The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

Bismarck

graemecarter wrote: »

Why not start being AF now? Why wait?
We always put off stopping, and thus never truly start the process of stopping. You could go into Jan with a few days under your belt and confidence up. That'd be great wouldn't it?

I think the reason you feel depressed about your drinking is that while you have made great progress, you are still drinking sporadically. You want AFness, but cannot achieve it. Thus the alcoholic in you is saying "you'll never be rid of me entirely" and that is depressing.
Also, when you're not drinking you may not feel the peace and serenity you thought you'd get by not drinking.

You need to take away the desire to drink, which means
1) You no longer drink
2) You no longer feel you are missing out by not drinking

This needs a change in attitude and perception. It is not easy, and you really have to want it.
All you need for that is to be open, honest and willing. If you are willing to go to any length to get it, then it can be yours.

thanks GC.

It is still hard to put words to it.

Something I had to work really hard on was sleeping. Mrs Bis thinks I'm kidding but I was scared that I'd be unable to sleep sober.

so - why was sleeping hard...because I was stressed....why was I stressed? because I couldn't let go.

There was this thing....LET GO.

It is so weird....there's still the snapshot of me that wants to go off and do stupid stuff...but it's similar to the bit of me that wants to eat a whole cake or stay up til it's ridiculously late...or...do no work or whatever.....but I know that it doesn't end well if I do that.

And I know that if do the short term easy thing the long term pain is far worse.

When I think about mortality and my own judgement day...when I see a GP in years to come and they explain to me that bits of my body don't work because it's pay back time...will I look back and think that they were well-spent units of alcohol?

I heard once that fags cut 5 minutes off your life per fag.....say the same is true for booze? Would you look back and say that you'd give up 5 years of your life so easily....could you look anyone who cares about you and justify that choice?

Is it really all yours to make?

I get tearful when I think of the anguish that people go through on a day to day basis. So much pain and unhappiness....resentment, fear....

I was once really low and have come back from my edge. I did not die. I survived for a reason.

And having come that close I know that it's all too precious to throw away.

So, a seasonal message to all...I know it's hard...some folks can load their trolleys up with lord knows what stuff and seem to enjoy Christmas and New Year.

I will drink my coffee and sparkling fizz or whatever and know that I am being true to myself, will not have a significant domestic and achieve more in 2010 than I dreamed possible.

Take care everyone.

If anyone does want to PM me, I will be around on and off over the festive period.

Anyway, it's your life...what you do with it is up to you.

If you are able to have a couple and enjoy them, I do not begrudge it one bit. I sincerely do hope you enjoy it. If I'm the guy in the corner sipping fruit juice, rest assured that I'm enjoying myself too.


Bis

jo1972

Thank you bis, expect a PM in the morning x

shaggydoo

Morning :santa2:

15 for me Marru.




Have a great time

Good Luck

Shaggy

yellowmonkey

Morning all

Great post again Bis :T

At work today and finish at 14:30 and then off until 14:30 tomorrow :rolleyes:

Can I take this oppertunity to wish all of you and your nearest and dearest the best possible Xmas you could wish for.

I would not be wrong in saying that I regard all of you on here as me T'internet buddies and without you all I would not have achieved what I have on a personal level and will achieve in 2010

Thank you all very much from me and, especially, my family who have now got their Dad back :T

xx

honeybear_2

HB's Handy Christmas Tips

Part I - What Not To Do On Christmas Eve

• try to repair something & get Super Glue on all your fingertips

:mad::rolleyes:

honeybear_2

Bis, that was a beautiful post, thank you
xx

Bismarck

yellowmonkey wrote: »

my family who have now got their Dad back :T

xx

there are some things you just can't buy.

Happy Christmas...we all deserve it.

take care.

yellowmonkey

honeybear wrote: »

HB's Handy Christmas Tips


Part I - What Not To Do On Christmas Eve

• try to repair something & get Super Glue on all your fingertips

:mad::rolleyes:

:rotfl:You could always go burgling as you will leave no fingerprints :rotfl:

Only joking of course

yellowmonkey

Bismarck wrote: »

there are some things you just can't buy.

Happy Christmas...we all deserve it.

take care.

Thank you................

jo1972

Good god, what you all doing up so early (cept YM of course, Fronch spies have to be up really early!