The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

barshamhillbilly

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Hi Bhb nice to hear from you again. Was going to post a picture of a toenail being removed but thought better of it Thought of when you mentioned District Nurse

Hi YM

- I took photos :eek::rotfl:..... its not pleasant :rotfl:

Nurse Gladys will be here shortly to sort me out :D

mollypolly

Hiya BHB:santa2:

Glad to have you back....we missed you.
Have exchanged the whip for xmas time only.....;)
Love Mollypollyxxxx

graemecarter

jeffgeorge wrote: »

Hi all!!

Honey bear are you starting your 72 hour challenge today? God that sounds nothing much less then 3 days huh!

Count me in though if todayor tommrrow!

You are all so lovely.

Not read back through all the posts but have people tried Campral and antabuse etc? I have tried everything looking for that solution but the only thing that works is staying away from that first drink one day at a time. (until my head goes mad and I pick up).

I have tried toprimate as well which has rave reveiws in USA but didnt affect me. Was thinking of trying sinclair method. But past experience shows bit pointless as I suppose its like taking appetite suppresants when on weight watchers.

Sober and loving thoughts to you all

xx


Ps Don't count the days Make the days count!!!

That's what works for me. I know if I had meds to take to stop me wanting to drink/make me feel sick when drinking/etc I wouldn't take the meds.
I changed myself, so I no longer WANT alcohol. That works for me so far, one day at a time

graemecarter

budget_babe wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Thankyou for the kind messages :A

I am afraid I have actually screwed up bigtime.

Basically my Ds has been home this weekend to see us, as you all know Mr BB is not well. To cut a long story short I am afraid I got very drunk last night and said some very hurtful things.

Of course I did not mean them, and I know that is no excuse. But I think it was just all the pressure that has finally got to me and I just got totally totally flipped.

Needless to say my Ds is far from impressed and is very angry with me.

I did apologise this morning and Mr BB in fairness has been wonderful over the whole thing. My Ds though is not.

So here I am feeling very :o and very upset.

So today I am full of regrets and feeling very ashamed.

I also know if I had not had that first drink then I would not have gotten drunk. I have been feeling so stressed and so very unhappy, I am not trying to justify myself, I know I have behaved very badly.

So this will be my first af day Marru please and sorry again.

Hugs and God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxx

Turning to alcohol when pressured and stressed is what we know. It is old behaviour.
There are other ways to cope with situations like this, it is just that it takes us a long time to figure out what they are. Alcohol seems 'easier' but it is nothing of the sort

graemecarter

mollypolly wrote: »

Aww BB.....Hugs and calming thoughts are coming your way.
Please don't be too hard on yourself.....sometimes something has just got to give and with all the pressure you have been put under it is no wonder that once you had one drink you couldn't stop.

I dont know how you can deal with DS anger apart from apologising again and explaining to him how you are feeling about the whole situation.

I am glad Mr BB is being understanding to a point but he is partly to blame for this and even though he is depressed he must see that you are not coping well (hence being understanding today).

Maybe you both need to see a doctor or maybe some counselling.
A few years ago I was very depressed and our marriage was on the rocks...but we decided it was worth trying to save it and went to relate together and seperately.It really was wonderful to talk to someone who was not involved, about our feelings for everything, and it really helped.

Waffling on a bit I know....sorry:o...really wish I could help.
One day at a time my dear.
Thinking of you.

Take care of you.
Love Mollypollyxxxx

I don't think I would say he is to 'blame'. He is depressed. That is an illness. If he had cancer I don't think we would be saying he is to 'blame'. And I wouldn't say that with depression. There is only one person who pours drink down our throats. That is ourselves.
BB is a star, and she should not feel bad about herself. Coping strategies for life need to be learnt when we stop drinking

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Morning all!

Firstly:

Angie - well done you!!!:j:j:jThats such a fantastic achievement and you are a real inspiration to the rest of us.

Jo - What a horrendous evening! I do hope your DD1 is ok today. Must have been awful for her. Hope they lock the ex up. Also hope DD2 is feeling better today? Lots of ((hugs))

YM - Well done you on making the big decision to give up. I'll be tagging along. You know we are all here to support you along the way.

Budgie - More big ((hugs)) today.Hope you are ok.


