I might go to bed early myself tonight, have to remember to put the phone on silent incase OH wants to wish me a drunken happy new year :rolleyes:

jo1972

40somethingmum wrote: »

Have a good day Jo.

Love
40SM;)

You too my lovey.

And to everyone going out this evening (or staying in and drinking), be careful and enjoy yourselves

Happy New Year to all!

I intend on 2010 being the year of change, thanks to Lurks and his AF challenge that started this time last year, I've changed my thinking so much this last year and achieved more AF days than ever before and thanks to this site and all the wonderful people I'm slowly changing my attitude towards money and credit and saving. I feel that it's all coming together and I'm ready to be grown up now and will commence being an adult tomorrow on the first day of 2010 :cool:

Off to laundrette again to do the quilts, then pet shop, then big Mr T shop :eek: xx

honeybear_2

jo1972 wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

You leave our poor HB alone!!!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Gr3yPilgrim

budget_babe wrote: »

I am fine thankyou very much, just very frustrated. Spent ages (as I sometimes do ) only to click submit and then lose it all.

We have a dodgy internet-gremlin at work (that the technical term for it), and I quite often have the page crash on me when I submit.

I've got into the habit of using notepad / wordpad for typing out long posts.

When you've finished press CTRL and A to select what you've just typed, Press CTRL and C to copy it to your clipboard
Jump back on to MSE, click into the reply window and press CTRL and V to paste it all in there.

Sounds like a faff, but it's only three extra keypresses and if it crashes when you submit it, you'll still have the original text on notepad.