MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. What's the price of romance?

notjustlaura

I think he should postpone the trip until he can get the cheaper fare.

pineapple

As someone said, there is a difference between having the money and being able to afford it.
If the trip means his electricity bill/whatever goes unpaid, he should come clean.
But if he can actually afford it, yes he should stump up.
Either that or he should start practicing the following speech (perhaps combined with a ducking manouvre):
'Well yes I know you are all excited, but I was expecting it to be a cheapy and now I have to pay full price so it's off'.

Mumsie

Is Edward in this relationship for the long term? If he is, then I suggest he discusses it with Bella and they come to a joint decision.

Gavin83

yorkshireman99 wrote: »

I certainly wouldn't ask her to fly instead. By taking a cheap flight with one of the tin-pot no-frills carriers it certainly would make him look like a cheap-skate.

If I took my girlfriend to Paris for her birthday, something she'd wanted to do for ages and she complained we flew there, our relationship would be over pretty quickly! Seriously, how ungrateful and spoilt would that look if you complained about the flight?

I really don't see the difference anyway, I'd rather fly than catch the Eurostar.

pennypinchUK

So he makes a rash promise to a woman. Worse, he makes a rash promise to a woman to do something romantic that she's always wanted. Then he finds it's going to cost him more than he thought. And he thinks he can wriggle out of it? Ooh, good luck mate! My money's on you having to fork out whether you want to or not.....

Bet he doesn't make that mistake again!

au_contraire

It is TOTALLY all the men who are saying 'don't go, if she loves you she'll understand'!! If he's made a promise then money shouldn't stand in the way of love!
If he told her he wasn't willing to pay, she probably would be fine and understanding about it BUT will be secretly resentful to him forever more which he won't pick up on until she throws it back in his face a couple of months down the line; "WELL YOU NEVER TOOK ME TO PARIS BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO TIGHT" and so on and so forth!!!:p

aliasojo

Oh this is creepy....my son is doing exactly this as a surprise for his girlfriend soon for her birthday as she's never been to Paris and has always wanted to go. I'll send him a link to this thread and tell him not to be a cheapskate.

superfran_uk

Yes he should take her.

When I was a kid and my parents were taking me somehwere special, say Thorpe Park, we wouldn't be told until we were there - that way if the car breaks down, it's closed, the queues are too big, it's too expensive, you don't have whinging children to contend with. Same applies here.

A promise is a promise - he should have done his reseach before. Besides by all accounts £300 won't be much in comparison to the hotel/spending money even if it's only a weekend.

brokeinwales

I know if I'd promised someone somehting like this (not that I would, for this very reason...) I'd feel obliged to keep the promise even if it did cost more. Letitng someone down like that is awful.

Having said that, I might look to see if there were any alternative dates where I might get a better deal and see if I could take her later in the year - I think most people would understand (even be impressed) if they still got what was promised, just on a better deal. Besides - if he waits for a better deal he'll have more money to spoil her when they're there!

tizhimi

I have had this happen to me.

I refused point blank to go on the expensive flights and said I'd rather go at 5am and get a cheaper flight and him spend this difference on me! :rolleyes: It was sooo much more fun than knowing that he'd spend X amount of money to get us there for lunch time, instead we had a French breakfast when we arrived. In the end he ended up spending a lot less (he was happy) and I felt like I hadn't been a massive burden on his wallet. It actually felt good to save the money rather than go at a sociable hour, afterall, more time in good old Paris.:beer:

Daft as it seems it was all the better for being an el-cheapo trip away, I thought that was more romantic 'cos he didn't have to spend an arm and a leg.

In the end, I'm marrying the poor sod so I have plenty of time to be a burden upon his bank balance :A