The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

honeybear_2

Marru, that's 2 for me

Marru

Evening everyone.

Lots of people seem to have gone through such a lot recently. I can only second everything that has been said so far and send everyone lots of

BB - I had CBT starting last spring and continuing over the summer and it did help me a lot. However I did meet my BF at the same time so can't say which helped me more. I was so nervous as before our second date I had decided to tell him about my depression. And as it happens before our third date I made a hysterical phone call to him to say I had bailiffs at the door. He is still around and life is getting better and better. I would recommend you to read the material as well it might be helpful for both of you.

Angie - Well done!!!!

Going to go to amend the scores so back soon...

budget_babe

Hugs Honey and it has really upset me to read of your: "inner bully". I guess there is much to learn of us all? I am pleased to read that you have more of a balance now. Mr BB has very low self esteem etc and at the moment he is not very well at all.

I feel him not working has not helped him as he has had a lot of time to think and dwell on things. We have been talking alot since my Ds has gone back to London. Mr BB seems to have realised a great deal and he is promising to change. I know changing yourself is not easy, but if the desire is there then there is a greater chance to succeed.

I am trying to tell him that we have much to be grateful for, although at the moment we have to be very careful on what we spend, we do not have any debt or a mortgage. My Ds says we have no option to work this out as if we part it means that everything we have both worked so hard for will be lost.

We own our own bungalow but if we had to split the sale price it would not enable us both to buy another property without having to take out a mortgage. Subsequently we would be going back in time again.

Sorry to go on, I guess I am just working things out in my head Believe me at times it gets very crowded in there ...................

Hugs Honey and please do look after yourself.
(()) Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Edit Marru thankyou for sharing your experience, and so glad to hear your Bf is still there and supporting you. Big hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Marru

Pledged 485 had 76 AF days which is 16% in 19% of time
Come on guys, little bit behind target!!!

Most contributors towards AF days are

Changing Ways
Price is right
So Sad Angel
Marru
Mollypolly

With either 7% or 8% each

Following people have done great progress in achieving their target:

Gien 300%
Budget Babe 200%
Maman 40%
Dizzyduck 30%
Nettttie 30%

And as allways the spreadsheet is here

*Mari*

2 for me please marru

BB, sorry having a rubbish time at the moment, just wanted to send my love and positive thoughts to you xxx

Jo, what an awful experience for your daughter and the rest of your familily. Take care and I hope the police have enough to do something about it. Hope other DD is feeling better aswell.

Im absolutly hanging, have a mountain of ironing, college work and a child to pick up at 10 tonight hence declaring my second AF day already!!!

Must make a start, take care everyone...one day at a time xxx

Mari xx

honeybear_2

Well done, Mari :T

honeybear_2

Budgie, if you could hear what I say sometimes you'd want to slap me! Truly, no-one would talk to a friend like that so why I do it to myself I have no idea

Anyway, when I was suffering badly with depression my BF at the time went off & started sh*gging behind my back (both sexes, no less :rolleyes:) So you may have had a blip the other day but you're doing loads better than him!

That's probably enough insight into Bear Towers for one night. Just to reassure you all, I have tea & Maltesers right now to cheer me up (although other chocolates & non-alcoholic drinks are available :rotfl:)

bearhugs

nettttie

hi all, just a quickie

4/10 as of now! if I make it tonight it'll be 5! Am off to asda need to get a bottle of red as a thank you gift and school trousers - another ripped pair!! am feeling ok so I think I can avoid the bells, however, not that ok as I might just take a Kudzo before i go!

am going to catch up with reading when I get back.

69chick

HI all, havn't been on for a few days, but just caught up a bit...big hugs to Budgie, sorry to hear what you are going through, I really hope the CBT helps mr Budgie and you too.....Dont' be too hard on yourself for the other night, you can't turn the clock back, but hopefully you have got to that point where you can move forward now....

This time of year is soo hard on the af front, what with all the parties and family gatherings things are bound to get a bit fraught, we had a family party yesterday and as I was driving and had the kids with me as well I only had a glass or two of wine...it was weird, at the beginning I soo wanted to be joining the drinkers getting merrily drunk but by the end I was so happy to be sober and just to have a cup of tea, load the kids up and come home and put them all to bed (left dh there to carry on)..was a lovely feeling when I went to bed...


Anyways hugs to all who need them, glad to see BHB on here when I logged on too..

Can I please be added to the 72 hr challenge and also declare 2 days af please Marru.....I know thats not great but most of the non af days have been moderate so not all bad...

Pippilongstocking

skids in - BB hugs, Marru - lovey I am either on 4 or 5 to be honest I have got all confused i bought wine at the weekend and dumped most of it but I think I did have a glass -

skids out back to the really snotty review of my latest slaughter on the english launguage

Onwards - I have decided to leave my current studies - or at the very least change the PhD down to something more manageable - therefore in between the carp hitting the fan I am fending off assaults on my character with vigilence and hard work. Sorry not a big announcement rather a 'reason' for my skidding in and out again, in the manner of a hokey cokey which is the wrong thread for (small things thread has hokey cokeys).

The only thing keeping me going aside kids, OH and strong coffee is you lot!

For that I thank you

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skids out.xxx

ps angie well done