problem with 5 year old boy

scottishchick27

Out of curiousity (ok nosiness) why does he stay with his grandparents during the week?

moiramber

mandragora wrote: »

So why mention it, even as a possibility?

I think the OP is getting a bit of a hard time here, He was merely saying "not a punch" to fend off those who were questioning why he smacked his son, I don't think why he mentioned it should be questioned. I doubt very much if he was the sort of dad who went around punching his 5 year old would he be on a public forum asking for advice and openly admitting he smacked his son in the first place. Whether or not everyone agrees with him smacking his son or not is another matter and certainly not why the OP came here :rolleyes:

BeenieCat

jamespir wrote: »

so youre saying its perfectly ok to masturbate in public

What?! A 5 year old does not masturbate.

My 6 year old likes to have a play with his and i'm trying to get through to him that it's private, especially if he wants to show me :rolleyes:.

It's hard though, in that i don't want him to end up with a complex or think it's unnatural, but at the same time i have to tell him that i don't need to see it all the time, even though he's my son! I grew up with sis and mother and we were quite prudish and never saw each other naked, i don't want us to be like that although i was quite freaked out when my ex said his family all walk around naked at age 30.

We (me and DS) sometimes have a shower together if we're in a rush and he goes on about my 'boobies', again i try to explain that they're private parts, and it's just cos we're family that we can see each other like that!

I think you know smacking him wasn't right, but in such a public place i might have freaked a bit, more in that if any pervs were around or older 'curious' kids encouraging it. Once that was rules out i'd be ok but make it clear it's not acceptable to do it in public

Gingham_Ribbon

If he's not been told before that it's not acceptable in public, then he's not to be expected to know. Tell him that he can do what he likes in the bathroom or in bed, but his body is private and no-one else is supposed to see him doing things like that, nor should anyone else do that infront of him.

I'd also apologise for smacking him.

Gingham_Ribbon

PasturesNew wrote: »

I remember visiting my aunt/uncle years ago, we were ushered into the back/living room and my 18 year old cousin was crouched on the fire surround tugging away to himself. His family treated it as though there was nothing going on at all..... he then decided to become obsessed with sitting on the floor, at my mum's feet, just to see (and tell the room) if he thought she had knickers on or not.

At what age would a parent stop ignoring it?

That's extremely disturbing.

I think after they're potty trained, they can be expected to wait until they're alone with a gentle reminder, not a telling off.

Reggie_Rebel

jamespir wrote: »

so youre saying its perfectly ok to masturbate in public

Do you actually know how he came into this world.

Clue: Storks were not involved

eckythump

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

Do you actually know how he came into this world.

Clue: Storks were not involved

I hope you're not suggesting he was concieved in a soft play centre;)

jamespir

eckythump wrote: »

I hope you're not suggesting he was concieved in a soft play centre;)

err no it was in the cinema hee hee

gs1967

BeenieCat wrote: »

What?! A 5 year old does not masturbate.

My 6 year old likes to have a play with his and i'm trying to get through to him that it's private, especially if he wants to show me :rolleyes:.

I haven't replied to this so far, but I'd just like to comment on the above post.

I have a five year old son. And I am sure that he does masturbate, but not in public.

He has his favourite parts of films, or cartoons, usually kissing parts, that he'll keep rewinding over and over, all while fiddling with himself. He'll ask me to go away or to look at the laptop, so he knows he doesn't want to be watched. If I catch him doing it, I just tell him to stop messing about, no big deal, but he's never done it anywhere other than home.

He never wants to show me and he gets really embarrased if anyone other than mum, dad, brother, sees him with no clothes on. Usually he trys to hide behind a cushion. His older brother has never done anything like that.

So really, I think the only problem is the public part. As others have said, I wouldn't make a big deal of it, just that if that's what he wants to do he should do it in private and at home.

BeenieCat

Well, i'd be uncomfortable in the knowledge that my 5 year old was having sexual thoughts and 'masturbating' while watching kissing parts on TV tbh.

Pretty certain my 6 year old has little to no concept of sex or sexual feelings, and any fiddling he does is purely on par with picking his nose, except i know there are other nerves in the pubic region which can make touching feel nice, it's not 'sexual' and not done with the aim to climax.

Maybe my definition of 'masturbate' is different then.