MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. What's the price of romance?

matchmade

Explain the situation and say he's happy to pay if she still wants the birthday-in-Paris thing, but also that if she thinks it's too expensive, why not go later in the year and he'll put the saved money towards something nice in the UK for her birthday? That way she still gets to go to Paris and he gets to look like a hero rather than a cheapskate because they get two romantic trips rather than one out of the deal.

pinball13

Maybe he could take her somewhere else and call it a 'surprise'?
That would be dishonest though, he's got the money so he should keep his promise, simple.

kasely

Of course he should take her. He shouldn't have offered to take her without checking the cost first if that was important to him. He's promised her & he can afford it. How is she gonna feel if he says 'Sorry but your only worth the £59 ticket'!!!
Should have thought it through before opening his mouth. typical male!!!

Abs99

A promise is exactly that, unless he wants to appear both cheap and fickle then he should step up, cough up, and do it with good grace. A whiner is not attractive to anyone! Maybe next time he will think before he blurts out his next mad scheme to win brownie points! Man up - stick to your word!

tallgirld

He sounds like a right tight ***. Just pay the fare and go and enjoy yourself. I bet he dumps her a week before her birthday just to avoid paying out £300!!

dave2

I think it's going to depend on the relationship, some couples certainly would not want to go if their partner would be paying a lot while others would understand... but still be disappointed.

Personally I'd be paying up and absolutely not mentioning it, a promise is a promise and that goes double when it's to someone you care for. Bringing up the money would take the edge off the trip for her - if you like you can think about it as what you're paying for is the experience so that would mean even less value for money! Especially if I'd made the promise ages ago and my laziness has meant I've missed the deals.

Of course we're really looking at the principle here and TBH £300 seems worth it anyway. So OK if it was £3,000 or something then "sorry love it's all booked up, lets arrange another date and i'll book it right now" (and I've have a quick look at the first class tickets).

Unless she was really hot...

libra10

Even though the holiday is going to cost Edward much more than he expected, he should still take Bella away.

He should also make sure he receives Martin's weekly newsletter, and keep up to speed with deals.

RagingDragon

Yep take her a promise is a promise

my_definition

RagingDragon wrote: »

Yep take her a promise is a promise

totally agree he should have checked the price before. you know what they say abbout people who assume...

jamesBFJ

Should Edward take Bella to Paris?

There are some key questions to help address this issue:

Firstly, how long have Bella and Edward been engaged in a physical relationship?
If this is less than 3 months, international travel is completely out of the question. It is recommended by experts that couples do not take part in any international travel within the first 3 months. This ensures that two relative strangers are not left in a strange city with only each other for company.... We all know that women can seem quite reasonable, but once out of their "natural environment", their behaviour can change radically.

Secondly, is Bella happy to pay a contribution towards the cost of the trip (amount at Edward's discretion, but I would suggest 30-40 percent)?
If the answer is NO, then (I'm sorry to say) that it appears that Bella is taking young Edward for a ride.

Thirdly, did Edward make said promise in drunken glee, and/or in a state of post-coital bliss?
If YES, then the context of the original act of promising means that promise is fundamentally flawed, this negates the need for Edward to come good on his promises (but he really should know better).

Fourthly, will Peter Andre be in Paris during that weekend?
If the answer to this is YES, then Edward should go alone to Paris, and meet Peter, he is a lovely man who has had a very nasty time recently. If the answer to questions 2 is No, then Peter and Edward should spend the weekend in Paris, celebrating that they are free of two horrible women.