why do you stay?/ would you stay?

foxy-roxy

Hmm, if he physically cheated then he would be gone, i just couldn't be the same girlfriend to him afterwards so it wouldn't work, and he also wouldn't be the same great boyfriend either.
The texting etc kind of been through it and talked it through and got over it, only on the condition that if it happens again he's gone.
Also if i cheated, i too would expect to be finished with, works both ways.
I wouldn't bother asking for forgiveness.

Bufger

I'd leave within an instance. Lifes to short to have doubt in your mind for a long time.

ameliarate

I wouldn't leave but he would!!!

My first husband cheated on me, we didn't have children. I think I would have forgiven him - I was young - but I was actually his second wife and he had done it to the first. I found it devastating and so damaging to my self esteem it took a long time to get over it.

My current partner knows this and knows I would never ever forgive him. I do trust him absolutely but in the unlikely event that he did cheat, even if it was a "one night stand when he was drunk" type thing (:rotfl::rotfl: not likely when he is drunk) there would be no second chance.

myothercarisaferrari

Bufger, you pretty much summed it up for me

tiamaria

I know it's slightly off topic but I used to know a woman whose husband not only cheated on her but abused their own daughter, she forgave him and stayed with him, she wonders why her daughter alienates her:rolleyes:

For as long as I live I can't understand her - if he was my husband he'd be lucky if he was still breathing let alone forgiven:mad:

System

I never have cheated, and i wouldn't just dump a partner who did, i'd probably kill them too. It would destroy the trust which you'd never get back.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

i could kick OH out and make his life difficult for a while . . or i can stay with him and make it hell for life (IM JOKING IM JOKING!)

andru

If you look at my post here and have a while to read all the way through it you'll see i have been decieved and lied to but that is all.Its hard to get through it but i am determined to make it work.If there had been a sexuall encounter then it would be over instantly.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1912981

myothercarisaferrari

you were one of the ones Andru who gave me thoughts about this thread....very sorry x

I think you are incredibly and i hope your selfish wife realises how lucky she is. I couldnt forgive lies, so you are braver than me

Krystaltips

I think every circumstance has to be judged on it's own merits... My ex cheated on me electronically, via email, chatrooms and text messages... He also probably physically cheated on me but I couldn't prove that... The relationship ended over his emailing my friends inappropraitely... But it was a doomed relationship at that point anyway, we might of limped on a while longer but ultimately we weren't destined to be together...

With my husband now, I absolutely adore and worship him... Couldn't imagine life without him... We have children (1 is his, 1 was mine before but he's taken her on completely and as far as they are both concerned he is her daddy too) and I trust 100% that he feels the same way as me and wouldn't cheat... But if he did, I don't know what I would do... But I don't think I would automatically end my marriage over it...