I'm going to be joining YM today I think. Last night wasn't a good night for me either. Piglet was disobedient all day and I was quite frazzled. I managed to work my way through nearly two bottles of wine. Then I had a bath and, on getting out, didn't step on the mat like I should have done, stepped on the laminate and slipped. Wasn't pretty. Lots of bruises this morning. OH trying to assure me that anyone could have done it, that it wasn't because I was drunk. But I know it WAS because I was drunk.

SO.....here I go again. Because it really shook me up. I like to fool myself I can do the moderation thing but I just don't think I can. I just drink until I go to sleep. How many times have I said and dones this before? I feel like a broken record. But I have to keep trying because if I don't, god knows how I'll end up.

Sorry for the long rambling one guys! :rolleyes:

Miss P
xx

Then try something different. Why keep trying a method that doesn't work for you??

graemecarter

jeffgeorge wrote: »

Hey all,

Not sure what my aims are about alcohol. AA has drummed it into me that I can't moderate so I havent even gave that a thought. In six weeks I have had 6 days where I have drank. I would love to just have a couple of drinking days. But not sure. Alcohol is not the answer for me it just makes things worse.

Then maybe abstention is the answer

Miss_Piggy_2

graemecarter wrote: »

Then try something different. Why keep trying a method that doesn't work for you??

I can see where you're coming from GC, but what other option is there. As far as I can see there's three options:

a) carry on drinking at present levels
b) Drink moderately
c) Stop drinking

I know I need to try option C. Surely theres only one WAY to do that thats just to stop?

graemecarter

squizz wrote: »

Hello all, and welcome jeffgeorge

I'm having a very lazy day - didn't get out of bed until 3pm - was out last night but not too too drunk, i.e. I got home with all my things and no injuries (how sad that is progress!) but still should not have spent as much as I did so slightly guilty feelings nonetheless. I managed to keep in my head that I did not want to lose sight of my friend or my handbag, or get picked up by some loser and it seemed to have worked...

I am really living on the edge of losing my flat if I don't stop wasting money like this! Anyway I have no plans until Tuesday night so that will be three days off drink at least. Tuesday night is a client entertainment thing in a restaurant near my house, my best mate and colleague is going and he has already asked for soft drinks and beer only (we are both troublesome drinkers who disgraced ourselves at last year's evening with this firm!) :whistle:

I don't think it is possible for some of us to cut down, it has to be all or nothing. I think I fall in that camp anyway. I went to my GP for help a couple of months ago, and they sent me to a specialist hospital in London who said that I am not a chronic alcoholic so they couldn't help me. They sent me on to another clinic and I got a call from a lady there who said I would come in for an assessment and check up with a GP including liver tests, then the following week I would be given detox meds daily to break the habit. I was nervous but geared myself up for it and saw it as a real chance to sort myself out. I had told my Mum which was hard and was all ready to talk to my boss and explain why I would be late every day for a week :eek:

Unfortunately when I went for the assessment I just saw this guy, not a GP, who reckoned I could cut back and didn't need medication. I insisted that I needed help now before I end up in hospital, mugged, losing my job, losing my flat etc but he thought I could manage by just trying not to drink. I didn't need to be travelling across London every week at the expense of my job just for that. I am seeing my normal GP on Tuesday and I am going to tell her how disappointed I was. I do need a kick to do this and the support on here is invaluable. I am a long-term depressive too and I know that antidepressants do not work if you continue to drink, and also that it causes me to get confused and reckless when I am proper drunk. It is also costing money that I just don't have and so I must turn things around soon...

Eeek that was an essay, sorry folks!!

Anyway have a lovely evening all and enjoy the rest of your weekend

x

Great, honest post.
Alcohol seems to be costing you a great deal. It sounds like you are standing on the cliff edge, and will very possibly fall off if you don't do something immediately.
It sounds like alcoholic drinking to me - so tell the Dr everything you have told us, and demand you get treated immediately. This is very serious stuff.

graemecarter

gien wrote: »

Jo, beating this battle with alcohol is the most important thing you will do , if not in your life, certainly this week, month, year. you have done so well to do month free from booze that you need to put in place crisis management procedures to make you not take that first drink. Even if you blow out your friend and sit at home with your mouth duct taped shut if it means you don't drink then it will be worth it (may get a few comments from the family tho!).

you can do it because ultimately you are bigger than the booze.

Quite right Gien. Great post.
The consequences of our drinking get worse over time if left unchecked.
Tangochick's dead husband, squizz standing on the precipice of losing home, job, etc, BB's outburst she bitterly regrets.
This is why stopping drinking must be the number one priority. It need not be the biggest thing in your life, but it has to be the most important.