a bit shocked by teacher

pandora205

I think it's an inappropriate comment to make to a group of 6 year olds who generally have a very concrete understanding of language. A teacher working with the age group should know this and not use such phrases, even in jest.

BeenieCat

There are two kinds of parents in this world these days.

Parent one:

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent: "OMG that's a disgrace i will go down there and i will have words as that teacher is bad!"

Parent two:

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent: "Well if i find out you've been talking in class i'll do it myself!"

Guess which parent has the harder life once playground arguments begin, along with the most enemies for other parents

poet123

Or parent three:-

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent " well, of course, she was not serious, she was just making a lighthearted comment, but perhaps you should try not to talk when she is speaking, or you will get into trouble.

let your child see the joke, but reinforce the underlying message.














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Janepig

poet123 wrote: »

Or parent three:-

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent " well, of course, she was not serious, she was just making a lighthearted comment, but perhaps you should try not to talk when she is speaking, or you will get into trouble.

let your child see the joke, but reinforce the underlying message.

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Nahhh, bad mother that I am, it would be beenie's second suggestion for me!!!

Jxx

jenhug

I would be the parent that reassures the child the teacher was not serious (potentially undermining the teacher anyway, letting the child know the teacher is telling lies and doesn't mean what they say?)
But I would speak to the teacher away fromthe child and let them know I don't expect my child to be spoken to like that again.

poet123

Janepig wrote: »

Nahhh, bad mother that I am, it would be beenie's second suggestion for me!!!

Jxx

I would expect that is what most of our parents would have said, and what I would probably have said to mine, unless they were overly sensitive.

BeenieCat

Jenhug, would you not reinforce that it's even more unacceptable to talk in class?

poet123

jenhug wrote: »

I would be the parent that reassures the child the teacher was not serious (potentially undermining the teacher anyway, letting the child know the teacher is telling lies and doesn't mean what they say?)
But I would speak to the teacher away fromthe child and let them know I don't expect my child to be spoken to like that again.

So, you would not want any teacher referring to Santa, the tooth fairy et al? or is it only certain things which are to be seen as "lies" rather than conferring other, more charitable, explanations on them?

The teacher was joking, not lying, there is a subtle but very real difference, but if parents cannot see that, what hope is there for children?

berniesmaster

BeenieCat wrote: »

There are two kinds of parents in this world these days.

Parent one:

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent: "OMG that's a disgrace i will go down there and i will have words as that teacher is bad!"

Parent two:

Child: "Mum, teacher said she'll cut my tongue off for talking"
Parent: "Well if i find out you've been talking in class i'll do it myself!"

Guess which parent has the harder life once playground arguments begin, along with the most enemies for other parents

whaaat??
wow, the world really is black and white to you,
but thanks for all comments,
my child did take what was said to heart,
my attatude to parenting is "if it matters to my child, then it matters to me".

poet123

berniesmaster wrote: »

whaaat??
wow, the world really is black and white to you,
but thanks for all comments,
my child did take what was said to heart,
my attatude to parenting is "if it matters to my child, then it matters to me".[/QUOTE]

That is a really good attitude to have, but as an adult you also have to put a bit of balance into the equation. Lots of things loom large in the life of small children, you have to enable them to come to understand what is a real threat, and what is a perceived threat, what is meant and what is a joke, what is a real problem and what is being blown out of proportion.

They acquire these skills by taking their cue from you, so you need to be sure you are giving them the necessary tools to make good judgement calls, not over reacting. That is not always an easy task as emotion does cloud judgement, especially when our kids are involved.