The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

yellowmonkey

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I know. Its very hard though and I'm not the best at sticking to something. But I will do it.

I will come with you

graemecarter

mollypolly wrote: »

Sorry...Maybe 'Blame' is the wrong word but his illness is the REASON that BB is under so much pressure and I am sure that he realises this which is why he is being so good about her 'incident' the other night.

So as I said maybe counselling would help BOTH of them to cope better......Him with his depression....Her with her drinking and both of them with their relationship.

Mollypollyxxxx

I couldn't agree more.
The illness of depression is a very difficult thing for families to deal with.
I'd hate to feel anyone with depression (or any other mental illness) is to blame in any way

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I know. Its very hard though and I'm not the best at sticking to something. But I will do it.

Good luck - you have our support and best wishes.
Just do 24 hrs only. Forget about staying AF on Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, etc - deal with that when they arrive. Just stay dry on Monday 7th December.

jo1972

yellowmonkey wrote: »

I will come with you

And me!! :j:j:j

budget_babe

Hi Guys,

Thankyou for the support and MollyPolly and Gc for your posts. :A

I am feeling very flat at the moment and I have realised something very important:

When you are feeling very, very low and then you drink alcohol to excess it is like lighting the touch paper to a bomb. So the answer is very simple do not drink the fuel and do not light the touch paper.

I am off this week, which as it turns out is definitely for the better.

I have had more stress with wtc but I won't go there, I now have to write another letter of complaint. I was so incensed before that I wrote 3 A4 Sheets of paper and believe me I did not hold back.

Also as Mr BB has a sick note he now has to sign off Jsa and onto Esa which means another 40min interview over the phone which I shall have to do as he is not well enough. And all this for his stamp as they pay him no benefit as I work ...............

To top it all my father is unwell and we have had to get the doctor out, who has given him a perscription and says to call if he gets any worse. He can't stand up is dizzy and has no balance.

Mr BB keeps bursting into tears and keeps saying how sorry he is. He has his first cbt session on Wednesday has anyone else got any experience of this?

Sorry for yet another depressing post.

On a brighter note: Bhb nice to see you back matey :T, hugs to everyone who is trying to climb this mountain. Ym hugs to you mate and to Miss P. (()) xxxxxxxxxx

Jo sweetheart what an absolute nightmare and I am so sorry to hear of all your problems. I hope both DD's are ok and please do take care of yourself. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Shaggy sweetheart I keep meaning to say how wonderful it is to have a lovely pic each day, I do so look forward to them and they brighten all of our days :T (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ok better go now as I have much to do.

I am feeling sad and reflective but no alcohol for me so that is 2 af days please Marru with many more to come. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Gc I wish I could bottle what you have matey, you always seem so inciteful and very in control. You have found the secret to your own success I just wish we could all find ours?

Maybe one day in the future that is still yet to be ?

God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

graemecarter

budget_babe wrote: »

Gc I wish I could bottle what you have matey, you always seem so inciteful and very in control. You have found the secret to your own success I just wish we could all find ours?

Lovely post BB - you are a champion of the people

I am not in control at all - in fact I realise I am not the master of my universe, and that something else is in control, and that makes me much happier. The more I try and control things the more they screw up. When I hand that control over, then life gets better.
There is no secret - I just do what is suggested to me to do by other people that have been through it.
Honesty, Openness, and Willingness is all you need.

honeybear_2

:T to all 72hr'ers for getting this far

Budgie, CBT helped me so hope it works for Mr BB

budget_babe

graemecarter wrote: »

Lovely post BB - you are a champion of the people

I am not in control at all - in fact I realise I am not the master of my universe, and that something else is in control, and that makes me much happier. The more I try and control things the more they screw up. When I hand that control over, then life gets better.
There is no secret - I just do what is suggested to me to do by other people that have been through it.
Honesty, Openness, and Willingness is all you need.

Hi Graeme, (sp)

Thankyou and I am re-reading your words, I will get there I promise. Hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

honeybear wrote: »

:T to all 72hr'ers for getting this far

Budgie, CBT helped me so hope it works for Mr BB

Hi Honey,

Thanks for that sweetheart, do you mind me asking how many sessions did you have to undergo? Mr BB is having his on the Nhs did you or were you private?

Oh and can you stick me down for the 72 hr challenge please as I really do not intend to drink.

I am still feeling a very ashamed Budgie

Hugs Honey and take care (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Btw sorry I have been meaning to say welcome to our new members, Good luck (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yellowmonkey

for the first time this month "1 for me please Marru"

honeybear_2

I can only remember the first one, which is odd

It was on the NHS & I think I had about 6. Mine was in conjunction with some tablets (again, don't recall other than they weren't Prozac) & I was off work for a couple of months then did a phased return so I gradually increased my hours.

I'd already bought a book on CBT so had got some reading under my belt to help me. I'd sent it to you but it's already gone to help someone else!

I still suffer with a hell of a lot of negative thoughts (have a terrible inner bully, for anyone not familiar with the phrase it means I say nasty things to myself inside my head a lot ) but at least I'm a lot more aware & do good stuff to help me keep a balance

I'll post a 72hr list in a bit & add you on

hugs, sweetie