Husband wants bike we just cant afford!

Wkdwill

minnie123 wrote: »

I'm assuming the OP has no bike licence so she would have to pay for lessons, the theory and practical test for a bike. She would also have to buy protective gear and a helmet which are not cheap - Also she may not want to ride a bike.

A bike can not transport two children either.

OP your husband is unbelievably selfish - the money thing aside bikes are quite a selfish hobby - he will be goin out on the bike instead of spending time with his kids - he should be at home helping you with a 2 week old and looking for a job. He needs to grow up.

No I dont, I have no intentions of ever getting on a motorbike, my dad had one when I was younger and was knocked off it by a taxi driver, he punctured both his lungs and a great uncle of mine died in a motorbike accident.

Whats worse is about about 5 miles away from where we live is a very popular bikers cafe, even without the bike he goes 2-3 times a month, what would he be like with a bike.

Wkdwill

No the car wouldn't sell for enough to cover the bike, besides he wants both!

Marcheline

Hi again wkdwill, if you are on benefits I can't understand how he thinks you can afford a car. My b/f is working and we still can't afford to run one, so we just don't have one.

I don't know whereabouts you live or whether you'd be remotely interested in this, but it might give you something cheap to do together that will stop him from getting bored: have you thought about joining the National Trust? I know you may well have laughed out loud there (!) at that suggestion, but we are the same ages as you and you can join on 2x junior memberships for around the £32 mark (paying by direct debit) for the year. It then gives you free entry to a whole load of houses/gardens etc and the kids will love it. It also means you can get out of the house together and do family things. It was the best £32 we ever spent!

JoeyG

How is he getting bored with kids to look after?

I can't believe some of the things I'm reading in this thread.... did you not have an inkling what he was like before you had kids with him?

tandraig

i couldnt read and run - honestly sweety - he is so selfish and immature. the idea of word with his parents is good - but i would tell them i will leave him if he carries on. if one of my DILs said this to me i would move heaven and earth to make son see reason. you do realise you have grounds for divorce if you are married? abdication of responsibilties i think it is? am not a lawyer but remember a freind gettin divorced in similar circs. hopefully - you can work it out. good luck

jenhug

Does he have ADHD by any chance?

BitterAndTwisted

I absolutely agree with the suggestion of sharing all this with his parents. Take along a list of all your debts, every single thing, and beg them not to give him any money for anything unless it's to help you cover some of your rent arrears at the very least. That a grown man would risk the roof over his baby's heads is absolutely beyond comprehension.

Open a basic bank account in your own name as suggested and arrange for all of your benefits to be paid into that, Then at least you should be able to afford to feed yourself and your children.

Please visit the debt-free wannabe section of this site and get some advice about how you can make arrangements to get some of your debts under control, even if it's only paying off some of them a pound a month.

I think you really, really need to take decisive action before the most dire consequences catch up with you.

He's going to take you all into the most terrible danger and you don't deserve it and neither do your babies.

jenhug

I doubt that a man like this will change, you need to decide if you can live your life like this? I wouldn't be prepared to.

BeenieCat

Print off this thread, and give it to him, along with your bills and other outgoings, a list of things you need (MOT, tyres, cot) and prices, and tell him to get his act together or you're offski

BitterAndTwisted

MOT? Tyres? They're not getting wage, that car has be sold and pronto, there's rent arrears to cover.

A local authority will not rehouse people who have been evicted for rent arrears: that's classed as making yourself voluntarily homeless. They'll be on the street if the arrears aren't sorted.