The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

squizz_2

Lurkio wrote: »

Well I fail on all three of those :rolleyes:

:rolleyes: Oh well, at least you are honest!! :rotfl:

Hugs all round today. IM had it so right - it is like feeling compelled to watch someone from the door until they have disappeared, and then you get on with your life... very reflective time. Ten years ago I spent NYE sitting in a local village boozer with my boyfriend of three years and his mates, watching them play pool and hogging the jukebox, then getting the once a year (slightly too long) kiss from his mate at midnight. One marriage and countless changes of address later, and single, but happier with this life because of the possibilities.

I have decided to go out tonight - I do not have to have a crazy one and I think it would be worse to stay in alone and reflect on things. I should be with my friends to see in the new year - we have supported each other in the last few months and hope it continues. Anyway if it all goes wrong, it will be more of an incentive to keep AF in January and beyond.

RA- I think about going to AA but I am depressed and worry that hearing other people's stories will make me feel worse because they have been through a lot more than me and I am just being pathetic, I don't know. I might feel like a fraud.

Miss Piggy - shame you have a lot of difficult stuff to deal with. The previous posters are right, you were an innocent party who got hurt. The protagonists would be very upset that you have been so badly affected but unfortunately people's actions have a far-reaching effect and no more so than when it involves a marriage and mutual friends. Without going too much into it, I have behaved selfishly before and only later did it hit me (hard) how I must have hurt people with my behaviour which was done in the pursuit of my own happiness. If you can be a friend to these people despite it all, they will appreciate it.

To all those suffering sleep problems etc - a quick fix is the garnier caffeine eye roll on!! It certainly makes your eyes feel better if nothing else!! I'm lucky because I saved my sleeping meds until I really needed them so I have slept OK the last few nights.

Hope everyone has the NYE that they want to have, abstinent or not, and a fresh start all round tomorrow.

:beer: - that's a hot chocolate with extra cream and chocolate sprinkles

xx

jo1972

GP, I was about to say keep the new one and use it as a fresh start but I see we all back to normal! See if you hadnt have had so many AF days this year you might never have remembered it at all!

Squizz, enjoy your night out.

HB, enjoy your night in

Guess where I am, thats right, the laundrette!

Oh what a mover and groover I am!

Lurkio

jo1972 wrote: »

GP, I was about to say keep the new one and use it as a fresh start but I see we all back to normal! See if you hadnt have had so many AF days this year you might never have remembered it at all!

Squizz, enjoy your night out.

HB, enjoy your night in

Guess where I am, thats right, the laundrette!

Oh what a mover and groover I am!

Not quite sure how to break this to you, jo...........




























I don't think Nick Kamen is gonna show. :rotfl: :rotfl:

Dizzyduck

honeybear wrote: »

Heavens! BF turned up while I was still in my underwear...what's a girl to do?!

bearhugs
xx

At least you weren't bear naked! :rotfl:

Happy Hogmanay everyone and hope you have an enjoyable evening however you spend it!
We're off to the pub but I'm going for moderation - as with others too many poorly New Years Day! Also OH is making Steak Pie for tomorrow (traditional Scottish NYD meal!) and it's lovely! Mind you it usually so big it lasts us three days!
take care all xx

115K

So still only 5 this month. 37% AF for the year. Not terrible but it could be improved and hopefully 2010 will see that result!

Thanks for all the people that have kept score for us this year.:A (I should take my turn one month but I am a little flaky so I'm not sure it would work out. I have a day off today and I just ran myself a bath and just discovered I had put on the cold tap not the hot tap. Lots of frothy, ice cold bubbles. Dizzy!:rotfl:)

I am determined that 2010 will be a good year for me!:T

I hope everyone has a wonderful time tonight however they are spending it.:A

paybacktime2008

I won't be going out tonight. I hate New Years Eve and in fact any 'engineered' reasons to 'have fun'. Tomorrow me and DS will wake up, get in the car and head to the beach and have a walk along the sand. Money far better spent on the petrol than the booze in my opinion.

I have faltered between AFness and !!!!head during 2009 and bar my christmas day blip have been Af for over 2 months.

I wholeheartedly agree with having to change yourself. If you have always 'dealt' with the carp in life by drinking a bottle of wine then when you stop one whole lot of carp comes crashing down!!

Having to look long and hard at my life and the people in it has been one of the hardest things. Three separate families I know have been repossessed this year and I know without fail they will all be out on the !!!! tonight. What kind of lesson does that teach their kids. Mum and Dad's drinking was more important than keeping a roof over your heads. It's that kind of realisation that is tough, because not only do you have to change your own life but people in your 'past' life appear far less appealing.

So Bring On 2010 and in the words of the great 'TheThe' If you can't change yourself change your world, and if you can't change your world change yourself'

If you see a reflective looking woman, little boy and dog walking the sands tomorrow it may well be me.

Health and Happiness to all for 2010.

Marru

Great posts today!!!

Just fleeting visit as need to go and do some cooking before stuff goes off. Saves me cooking tomorrow

I have been labouring over the challenges list over last couple of days and it now looks like THIS

Back with the scores later for the penultimate time. Proper analysis tomorrow.

Pippilongstocking

Thanks for some lovely posts I can't answer you all as I just wont do you justice

Will try when normal service and internet access is resumed.

Please all of you just know how much I care for you all (bit soppy!) and how much you've changed my behaviour in 2009

2010 - I may attempt to be a bit more settled and sorted

Down at OH and a big family party tonight - not drinking and fed up getting into situations where folks are stroppy that I am not drinking, I feel like screaming deal wiht it chaps - that was the OLD me!!!

Best wishes ot you all - much lvoe and hugs!

Miss_Piggy_2

Evening all!

All getting our glad-rags on?? OH just gone out for chicken and chips for us...we live the high life:rotfl:

Fay - good to have you around, if only briefly:rotfl::rotfl:

I want to echo what Fay has said....you lot are fabulous people, without whom my life would be very different indeed. This thread has been my saviour in many ways. You really are a lovely lovely lot.

Away to my chips now! Catch up later......

Miss P
xx

40somethingmum

Best Wishes and good health for 2010 and the coming decade.;)

Thank you all for your support and friendship in 2009.

You are all fantastic:T

Love

40SM:D

Marru please update my score to 12 days . Thanks.